how to heal open wounds

Hi, first I want to say thankyou to everyone for sharing, my heart goes out to you and I send you love. I started picking 15 years ago and the last five years stripping skin off my face with tweezers thinking I could fix the scab or get the hair I see.I have severe to me scarring, 13 open nickle size wounds on my face and have searched and tried erverything to heal them which I only seem to blister or scab.It has stopped my life,not wanting to go anywhere or even see my family.I have stopped using tweezers and feel very strong that I can stop the picking.Does anyone have advice on what products to use prescriptin or ovc,keep things moist or not,bandades?,or share that your skin actually healed and how long.I feel like I look like a monster , I'm scared,I'm so ashamed.I thankyou so much for being so kind to help.

I have had this disorder since I was a teen. I am 44 now and still have it, but have finally opened up to my doctor about and and am getting great help. Here's what we are doing: 1. I take Naltrexone, 100 mg. this is an anti-self mutilating drug which prohibits the stress-relieving affects of picking/self harm. I have noticed I don't pick as long on it and don't take it to the extreme as I always have. 2. When I get a blemish, or feel one starting underground I puncture a liquid Advil and apply the liquid to it. It reduces the swelling and pain, which makes me want to pick it. This helps me not fixate on it as much. 3. I make a facial mask from Tocotrienols Rice Bran Solubles for open wounds and also when my face is ok. This is a most potent form of vitamin E and very high in antioxidants that deep cleans dirt and bacteria and helps skin heal faster. It's natural and non drying and also perfect for sensitive skin. It has helped my scars diminish in appearance and actually makes my skin look younger and fresher. It's great for preventing skin cancer and has a lot of other benefits too, so I put it in a smoothie everyday also. Tocotrienols can come in gelcaps, like regular vitamin E, but DO NOT put it on your skin like this!! It's too potent and will burn/chap your skin. The soluable product is much better. I mix 1 tablespoons with purified water, mix it into a paste a smear it on my skin and keep it there for 15-30 mins. You can find the soluable form here: https://www.sunfood.com/rewardsref/index/refer/id/159996/ use my referral email: brhatt09@gmail so I can get a small discount- so appreciated!! It's a little pricey, but goes a long way and wow! The results are noticeable! 4. I took out 2 of my 3 bathroom light lighbulbs so it's darker and I don't notice every spot. I only use a tiny makeup mirror for applying makeup in my kitchen with full light and I have no other mirrors in the house. 5. Lastly, I sometimes put band aids on all my fingertips because when I touch my face (constantly) I can't feel bumps and pimples, which leads me to the mirror to see and always starts a picking session. It works better than gloves for me, which are too easy to take off. Hope these help! God Bless my friends
Hello everyone. I really need help for my father. He's now 83. Years ago (I'm talking years), he ended up with some type of scab on his forehead. He kept picking at it and it grew and got worse. Now, we're talking a wound with a bad, big, dark and light, and crusty scar ringing it, altogether about the size of a mandarin orange. He wears a wide, cloth bandaid over it. It smells bad. He won't go to see anyone. I've asked for medical intervention, but they won't... because he's an adult and he has the right to refuse treatment. This is not something that started with an obsession about picking. But he won't treat it and of course it gets worse. It bleeds. I discover him bleeding in Walmart... I must change his bed sheets, etc. at least twice, three times a week because of staining. I discover blood all over the house because he doesn't see it sometimes (he's 83). Because he's getting weaker with age, he mostly sits on the couch and watches TV. So now, the couch smells like his wound. I went through the period of being disgusted, trying not to be disgusted, ignoring. He's my dad, and I guess he has the right to do as he wishes, even if it means that our whole house is affected. I've given up on convincing him to see a medical professional. But I'd like to know if there's something I can do to at least lessen the wound (and therefore, its effects).
Wow that's a really tough situation. You could check into home health which does wound care. Sometimes physical therapy can do wound care too. It is not a sanitary situation to have blood all over the house. If he doesn't get it treated medically it is likely to get worse. Tell him he has to have a doctor look at it and get the right medicine and supplies to allow it to heal. You'd have to make the call whether it's appropriate to call adult protective services, or the health department, who can get social workers involved to help out with the situation. Try to come from the angle you care about him and what the best quality of life for him, and the way things are going it's only going to get worse. If you get sick from living in that environment, you won't be able to take care of him. It's too much unnecessary work to change his sheets so often. Maybe he would even qualify for a skilled nursing facility who could assist him temporarily until it heals. For wound healing, a daily multivitamin, Vitamin C, and Zinc Sulfate are helpful when taken by mouth. Enough protein and calories are also important. And most importantly...stop picking at it. He could wear gloves at home perhaps in order to stop picking at it. I hope he can see the value in going to a doctor and that you can enjoy your time with him instead of ignore it!
Thank you for responding. I have tried so many times to convince him any way I can think of to seek medical help... or to even let me bring someone into the home so that he wouldn't have to leave his environment. I have even tried manipulation. He's a real dog lover and we have two. Nothing. I tried telling him that he was scaring the dogs... that they would have a hard time if he was gone... or removed from the home. He likes our Sunday morning excursions to Walmart. I tried telling him that soon, Walmart won't let him in the door because he will be too scary looking. His response? "I'll wear a hat that covers it" And he does! While my original post stated that this didn't start from a compulsion, I believe it continues because of a psychological condition. I believe my dad wants to hasten his death and he's looking to be passive in the face of an external force that would make that happen. I say this because when my brother confronted him and wouldn't end the conversation, my father blurted out that he didn't deserve to get better! This is going to sound crazy, but I even considered going back to school to become a nurse (I'm an advertising copywriter... other end of the spectrum!) so that home help could come from me! My rationale was that he's lived with this for THIS long maybe he could last until I become a medical professional. Obviously that last was not realistic. I'm just venting now. Sorry. I'm waiting for the moment he loses consciousness. That's when I'll call 911 and the matter will be taken out of his hands. But I can't believe I'm in the position where I'm hoping my dad gets that sick! Can you believe it? About a week ago, he got very dizzy and fell to the floor. My first thought was, of course, OMG... go help! My second was... is this my chance? But he didn't faint. He just fell. Thank Goodness he didn't hit anything on the way down.
Hmmm...yeah it's too sticky to be a doctor for your own family. Even doctors need a doctor besides themselves. You are too close emotionally. He may refuse it, but you might consider calling Senior Protective Services in your area just to have them come to the house and evaluate. If they need to take additional means they will and it won't be your doing. It sounds like you really want something to change, and if he had the whole health team with a counselor, wound care, physician, and a daughter who doesn't resent the situation, he has much better chances of enjoying his last years. Will keep this in prayer!
Thank you, I'll try that. It can't hurt to at least contact them. Where I am, I'm not sure if we have that exactly. But there must be something comparable (I'm in Montreal). But again, I really appreciate the response and suggestions. I'll check once more what kind of services are available to me.
hi im so glad i found this site.i have been picking since i was 13 after something horrible happened to me this was what i would do to gwt my mind off of it now im 24 and i am still picking.i pick what i think is a blackhead several times then when its a scab i pivk that constantly then it turns into a crater and i pick that then it becomes a cm deep hole an i pick and pull the stuff out of that which im assuming is whote scar tissue then its a cm hole deep and wide and always got puss coming out of it now i have huge dark purple scars all over my body and have a huge hole under my arm that wont heal and is always bleeding and has puss and i dont know what to do or how to heal it i worry im gping to give myself blood poisoning from this or it is infected and gwt real sick from it mt wont close as it is too big now but my partner says you can use super gluw to shut it and it will eventually heal and close and ive tried this but i pick the glue out once its dried and it is gross i know but it really smells now bad i jist need help im sick of doing this to myself it depresses me that my body looks like this
Go to the hospital. Now. What you're describing sounds like it needs medical attention from a professional. I know you may be ashamed but explain to the physician that you have a legitimate disorder, and they will understand do the best to help you. I also recommend bringing someone you trust who knows your condition for support. I'll be praying for you.
I am so happy to have found this site. I've had psoriasis for about 18 months, give or take, but I didn't see my doctor about it until it had broken out on my arms. It started with a large sore on my right shin that got bigger and creepier all the time, but when it got to my arms I had to find out what was wrong with me and I was terrified. I thought the big sore on my leg was cellulitis. He hadn't seen that either. I was sent to see a dermatologist who did a biopsy & confirmed it to be plaque psoriasis. Humira is often recommended, but I was already using it for my arthritis, a rare type that's an autoimmune disease and it carries along a host of other diseases. Some of them are Crohn's disease, iritis, psoriasis, ulcers, etc. The big, ugly thing on my him he said was no big deal, the skin under it was healthy. It was covered by what appeared to be big, broken scabs that looked like a mosaic. Only ugly. Within a couple of days I had all of that off& was left with brand new looking thin, red skin. The other psoriasis sites are gone now, but that thing on my leg weeps. When it becomes dry I start peeling that crusty looked dried skin off, and then it weeps where I pulled off the crusty skin that's basically ready to come off. I've been doing this for over a year and it is ruining my posture as well as my disposition and my leg. I think my biggest probe list that now it's not just a habit, it's become more like an obsession, and I just want to find a way to stop the weeping. I've used vitamin E oil with some relief, but not enough to keep using it. My latest 'treatment' is Shea body butter that I put quite a few drops of lavender essential oil in & mixed it all up. I've used it the last 2 nights before I went to bed & the difference was huge. Yesterday there was no weeping at all and the skin was smooth in most places, and I resisted the urge to pick at the places I knew I could pull off. Last night again with good results today. But today I started picking at it again, I don't know how to stop. Thank you all that shared your stories and I sincerely pray that you are all blessed with a cure for it all right now. Thank you. - Sue W.
Neosporin or triple antibiotic ointment is the way to go, especially to keep it from getting infected and therefore less scarring. I use bandaids sometimes, sleep with plastic wrap on my arms (with neosporin, fast healing!) and wear gloves around the house when I feel like I might be inclined to pick. Once it's healed get some scar serum, coconut oil, tea tree oil, olive oil, all are good and my favorites. Try a bunch of things to keep your skin moist and hydrated! It'll heal faster and fade the scars faster.
Even as I write this I am picking, and I swear to myself every time I get one pick down and one piece of finger flesh in my mouth, I will stop. I always think, this could be the last one. I am not stopping though, and obviously, totally, really, really wish I could. I am 55. I have been picking my fingers since I was about 6-8 years old, I think--I just remember doing it most of my life. I pick the skin around my nails. I do not generally chew my nails, and they in fact, usually look kind of long and nice. But NOT my thumbs. My thumbnails are bumpy, discolored, peeling and both thumbs have huge "humps" in them which I do my best to hide from people. That is particularly hard to do at work when I am holding a document to show to a colleague or reading a book to a kid--I have become adept at pointing at text with my pinkies since they are usually not as desecrated and I also curl my thumbs in so no one sees them. I am embarrassed, distracted, definitely not as efficient as I could be at work or home since so much time goes to staring at and shredding my fingers. I also bleed, a lot, I go through boxes of band-aids, and about once a year I get a serious infected finger and have to embarrassingly go to doc for strong antibiotics. I am a lier, sometimes, frequently....because I tell the doc the wound came from a paper cut, the kids I work with I have "skin problems" and infections, any adults that might (God forbid) happen to notice that I have very "dry skin" that cracks and peels.... I always feel like I want to make my skin smooth, to get rid of the ridges, skin 'cliffs' and flaky prickly skin...."If I just make it smooth I will be done....." I DID quit for five years. I don't know how I did it but I did, through sheer will. Now I think the habit has always been lurking, and it pounced again about two years ago. Finally, my teeth have been hurting lately, the front teeth, from so many years of grinding on the flesh between my front teeth. I sound like a monster but am not. I would love to have a permanent, lasting complete cure. I feel shattered and fractured, not at peace, not centered at all. It impacts my self-esteem, it controls my life. I don't want to see or talk to people due to the shame I feel for what I do, with a hidden bleeding finger to remind me. Or a skin tag I cannot wait to get into my office and chew on. Argh. I want to try hypnosis. Anybody...success with that? Look forward to hearing what you have to say. Have read a lot of blogs here, this is the first time I have posted on a blog. Maybe this full disclosure of my real-life, all-consuming problem can help?? ( - : ) - :
Hi! I'm not going to describe any of my experience of skin picking as it it basically everything you all said already. One thing I experimented that helps the healing is to put lemon juice on the open wound (yes, when I do it i macarena dance the pain away!) This closes and dries the wound, and then I apply honey on it. My mom always told me honey was good for everything, then I heard they used it in the army to heal soldiers (i think it was in the russian army back in the days) and recently I heard they used it on patient in a clinic specialized in burnt people. Si I tried it and it works. It doesn't work over night (altho the lemon really helps!) but I found it it really worked for me and it's not expensive. I have the chance to live near a beekeeper, so I know my honey is pure and it is less expensiv than the fake honey you can find at the grocery store. So I would advise you to get organic honey if you don't have a beekeeper nearby. Oddly after I picked on my skin, it heals faster only if i remove the white thingy in the wound, (with a tweezer) ; but I would save myself so much trouble and shame if I didn't pick in the first place. Putting honey all over my face makes my skin delicious, but also dissuade me from picking my skin anymore as it's sticky. I hope this could help someone,
I'm so happy I found this page! I have been attacking any tiny spot on my face with clippers for about a year and have been left with horrible big scabs and red marks all over my face. I suffer from depression and often just hide in my bed because I'm so self conscious. It's my 21st in 3 weeks and my skin is in a terrible state, I've decided enough is enough and I'm going to try to stop touching my face as of tomorrow and let it heal. I'm praying I can do it and begin enjoying my life again as my face is all I think about every day :(
I've been using berts bees baby butter. It comes in a little jar and is like a salve. I apply it twice daily and it's really helped with the redness and inflamed look. It also has a nice scent and deters me from picking my face due to how it sits in the skin. It has aloe, bees wax, almond and coconut oil. I have oily skin and the salve has not made me break out.
Im sixteen and I've picked for about two years now. i have really nice skin when I'm not picking. I rarely have acne thats red, its usually just white heads but I turn them into big red wounds and then i pick the scabs. i either use visine eye drops or makeup to cover the red spots but whether they're covered or not, it torments me that they're there. I feel like I can't fully live my life or live in the moment when I have marks on my face. It's beyond annoying. My family knows about it and maybe one or two of my friends back home. Im at boarding school and its gotten better since I've been here because I'm always around people and rarely on my own in the bathroom. But I still do it, especially when I'm stressed. I picked last week then again last night, then picked my scabs from last nights picking today. I'm glad to have a place where I can just talk about this stuff without people judging me. I don't have it nearly as bad as a lot of people but I still hate it so much and I just want it to go away. What do you guys do after you pick until it heals?? Just wear makeup and wait for it to heal? Do you pick the scabs? thats a big thing for me, i can't not pick my scabs so it always takes a while to heal. and do you get those sort of dark discolorated dead skin thats like a thinner scab? are you suppose to pick those?
@basketcase - Firstly, you are not a basketcase, I promise. I am 29 years old and I started picking when I was around your age. Our cases sound similar - my skin is actually pretty nice when I don't pick. I tend to pick when I'm tired and/or stressed, or when I'm anxious. 99.9% of the time it happens in the bathroom when no one is around. I mostly pick my arms, by back, and my chest, sometimes my face. I usually wear shirts that cover my arms, and if I have a bad episode of face-picking, then I just have to wear make-up until it heals. Lately, I've been trying saline solution (salt water) to expedite healing. It's recommended to use 1/4 or 1/2 teaspoon of sea salt per 8 oz of water. You can just mix it up and heat it (not too hot - maybe 30 to 45 seconds in the microwave), dip a cotton ball in the solution, and soak the affected area for 5 to 10 minutes per day. Some people recommend that you rinse off the salt after soaking. And definitely be sure to moisturize afterward, especially if you have dry/sensitive skin. There are so many suggested healing techniques out there, though - you just have to try some and see what works for you. More important, however, is getting to the root of the issue: why do we pick? I can't tell you how much time I wasted feeling so insecure about my skin... I mean we're talking 15 years of this... no one should have to go through that. Finally, almost two years ago, I started seeing a therapist, and I feel like for the first time in my life I'm making real progress - not just superficial wound healing and then going right back to the picking cycle. This is an anxiety disorder, and its source is emotional/ psychological. I am discovering through therapy (and JUST therapy - no medications of any kind), that what I am carrying around inside is not mine. It is a deep anxiety that has been handed down from mother to daughter in my family, and it stems from a long legacy of emotional trauma. I know therapy doesn't sound enticing... its not a quick fix, that's for sure, but I really believe its the only way to a cure. I wish I had started going when I was your age. If you decide to go that route, its important to find a therapist who is the right fit for you - you may have to try a few before you find the right person. In the meantime, just try to be kind to yourself about it... don't beat yourself up emotionally. Breathe deeply. Do things that make you feel healthy - drink lots of water, get lots of sleep, eat foods that make you feel energized and nourished. Try to mitigate stress as best as you can (I know it's tough in HS). Spend time with people who are kind and supportive to you - anyone who is not is absolutely not worth your precious time and energy. Take good care of you, and always know you're not alone.
That was a great reply you wrote this girl. thank you. You were very kind to her and I could feel those nd words on me. I feel like therapy would be a good way to go but I just wish someone would hand me the good therapist with the right fit for me, so I could just know and get started. I hate the thought of going and then having to say "No" to someone.
I have just realized that I've had this disorder since childhood. This picking has taken over my life. I rarely go anywhere, except for work.My co-workers know about this. I am very ashamed and depressed after I do this.
I have recently discovered I have an actual disorder and OCD compulsions and NOT acne. I just turned 30 and am constantly making a mess of my face. It's embarrassing to go out of my house, and I feel like a freak in front of my own family. Just as soon as my face heals and I start thinking about taking pictures again, I tear it up all over again. Need suggestions on what works for reducing the redness primarily. Thanks
OK, I'm gonna make this a quickie as I have just typed most of my comment and lost it...most of my picking now is on my thighs,all my arms,shoulders,bottom, belly and chest...in a desperate attempt to heal the sores I have found some things that have been very successful in healing them ( of course right up to the point I tear into myself as soon as any are healed...sigh) OK...initially I was making a very strong epsom salt solution and wiping it over any sores, this cleared lots up, but obviously dried my skin out...now I have a better regime and it is healing stuff usually within 4 of 5 days if I keel my hands off...in Arkansas at Walgreens drug store they carry in the baby section..." anti monkey butt cream...it is very thick and water resistant so I only apply it at note...this cream combines zinc AND calamine as well as calendula and other natural stuff....it has the benefit of not melting your skin off like if feels like gold bond does! when I wake up everyday I shower, usually takes two soaping to cut thru the lotion and remove it...I then apply Epsom salt lotion to only areas with sores( had never seen this product til a couple of weeks ago)...bedtime I rinse salt off and repeat monkey butt...i can't tell its doing anything for the scars but I'm gonna try some of your suggestions for that...while I knew other people were probably picking some, I never really knew it wasn't just me in my head! I'm looking forward to being in this group!
Hi everyone, I have been having this issue as well. I have read it is somewhat related to OCD, which makes sense to me as I have always shown other OCD-type symptoms as well. I have been picking for over 10 years, with the trigger being binge-eating or any kind of "loss of control" in my life, such as a breakup or poor grades at university. For the past couple months though, things have gotten out of control. I pick every single night, and usually multiple times in the day, resulting in a perma-reddened face and scarring everywhere. I am currently writing a diary of how I feel after I pick and I hope that works. Some products I have found to work are: -Avene sensitive skincare line (especially the very-dry sensitive cleansing milk) -Sudocrem (used for diaper rash, contains zinc to heal fast and keep moist) -Bio-oil - works ok, but I would prefer Sudocrem if it wasn't so white in colour. -Tanda luxe red and blue light therapy (basically makes skin scab fast and closes pores so products can be applied without as much inflammation) -calamine lotion (I apply at night as a toner after Avene cleansing milk) -Tamanu oil (safe for all skin types, apply at night, heals fast and lightens scarring) -20-60%lactic acid (as a peel when your skin has healed to hydrate and reduce scarring) I've never had bad acne, but I created it by damaging my pores. The pores on my nose are now always dark because they are so scarred over, and the scarring on my face is very visible from a couple feet away in certain lighting. Lactic acid peels have helped, but of course only until I pick again. For the past year I have been going to monthly laser-resurfacing appointments and oxygen facials. I thought if I spent enough on my skin, I would be less-likely to pick. For the first time, I got compliments from everyone of how great my skin looked, and I spent over $6000 on this, but as soon as I stopped going, I went straight back to picking. I know this can be beat, I used to pull at my hair, pick ingrowns, over-tweeze, and bite my nails until they were completely gone, but somehow I stopped all of those habits, so there MUST be a way to stop this. I am so ashamed of how I look and am wasting my life inside because I refuse to wear makeup and leave the house. Good luck to everyone.
I had great skin in high school and my early twenties. I am 28 now and my skin was bad during college when I didn't sleep nearly enough or eat enough due to being a full time student and single mom. I figured it was because of stress. My skin cleard up when I was pregnant with my daughter so I never had anything to pick at. My daughter is 10 months old and and for the past 6 months I have broken out with horrible acne.. What makes it worse is that I will go to the mirror and pick at them on and off during the day and they end I Up blistering or my nail slips and scrapes my skin off where it becomes a wound.. I have many times felt so ugly and disgusted with myself for causing such damage to my body. I get ingrown hairs on my eyebrows which causes a blister type bump and I can't leave it alone I want to dig that hair out so the bump doesn't get bigger. But it yet again turns into an abrasion and looks worse. I don't want to go anywhere or see anyone be cause I am terrified of people thinking I am a meth user. I am definitely not a meth user or anything like that but when I have scabs on my face I feel like the people on the meth billboards with band aids on their face. What helps take redness away?
I know. I am not using meth or opiods now and i still do it. When i was young i was a meth user and it really took off. The urge is overpowering and i feel so bad after.
I have been using Caladryl Lotion for 2 days now on my 4 dime sized open wounds/scabs on my chin. It has helped a lot but still not looking to good I am going to try the raw honey and neosporin idea now. I know I am only 14 years old right now but having to go to school in 2 weeks is like nerve wrecking and we are getting a lot of new students well for my school at least and it will be my first year in high school, I don't want people to remember me as the girl with open wounds on her chin but It is nice to hear all of your guy's stories because I needed to be reminded I'm not the only one out there without perfect skin also I am finding it impossible to stop picking I have my whole family on alert to tell me to stop picking because I do it unconsciously now, but I just cut off all my fingernails and every time I realize I am picking I am going to put band-aids on the ends of my fingers starting with my pointers and then when I stop my self from picking I will allow myself to take off a band-aid It has actually worked a lot since I don't want to leave my room anymore but I sill do all because of my sister who is allergic to something we haven't figured out yet and has red dots ALL over her face but she gives me courage to go through my house but out in public not much but Thank-you for sharing also if you just have regular zits "On-the-Spot" acne treatment from Neutrogena i felt helps a lot!
I use the caladryl lotion as many others have suggested and I can honestly say for me it was like a small overnight miracle! My wounds have begun to close up and look significantly better than they did !!! I would definitely suggest this. I used the pink lotion as a face mask overnight and put the clear lotion under my make up during the day.
hi. i am like you. i picked badly at myself and now i have about three awful scabs, including 1 on my lip.. i don't use tweezers anymore but it is seriously affecting me in the way i look so much that i want to avoid seeing anyone just so they can't see me. i've stayed at home (in my room) for the last 5 days completely,, not went out i'm all here and watching when i can ocasionally go out to the kitchen as i don't even want the people who live in this house seeing me :( it is making me depressed and lonely as i am isolating myself. i want to know too how to heal the wounds nothing i've found so far that helps me :'(
For Wendyg, I know it is hard to see yourself and feel that way about your face but we all see ourselves worse than others see us. I use Aveno lotion or if I think it might get infected I use an antibiotic ointment like Bacitracin or Neosporin. I think it takes about 2 weeks of leaving the scab alone before it completely heals up. There are things to try to take your mind off of the picking like the elastic band on the wrist, or to talk to yourself internally about how you don't want to pick anymore and you want to stop and you're not going to do this now because you want your face to heal and not get infected. Some people pray, others try to distract themselves with enjoyable things: reading, swimming, going to a movie, shopping, getting a massage, dancing etc.... I hope that you will try to be kind to yourself and not pick for 1 day or a few hours whatever time limit you want to start with...that's what I try to do. No one is perfect. We each have our own issues to try and overcome. Best of luck...and write again
hello, i am almost 30 with 20 years or more of picking. it all started when i was a little girl and i got chicken pox. i picked my scabs then and still to this day have a very light remnent of the chicken pox scars. well, i have for years picked my arms and legs. in HS i could not wear shorts when i was in marching band in the summer camp. i suffered heavy scrutiny and social pain with this. i met my husband when i was in mid college. i told him about my picking and he was the first person to accept me as is. he told my i am beautiful. i still deal with heavy anxiety and i pick at the acne on my face. i don't have heavy acne, but i get those under the skin ones that hurt, so i try and pop then i pick the damaged skin off creating a wound. well off and on i have had ugly scars on my face, makeup cannot cover it. i have meltdowns due to this. i can't enjoy summer because i am ashamed to walk in a bathing suit. having two kids in the hospital with bad scars on my face mad me enjoy less of the new baby experience. i do not want my daughter to see me like this nor my son. my mom is also a picker, but won't admit it. i get my anxiety from her. i have a routine that helps with the healing process and helps my acne go away the next day. ACNE OVERNIGHT TREATMENT: when i get a zit, i pop it, wash my face then apply tea tree oil to the site(this only works for white head acne). i apply a zit zapper(Avon Blemish treatment) then cover it with a Fast Healing bandaid. when i wake up, depending on how severe the white head was, it is gone. then there are ones that can't be popped, but i still do it. the under the skin ones are awful...WEEK LONG TREATMENT OF OPEN WOUND SKIN PICKED PIMPLE> i have these once in a while where i make more damage than i should, that is when my anxiety kicked in...i wash my face, apply neosporin to the site(a small amount to make a dome shaped seal over the wound) i leave it for an hour. then i clean it with tea tree oil, then i start my scar removing system, it works! i make a mixture of neosporin, bio oil and scar treatment. then i use a bandaid(silicone fast healing). i place the bandaid on the mixture that has absorbed in my scar. then i heal it for about a week repeating the process. before i know it. as if nothing bad was ever there. before it is a scar i apply a AMBI oily skin fade cream to life the scar tissue. i use tweezers to peel the scar tissue off. this helps until it cannot be lifted anymore, then i start the process of scar fading. i hope this helps. as of now i have a slow healing wound on my cheek. i am doing my regiman and it has not healed yet. i will keep doing this and avoid picking it to see what happens. best of luck and God Bless you all
Be careful with the tweezers because you are only 30 yrs old your skin heals faster. I am 58 now and tweezers leave scars now. Just say NO to Tweezers ;-)
Be careful with the tweezers because you are only 30 yrs old your skin heals faster. I am 58 now and tweezers leave scars now. Just say NO to Tweezers ;-)
Hi, you say you use Bio Oil and scar treatment. What scar treatment do you use? I thought Bio Oil was scar treatment. Are the silicone band aids actually Band Aid brand? Thanks
I am so happy I found this forum! I'm in university and I have picked at my face for years, but never with any serious repercussions-- that is, until a couple of days ago. I don't know what happened, but I now have three (what I call) craters on my face, one on my cheek and two between my eyes. They have literally stopped my life. I am so embarrassed of them I haven't gone to class, I avoid my friends, I don't volunteer like usual, I just hide in my room, under the covers. I hate myself for it because I feel so shallow for letting my skin interfere with my life. I have tried desperately to speed up the healing process. Right now I am coating the craters with Polysporin enriched with vitamin E and covering them with Band-Aids. Praying that this helps! I wear make-up like a second skin, but make-up just accentuates the problem even more, which is why I haven't left my house. I can't give anyone any helpful advice because I am only dealing with this for the first time now, but I appreciate reading others' stories so much that I thought I'd share my own. Even if the immediate problem has not gone away, it feels amazing to know I'm not alone, so thank you to everyone who shared!
Cannot stop! I hate what I've done to my face. I don't want to see friends or family or even leAve my house because I know that they will be thinking imsome kind of crazy freak or a dope addict. I just want to be able to take a shower & not have to put makeup on. I want to go swimming & put my head under water. I want to think about something else besides my damn face all day! I just can't stop & I don't know why!?
Do not be ashamed! Try and remember that it could always be worse. I have been picking my skin for YEARS..and on top of that I get so stressed out about it that I get cold sore outbreaks. I have tried EVERYTHING!! Honey, lemon, warm compress, cold compress, pills, creams...I have honestly tried it all. GONE IN ONE WEEK: keep the picked skin VERY clean. Make up, dead skin, any other kind of particle only makes it worse. Apply any kind of moist, concealment ointment- neosporin or aquaphor. Keeping the area moist is VERY important. Scabs clog up the area, delaying healing. When the skin is moist it makes it easier for new skin cells to move around and regenerate. DO NOT PICK! I understand its hard and you always tell yourself not to...but then you do. REMEMBER every time you pick you add on 2 - 3 more days of healing. Avoid mirrors and tweezers! Lastly, take biotin and vitamin A. Both of these vitamins have skin healing agents that will speed up healing! It is very important to remember that NO ONE looks at your face as closely as you do. When you are looking in the mirror...you are on zoom view. On average, people generally do not look at each others faces. We make eye contact, then look away. If someone is going to judge you because of a scab, zit, or hair follicle on your face...screw them! Life is too short to be worried about judgmental people.
I am 62 and this is the first time in my life that I have admitted to picking my face. My spouse knows but I have never told another person. I have done this on and off since I was a teenager. I use Dove soap on my skin. I pick mostly when I am stressed. At this point the pores on my nose and right side of my face fill up with dirt and my skin is always flaky after I shower (using Dove soap). I use a tweezer now to pick off the flaky skin. Then apply Clinique moisturizer. I tried washing my face every other day but my pores fill up and my skin feels and looks dirty. I am so ashamed. I just want to know if anyone can recommend a soap, cleanser, moisturizer or anything else that will heal my skin. I am desperate and decided to google my problem and this site came up. Thanks for reading. Please feel free to email me at emegan1@aol.com
Hi there, I pick my face till there is so much blood I have no more grip to do so. At the moment my face looks pretty normal except for one Huge piece of skin missing from my eye brows which I couldn't stop picking tonight. But I'm writing in regards to what to help heal your skin. Get organic rosehip oil. It does wonders. After your face is moist after washing take 2 to 3 drops, rub your hands together and pay your face. In one week I could see a difference and just a few days the flakiness of my face was gone. Hope this helps.
I am 26 years old, and have been a picker for 11yrs. Unfortunately, even knowing the outcome of my picking "episode" .. The embarrassing, obvious open wounds that I am constantly trying to cake makeup over.. I can't seem to make myself stop. I worked for a dermatologist and cosmetic surgeon for 3yrs. Which honestly made me focus even more on the little "imperfections" on my skin, making me pick EVEN MORE. Luckily with the knowledge I gained from that specialty, I do have some advice for anyone who is in that desperate situation of healing those "picking-pox" ASAP: 1.) when at home and trying to heal the open skin, wash your face with a good cleanser(not picky.. Just suggest hypo-allergenic and comedogenic-not acne causing) 2. An OTC face mask left on for 20min or so. Wash of with hot water and wet rag, without scrubbing too hard so skin doesn't open more. 3. Keep area moist with either something OTC like ICHTHAMMOL ointment "drawing salve/helps soothe skin" and cover with a bandaid or use a non-stick telfa pad and paper tape to keep it covered and moist. ** If you have insurance coverage or can afford to see a doctor and request a prescription called "BIAFINE emulsion".. this is a cream that actually helps skin to produce new granulation tissue(new skin to form). This cream has saved me from MANY picking scars.** keep the area clean and covered as much as possible, and even by the next dy you will notice your skin starting to look more normal. :) good luck. And I feel the pain.. But it's cool to kno that others are out there to share their stories and find support! xOx
If you wish to know how to treat open wounds faster, you have to check out your state of health. If you aren't usually healthy, how do you expect your body to work effectively?
Hello, my name is Jackie! I have been picking since 2007-it is when I closed my business as a single mom, and everything went downhill financially from there. That was my trigger. I pick daily. I pick out white long things like hair follicles and hairs. I am 46 years old. My open wounds won't heal. I need help. I have tried every home remedy and four dermatologists! No help. I mix mustard (pure) and some water and it rids dermedox mites. If you have animals this is great treatment. I have over 16 scars HUGE on my face. It has ruined my life. All I do is work and go home, no NO socializing at all! It is 2012-and I am on anti depressants too! ANY HELP????? My open wounds won't heal????
Check my post from August 10th. I've been dealing with white spots or cores within open wounds for "several years". Have just been diagnosed with iron deficient anemia AGAIN. The last time was coincidentally "several years" ago. I have taken triple doses of IRON and am no longer anemic. MY OPEN SORES ARE NOW HEALING. Check with your doctor about having a Ferritin test done. Your iron levels might be a contributing factor. Too much iron is dangerous so don't start loading up on iron without consulting your doctor. I'm 74 and I live alone, my appetite is not great and I don't like to cook. I believe my anemia is due to poor nutrition which is quite common with the elderly. If poor nutrition could be your problem check for good sources of iron. Cream of wheat is cheap, I fix mine with milk; with butter, salt and pepper it's like mashed potatoes. Oatmeal is also inexpensive and a good source. Red meats, chicken, liver are all good sources. You are on the Internet so do a search for "iron rich foods". Sunflower seeds for snacks, Vitamin C enhances the use of iron so oranges, juice and frozen fruits bars are good. My skin will be clear soon, I will continue with my doctor and esthetician and hopefully I will have nothing to pick and wean myself from the addiction. Check your IRON level!
i am 14 and well i hate to admite it but i am a picker. for me it is like facing the devil when i pick my cuts. i realy want to stop, everyone tells me i am a very pretty girl but the always say that i need to stop my picking and i would be even more prettier. i have been doing this now for about 8 years now and i have alot of scars all over my body. when i tan that is when u can really see them i want to get rid of the too but my mom will not bye the crem untill i stop my picking. my so called dad pickes too so idk if i got it frm him or not, and my childhood relly hasnt been my happest years. so i also tink it is from stress and me being a likkle bit senticive over every thing. for me when i seen the cut i insantly start to pick it. plz help he wiit this if u have and trick to stop or something else plz tell mu thank u.!!!!!!!!!!!
I have KP and tend to pick anywhere. I also have a problem with dermaphagia. I Do the band-aid thing with triple antibiotic cream. Keep the bathroom lights off, or very very dim. No see, no pick.
I'm 74, sorry but we revert to old habits when stressed, and I am a picker. In the past 10 years when deep, old white heads arose I, with too much retirement time on my hands, started digging at my face to "get rid" of them. At the same time I concentrated on reducing the excessive oil on my skin that I still have. The result was tiny white painful specks within open sores which would not heal until the spots were removed. If I could get all of them out of one sore at one time the sore would heal over and no longer hurt but would leave indentations and scars. However, as I realize now, the actions or inactions that I was taking were actually creating these white specks and prolonging the problem and the pain these little spots produced. As I have always had skin problems due, I thought from excess oil , I have worked diligently to remove the oil from my skin which undoubtedly encouraged more oil production. At the same time I not only didn't drink enough water daily but withheld any lotion from my skin as I was always afraid of contributing any possible oily substance to my skin problems. What I believe has happened is this; the little painful white specks which I would extract with tweezers after much digging were hair shafts or follicles which had solidified due to a lack of moisture but were still attached to nerve endings. During this period I went to a young and beautiful dermatologist's physician's assistant who gave me Clindomycin [sp], told me to cut my nails and "stop picking". All the while looking at me with disdain. I had explained about the white things which she totally ignored. Even when I asked her to debride whiteheads etc, she said yes, she could - but never did. This is when I found out about estheticians and I started treatments. She does what my old dermatologists used to do, clean out bad tissue, debridement. I listened to her explain about peeling, softening, misting, moisturizing, etc. but it took months for me to really hear her and apply it to what I was actually doing myself. It was when she was trying very hard to remove a couple of the deepest "white specks" and couldn't, that this final conclusion started developing. I had been and continued reducing oil and hydration to my skin to the point that I had made "concrete" out of some hair follicles but the nerves were still attached and screaming! And I was feeling the pain. In addition I was using hot packs on my skin to try to increase the blood supply to clear out toxins and was inadvertently burning the skin to which had recent antibiotic or benzoyl peroxide applications. I had a few days of severe pain before I finally put it all together. I was using Bazooka tactics when I should have been using cotton balls! So now, I'm using oil-free moisturizer immediately after cleaning my skin with warm water and mild Dove, using vaseline to protect and moisturize under bandage squares and paper tape to protect my cheeks from "ME" after dinner til morning [ when I'm at home ]. I expect to have this under control and surprise my esthetician and my GP with relatively clear skin in a short time. I will reduce the oil production with Spironolactone oral meds, hydrate, hydrate, hydrate and moisturize til my facial skin will be as soft as a baby's bum. Bottom Line: Re-assess your concepts with an esthetician completely candidly and take appropriate action. We are probably encouraging the very things we want to avoid. Protect yourself from yourself even if it is just bandaging your skin while at home. Try to resolve the anxieties that are driving the "picking", keep your skin as soft as you can to keep dry flakes from drawing your fingers to them, and let's be kind to ourselves. You can learn something new every day even into old age! Here's to pain-free, soft skin!! PS: Megansmom means Megan is my beautiful Malamute canine companion and my chief anxiety makers are my own children.
sending all my love and support your way, i know how depressing and embarassing this habit can be. my only advice for healing wounds is to moisturize. i put so much freaking lotion on my face before i go to bed at night because it seriously helps me heal. 2 or 3 or even 4 times faster than if i just washed my face and didnt moisturize at all. also, i know some people dont think that diet has much to do with it, but vitamin a, internally, does so much for me. if i have a particularly bad picking session one day, i eat a BUNCH of carrots. that probably sounds stupid, but it really helps me. good luck. you can beat this
I understand how difficult this is for you. I am sending you hugs!! I just turned 40 this year and have been picking for about 30 years now. It's gotten better, I think, but I have also learned to accept it and not be so mortified by it anymore. I used to get so freaked out by it whenever the doctor or anybody would ask me about the scars on my arms or legs and now I just tell them right up front, "I am a picker, I have been for 30 years, and I am working on it." So basically, I tell them to leave me alone. It's amazing the difference how having a little more confidence and not being so ashamed of myself made me feel. It feels wonderful. I want you to feel that, too. As for how to get scabs to heal better, faster, I would recommend using a little bit of silver (I think it's silver nitrate?) that a dermatologist would recommend. It comes in a strip or square and should not be left open to the air. It needs to be kept in a ziplock or something like that. It is available in Canada through home care nursing clinics at no cost, but I am not sure about availability anywhere else. It would be something that you would need to see your doctor or nurse about, though. I know when I had an abdominal wound that was about the size of a quarter and a nickel set side by side, it healed it up in about 6 weeks, with twice weekly changes. Of course, that was with me not touching the waterproof bandage that covered it. Unfortunately, about a week after it healed, I had the wound back open again, as there was a bit of a tag there for me to pull on...total bummer. Anyway, I wish you the absolute best of luck with your scabs and I hope you find the courage to go out there and say screw it, I can do this! To heck with anybody out there that doesn't like it. You are beautiful, inside and out.
omg :'( I completely understand what you`re going through! I`m so glad I`ve found this site...I`m concerned I might have body dysmorphic disorder...it`s so terrible having to isolate yourself from the ones you love because of picking..I feel so guilty afterwards and then just crawl in bed...I`ve tried the bandaid thing...and it`s always embarrasing having people ask you what happened to your head and saying something stupid like "oh this? na nothing pff i just fell off my bed" ye..right they give me this look and I completely feel the beads of sweat coming from my face...:'( sometimes feels like there`s no hope...i also use the tweezers to pull off the skin, in hopes of it helping which it never honestly does..just wake up with even more scabs...good luck love, i feel your pain
There is nothing worse then resolving not to pick & then finding yourself in front of the mirror digging into your skin.. I've been picking for 4 years. Recently, I had a breakdown and decided to change things. Well, as we all know, that is SO much easier said then done. Coming from someone who has had at least 3 huge marks on her face for the last 4 years, what I have been doing the last two weeks has me down to clear skin & 1 mark. First what I am doing is having a weekly goal. I am in a long distance (4 hour) relationship & my goal will be something like, "I see my boyfriend this Saturday, why not surprise him with clear skin!" or "I'm playing sports on Saturday with a big group. If my skin was clear, I wouldn't have to self-consciously apply caked makeup every 10 minutes to feel comfortable." (we all know the feeling). I've found that if I have a small goal to reach for, I can control my impulses a LOT better. Another thing I've done is start exercising. I hated running, but I've been doing the Couch-to-5k program & it has really helped with my impulse control. I have so many "happy hormones" (seratonin, etc.) from feeling accomplished about exercise, that I'm able to think, "Hey! You're awesome! Don't damage this moment with an impulsive pick!" You don't even have to push yourself really hard to get the hormones & adrenaline flowing! Finally, for those moments when I accidentally cave (I caved last night), I have a routine. I get over it, mentally (because if you're anything like me, you're left staring at your new wound in the mirror SO down on yourself, "why did i DO that?!"). Don't dwell on it. It happened, now focus on positive thoughts (I have anywhere from 5-10 positive quotes on post-it notes on my mirrors or beside my computer). Then, after I've dropped the dwelling, I apply a repair lotion (proactiv has one & so does Murad, I'm sure there are cheaper alternatives as well) followed by a bandaid. I know everyone says to keep it open & dry, but what I've found is that if I'm tempted to pick, I apply repair lotion & a bandaid for the night after I'm home from work (blocks anxious, picking fingers & heals all in one!). Example: Last night, I had one of those pulsating monsters on my chin. You know, the kind so deep that you feel your heartbeat in your chin.. As if the beast will start talking to you if you don't get rid of it! Well, unfortunately I gave into temptation after 2 weeks of doing good, and opened up a big, dime-sized sore on my chin (result: nothing even came out of it). Well, I got over it. Put my repair lotion & bandaid on it. (I use the bandaids that don't leave residue) I fell asleep with my bandaid & when I woke up in the morning, that HUGE spot was a flat, MUCH smaller red spot. Sure, it's still there, but waking up to a small red spot on my chin instead of a giant brown scab definitely helps me fight temptation. Good luck! :)
thank you for posting this. i'm really happy i found this site. i'm almost 16 and i've tried to stop many many times but i haven't been successful yet : / the worst is my forehead and back. i keep my bangs long to cover it and every morning i have to find a shirt that covers my entire back so no one will see it. i have many scars and i hope to overcome this soon. its ruining a lot for me.
Father's Day has passed and Fathers day facebook status you have done your job by overindulging the manhood in your action for a little while, the time has come for you to pay a shred of notification to yourselves.
A face mask is a great way to relax and pamper your skin. These masks are to be made at home and applied, left on for a minimum of a quarter hour and then washed off. It is always best to follow a facial mask with a round of cleansing and a light layer of moisturizer. Another important thing that you have to remember is that you have to be completely relaxed when you are putting on your mask.  http://www.facemaskbliss.com/
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