A fun way to stop picking
Posted September 6th, 2008 by sally
ok, I have a huuuuge problem, it started 11 years ago when i was 17 after being sexually assulted, I tore up my beautiful itallian skin and had scabs taking up the entire backs of my upper arms.. I now have a growing case of OCD and im obsessed with using purell mixed with rubbing alcohal on my skin all day long. I recently had to go to rehab for smoking too much pot and it made me start picking really bad again because I have nothing to ease my OCD! Lately I found a new way to take my mind off of stress and pick without leaving emberassing marks... I've been using tweezers to pull out my leg hair.. I know it sounds kinda lame but just try it, give yourself a little baldpatch...It gives you that feeling of being in control and also gives you something to relax your mind. I also like feeling a little bit of pain, it helps me to not be so mad at myself for all the years I waisted being a looser.
On January 8th, 2009 juliepickshernails said:
I started doing this too to redirect my energies from my nails and cuticles. I'd echo that it worked just fine for awhile, but eventually once I'd picked out all of the hair from an area I'd start obsessively looking it over for any signs of renewed hair growth. Eventually, I started using tweezers to dig under the skin for hairs. I ended up with red bumpy patches everywhere, and women started giving me (unsolicited) advice to avoid my "shaving rash." I also used to squeeze the roots out of areas where I'd tweezed. Yes, it's possible, and yes it leaves a mark.
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On May 12th, 2009 Tweezer said:
This is exactly what I do. Exactly. I can't tell you how comforting it is to hear something SO familiar come from someone else. Hang in there. We are going to figure this out.
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On January 3rd, 2009 kristynscarred said:
Because I don't want you to end up with legs like mine, I wanted to warn you. Be careful about picking your leg hairs. I have been pulling out my leg hairs with tweezers for a couple years now and it started out just like you, with a smooth patch and it was so nice to be able to "pick" without causing damage. but i have since realized that pulling out hairs can leave the pores more susceptible to infection, and you can also get ingrown hairs. it may not be the same for everyone, but i became obsessed with ingrown hairs and now inspect my (horribly scarred) legs for ingrown hairs every day. i am so disgusted by myself, and i don't want you to risk ruining your own legs. maybe it's different for you, but i hope you will at least take this as a fair warning.
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On September 7th, 2008 monkeybusiness said:
I can totally relate. I developed a 30/day Vicodin habit until my family did an intervention almost four months ago. My picking is now the worst it has ever been. I don't have any productive coping mechanisms to deal with my emotions. I used to pull my hair...I started picking as an alternative to that. Brilliant, right? I used to have violent outbursts, mostly screaming, throwing things, and punching holes in the wall. I started cutting as an alternative to that. When the cutting got out of hand, I started smoking; which, sadly, is the healthiest (and I use the term loosely) habit I have right now. It got to the point where my life was spiraling out of control and smoking wasn't nearly enough. That was when I turned to pills.
There are a couple of things that have been somewhat helpful to me, but the key is you have to want them to work/help. I know it sounds stupid and senseless, but it's true. I also know that understanding things intellectually and processing them emotionally are two wholly different concepts, contrary to popular opinion. It's so much easier said then done, particularly in the mind of an obsessive-compulsive person. After all, I wouldn't be here in this forum if I knew how to translate "what I know" into "what I do". I don't know if that makes any sense, but it's the best way I can explain it.
Anywho, the two things that have been the most effective for me are:
1) Handheld games:
It doesn't have to be fancy or expensive. I have tried several over the years. For me, Solitaire has worked the best. For some reason my brain processes Solitaire the same way it processes picking/pulling, or at least pretty close. Sudoku has also been somewhat helpful, but I have to moderate myself or I get too obsessed. I've tried the "game show" games, but they don't seem to have the same effect. Tetris was probably the worst. I absolutely love it, but it is way too intense, and it only increased my anxiety.
2) Acrylic nails:
I have used acrylic nails on and off. Cost is usually the downfall. Try to find someone you are comfortable with and you trust to do quality work. Don't be afraid to tell them what you want. The girl I go to knows (and understands) my nails have to be thick. If they are thin enough that you can still pick, it defeats the whole purpose.
Let me be clear, though: acrylic nails do not and will not stop you from picking, no matter how thick they are.
We all know: "Where there's a will, there's a way". But it isn't a complete waste of time or money, and here's why: You can still pick, but with the thickness of the nails, you can't get the same result emotionally. You will probably keep trying, but most of the time you will just end up with bruises. After awhile, you will notice a significant decrease in your desire to pick. It's like retraining your brain by creating a situation where the behavior no longer produces the desired emotional benefits. The action is no longer cost-effective for the mind.
Keep in mind, this is only what I've experienced. It may not work the same way for everyone else. This isn't a cure, it's a tool. This is also not a "quick fix", it's a process. It takes time and patience, but it's worth it.
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On May 26th, 2009 icantstopeither said:
cool, i hadn't noticed the connection between the hand held games but i use them too. my favorites are poker and soduku. that soduku can be as addicting as picking but at least my face looks better! thanks for the tip
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