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alienem , 11 Dec 2013

How do you deal with an unsupporting partner?

Hello. I have never posted here before. I have never felt the need to talk to anybody about this or really even knew other people suffered from it. I have picked at myself badly since i was a small child. Sometimes its not so bad but lately it is. My partner hates that i do this constantly. It is understandable but at the same time i feel like he dosnt need to tell me i am gross and gives me dirty looks etc. I feel embarrassed enough as it. I feel like he thinks im just doing it because i want to and not because i need to. I have tried talking to him about why i do it and how i dont even realise im doing it most of the time. I feel very alone and hurt when he does it. I dont know if i am being unrealistic in hoping one day someone could help you instead of judge you?
6 Answers
ret16
December 14, 2013
Hi there. I'm sorry you have to go through this. I don't know if I can offer any advice, but I thought I would share my situation with you so you know you're not alone. I live with my boyfriend and we have been together for 7 years. He doesn't know about my picking. I tend to only really do it when he's not home which is often because he works at night and on the weekends. I am embarrassed to tell him about it. I think he would have the same reaction as your significant other. He would probably tell me just to stop and that it's a gross habit. I know the feeling of you not being able to just stop. Just know that you are not alone in this. I know how much it hurts.
penny21
December 16, 2013

In reply to by ret16

As embarasing as it is send your partner some information from the internet describing dermatillomainia because alot of people missjudge it and think you can just stop like that. They don't realise it is an actuall condition. I done this by text so I didn't have to face him invade he thought I was weird. It was to embarrassing to do in person. Hope this helps x
CindyR
December 16, 2013
CindyR Luckily my husband is supportive. He gets it. You need to give him some information show him this site. Nagging and berating you will only make this worse.
CindyR
December 16, 2013
CindyR Luckily my husband is supportive. He gets it. You need to give him some information show him this site. Nagging and berating you will only make this worse.
CindyR
December 16, 2013
CindyR Luckily my husband is supportive. He gets it. You need to give him some information show him this site. Nagging and berating you will only make this worse.
ri4821
July 24, 2014
Explain to him that you aren't intentionally being gross, it's actually a condition that can be extremely embarrassing and difficult to live with. Ask him to be supportive and treat you with kindness and respect, which are more likely to give you strength to stop. If he is a jerk, he's not worth your time. There are men out there who are compassionate and won't judge you for it. I have met some of them! You deserve respect and love, remember that!

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