Please teach me how to help my 12 year old son.
Posted June 27th, 2011 by Bensmom
Hello - i'm hoping you can give me some advice on how to help my 12 year old son. A bit of history - Ben is super smart and has always been slightly sensory sensitive if that makes sense? He has learned to cope with many of his quirks but is still an anxious kid who won't talk about his anxiety. The picking started with mosquitoes several years ago. He gets bitten like crazy and we live in an area of Ontario Canada that is mosquito heaven so there is no escaping them, even with high deet bug spray. During the winter his scabs get much better but he still always has a t least a couple that he works on regularly. Right now things are the worst they have ever been. he has literally dozens and dozens of open wounds on his arms and legs. We are doing the best we can to keep them clean, we polysporin and bandaid them ever night but he won't wear the bandaids to school. I'm curious as to why he thinks the bandaids are more embarrassing than the scabs? He generally doesn't seem to be embarrassed by the scabs most of the time unless someone calls attention to them - he seems comfortable in shorts and t-shirts. We make sure he cuts his nails regularly too. He has an amazing immune system and I think that's the only thing that has saved him from major infection but they are very often sore and red and somewhat swollen and it scares the hell out of me. I have a history of depression and was a nail biter for my entire life up until 10 years ago which now that I think about it is when i began taking the antidepressants I will probably be on for the rest of my life. Several members of my immediate and extended family have also dealt with anxiety depression and alcoholism. What can I do to help Ben? This past weekend my husbands father made a deal with him that if all his scabs were gone by the end of july that he would give him $100 and Ben was so excited and very optomistic that he could do it (he wants an ipod!) and he did very well for 2 days but we are now right back to square one again if not worse than ever. I would very much appreciate any advice you could give us. I dread the beginnin of puberty so much as both my husband's father and brother had severe acne as teens and I am terrified of Ben having to deal with acne on top of mosquito bites!