I'm a woman and I pick my breasts! Does anyone else?


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August 13, 2009

Yeah, it's the same for me, face and chest. It's rough especially since it's a part of your body that is so openly admired/inspected by the opposite sex. I really wish I could stop it, I'm in my 20's and my chest would be such an asset to me if I wasn't completely ashamed to show my skin. I pretty much never wear anything low cut. I buy plenty of cute little dresses and then my roommates just end up borrowing them. I have a pretty lovely body as well, no idea why I seem intent on marring it. Some days it seems intolerable to me but right now? It is what it is.
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November 13, 2013

Hi everyone! I am the grand mother of a beautiful young girl who picks,as well as eats her scabs, I have seen her smell areas. I started looking for information on this subject in order to better help her. I found this site and have read nearly all that is here. I have some medical background. I am also a pretty good problem solver. One thing I do believe may help you al to try is having blood work done. Have your hormone and chemical balances checked. As one person mentioned, low iron might be a factor Here are some of my thoughts. First..this is much more common than you might think As one person here stated, it's like masturbation in that most do it and most will deny it We are first animals. We have instinctive habits that are written on our DNA. Picking, smelling and even eating it is all primitive behaviors. Society has just deemed them unacceptable. It is ok to have a bowel movement or pick your nose, it's just suppose to be done in private. Look at monkeys. Most of the behaviors that are the topic here, would be considered quite normal for the monkeys. Yes, things like past abuse and low self esteem, might make these behaviors more difficult to refrain from. I also feel the actions are very much a self soothing issue. Much like the very first thing a human does, suck their thumb. Touching oneself, stoking, picking, they all give a comforting pleasure and release. I would say in that light, they are NORMAL. One does have to live in society though. That's all I wanted to say other than as a mother, my heart goes out to all of you who are suffering because of this. Please know that we are all more alike than different. Take care and take care of yourself. A friend
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August 17, 2009

WARNING: GRAPHIC. Sorry about this but this is really graphic. I hate to admit it but about 8 or more years ago I actually cut chunks out of my torso and breasts due to self hatred and just really severe depression. There was really no good reason for it, I just had the scissors and did it. I finally admitted it to my doctor who put me on heavy meds that made me fat and sleepy and I eventually stopped. I have sadly started to cut myself again and I need to stop. I am very ashamed and embarassed about it. I hope you find the help you need to stop. You do not want to have the damage on your body that I do. I actually have large keloids that look like nothing more than extra nipples. Very ugly and embarassing.
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August 26, 2009

Hey there, I just wanted to say that your post really moved me. I feel for you, and hope you too get whatever help you need! Hang in there.
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June 26, 2011

I commend your courage, I too have had thoughts of cutting my arms and breasts in hopes of having "normal scars" that are more easily explained. I do not want to be on medication, but these thoughts are becoming more and more vivid. I hope I can learn from you. Thank You
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November 13, 2011

If you went up to someone on the street and treated them the way that you treat yourself, they would put you in jail. What's so bad about you that is deserving of hate? Who taught you to hate yourself?
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August 18, 2009

OMG! I seriously thought I was the only person on the planet that did this. I don't know what kind of bump or imperfection starts on my boobs, but I sure seem to get large infected sores on them all the time. I'm so embarassed of them - they are so gross looking. I can't ever seem to get them to heal on my boobs. I have three sores currently as I write this. In the shower, the sores get wet and the scab comes off (okay, I might help it come off sometimes)... then they are open sores. I've actually gone to get undressed at night and my bra is stuck to me, because they oozed or whatever and dried to my bra. This is gross. I so want help for this...
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February 15, 2011

i thought i was the only one too. I'm almost 32 and I have been a picker since I was in 3rd grade. I am so happy to hear I am not the only person who picks at her breasts. It started with my legs when I was young and gradually moved to my back, face , shoulders and breasts. I hate it, but I cann;t seem to stop. It's so frustrating. I have 2 young daughters and I fear that they will follow in my footsteps. I am so glad to have found this website and it's encouraging to know there are other women out there like me!
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August 20, 2009

yup, im right there with you. the two places i pick MOST are my face and my chest.
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August 27, 2009

I do the same thing! My two main places are the lower part/ under my breasts& my lower arms. I waas diagnosed w/ OCD & Bipolar almost 20yrs ago (I'm 28 now) But, I never knew there was a name for my skin picking or that so many other OCD ppl did it until I saw Obsessed recently! It feels good to know there are others out there!!!
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January 08, 2010

i do this too and I really hate it it hurts & its embarrassing i need help but it's hard to talk about
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January 11, 2010

I do the same exact thing, though it is the sides and under my breasts. I have actually dug pretty deep into my breasts and have the nasty scars as a result. I started doing that it about 10 years ago. I have been a skin picker since I was like 7 years old. Mainly it is my Breasts, upper arms and upper thighs and occasionally my face. I have scars everywhere. Mine stems from stress and anxiety. In fact my kids were stressing me out today and I caught myself going at my arms.I really thought I was the only person that did that to myself. Sometimes my picking is at its worse when I feel at my best, like when I am feeling a bit of confidence and actually think I look nice I will pick and pick until my skin and my fingers hurt. Then I feel so bad and ashamed that I did this to myself AGAIN, that I pick some more. My husband gets after me when he catches me and then he gets irritated. I wish there was more public information out there so others could understand what we a dealing with and that we need help. It is a bit of comfort to know I am not ALONE in this.
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January 13, 2010

I'm 16 years old and i pick my breast a lot i feel so sad, but i'm trying to stop... i started 2010 going to a Hypnoses (i forgot how i write it, sorry) teraphy.. hope it helps me!
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November 13, 2011

Let us know if it worked!
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January 25, 2010

Thanks for the honesty. So glad I found this forum. The breast picking issue is new for me. It's always been an arm/shoulder/back/neck thing, but for some reason, I started on the breasts about 6 months ago. In that short time, I already have scars and some non-healing sores. Any tips on how to heal them up (besides leaving them alone???). This area has really hurt my sexual confidence. I am found attractive by many people, and I engage in sexual relationships, but when it comes down to it, I only want to have sex in the complete darkness, or I don't want to take my clothes off. It's always been bad, but much worse now that I have the "marks" on my breasts. I am so saddened and sick over this... Does anyone else feel like your skin is the problem? I'm really convinced my skin is dysfunctional, rather than the picking being the problem...
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November 16, 2010

men are breast crazy, it is almost impoissible to have sex with a man and him not pulling off your shirt, or pulling on your breast sore from picking.
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August 28, 2010

Hello.. I am 30 years old and I have always thought that I was the only one. I started picking when I was maybe 15 but it has gotten worse over the years. The thing is I really feel as though I have a skin disorder because I always get these bumps and they dont heal until I get this white "seed" out of them. It is real, I always find a big white hard thing. Sorry.... Im not sure if I cause them by picking small things or if this is a medical condition. I do find that the more I pick in an area the more probs I have In that area. My worst spots are under my breasts and my inner thighs. It breaks my heart that I have destroyed my boobs. Does anyone else pick for these white "seeds"?
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August 28, 2010

Same here re: those seeds. I used to call them rice grains and even share them by showing my husband when I got a particularly big one out. It always felt so satisfying somehow. My breasts are scarred beyond belief with large purple keloids and some open sores that just never heal, even if I leave them alone. I don't get "seeds" so much there, but I do get them elsewhere. So yep, I know what you're referring to.
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June 26, 2011

so how did you tell your husband about ur scars? Did you show him before you got married? My boyfriend wants to marry me, but I refuse to marry him because he has never seen me naked. Please respond! I have horrible anxiety about telling him.
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November 13, 2011

I know what you're talking about. I get those sometimes but not all the time. Embarrassingly, I usually eat them when I find them because the texture feels cool in my mouth. Sometimes I wonder if I have gone so deep as to be at the subcutaneous layer of my skin and the "seed" is a little fat pod? Or is it a sebaceous gland? Probably the reason you find you are having more problems in the areas where you pick is because your hands have bacteria on them, and when you open up the skin, the bacteria goes in and makes things worse. Plus it's inflammation.
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August 28, 2010

My daughter has the same problem and it breaks my heart when I see it. I am so scared she's going to cause an infection. I am trying to find ways to help her stop but so far nothing has worked and I lack money to do others. In 7 more days she will be off Vyvanse completely and I am hoping this will help as well. I still believe these ADD drugs caused it as she had never picked before.
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October 13, 2010

I'm 15 and on Vyvanse as well. Is there a proven connection? They recently raised my dose, and since then I've been giving my arms, scalp and breasts hell. It hurts, and it looks like shit too. If you have any advice, or know anyone around my age with the same problem, let me know, please!
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December 10, 2010

im 16 does vyvanse truly work? ive never heard of it..
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May 12, 2011

ADHD/ADD meds are mostly amphetamine based, and an unfortunate side-effect can be obsessive-compulsive behaviors. This is one reason why meth addicts will pick at themselves neurotically creating obvious sores. Ironically, I"m a mental health therapist and an addictions counselor...making this habit I can't seem to overcome particularly shameful and frustrating for me! THis is my 1st posting, and I"m just crossing from voyeur to humbly involving myself and seeking support for recovery. I"ll be back soon, and hopefully lose my ego enough to get real...for my own sake :)
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August 28, 2011

I can relate....I have had a therapist I have seen off and on for about 20 years now and it's the one thing I still haven't owned up to yet. I'm 42 and avoid relationships and I know I do because after any bad session, I have to heal. I tend to get so far healing then tear back into my breasts, undoing any healing I started on. The only thing I can say is that now that I am older, I've become more farsighted, making the whole thing less satisfying. Take out my contacts and holy hell-o...IT's like having a 30X magnifying mirror (which I won't have in my home although I desperately wish I could have one) because I pick until there is nothing left to excise. Sometimes I think that is the desire...to purge, something from me. . But it was your comment about losing ones ego that hits home. This behavior is so shameful, it is almost a cliché that I am now (in my 40's) only ready to deal/own it to my therapist. Hasn't happened yet but I know it will come and even then, it won't be that magic bullet I we are all so desperately seeking. This behavior has probably cost me relationships, marriage, having children, companionship all because I am so shamed and didn't ever want to be intimate with a man unless I didn't care if I ever saw him again. If I can be a cautionary tale to all you young girls out there struggling now, then I can live with that. Get help, tell at least one person, or just post on here for now, but go somewhere else than that trancelike state many of us seem to fall into. Best of luck to you and all others out there.
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November 13, 2011

I am currently in my second year of my master's program in counseling and I still pick and I have a little bit of trichotillomania (not as bad as the picking). I am not even out of school yet, and already I am feeling the pressure to "have it all together," not be "impaired," etc. etc. To that, I say bullshit, how am I supposed to relate to people if I don't have any struggles myself? [email protected] if you want to email me.
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September 02, 2010

You're definitely not the only one. I've had this problem for a number of years. My face is another problem area for me as well. I've tried to stop, always without success because it's such an obsession and compulsion. At the same time that it's overwhelmingly frustrating, it's also so satisfying. I had no clue that there were so many other people who suffered from the same issue. Though I don't know what I'll be able to do to overcome it, it helps just to know that there are others out there. It's good to know that while my behavior isn't exactly healthy or normal, I'm not a freak either. Thanks for the encouragement in that way.
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September 04, 2010

I have a lovely scar on mine that I'm horrified won't go away, and a current spot that is healing. When I get them in these places i usually get more nervous and actually pick at myself more in other places. x_x
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September 23, 2010

I did the same thing for YEARS. I finally broke my habit by using using a qtip with a rubbing alcohol that eventually dried up the sores. It had a small burn but it was worth the small amount of pain to gain freedom from excessive picking. It really is a mind game. You have to gain control of your thoughts and actions! Hope this will help someone!
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September 29, 2010

I do. I get whiteheads on my boobs and they eventually get destroyed into scabs and then scars. I am trying the 21 day challenge with the help of light weight cotton gloves to keep on my hands (I wish I could glue them on) so I am physically unable to pick and destroy my skin.
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October 13, 2010

I thought I was the only one! It hurts....but I can't stop.
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October 13, 2010

Wow, I thought I was the only one too! I'm a 31 year old woman who can't stop picking...wow I can't even type it...my breasts! It's awful. Sometimes when I'm done I cry from not being able to control myself and how disgusting I think I am. Seems I'm not the only one...thank you all for your honesty. Does anyone have a real solution or tried therapy for it?
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November 14, 2010

you are not alone - and neither am I it seems. I have picked at my breasts for many years - since my teens and I am 35 now. It started when I had a bit of acne there and blackheads and it's just continued on and on. Some of it is habit, some boredom and some anxiety. It makes me feel calmer in a strange way and satisfied but also replused at myself after. It stopped me from entering into sexual relationships for a long time and even now I am scared to have sex in or be seen in daylight. I hate feeling like this as yes, the boobs are what most men go instantly for. I can't get it out of my head that as soon as they peel my bra off they will be as repulsed as I am. Even when I stop pocking I have dirty blocked pores though which I have tried everything to fix, but it all just looks so disgusting. I am scared to even try with men any more now and that thought is extremely lonely and depressing as all I want is to find someone to share my life with and look after.
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November 16, 2010

I also pick my breasts. it makes me feel horrible. I'm 16 and im so scared im making more and more scars on my body which i will regret. my whole chest area looks absolutely horrible right now. im so ashamed. it scares me that i could do such a thing to myself. my chest is covered with scabs, completely covered. and i still have been managing to find a way to pick and find zits -_- the main reason i pick at my boobs is because it seems like my hair follicles get filled? and turn into black heads. which i repetitively pick at. i really hope to stop.
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December 10, 2010

i totally understand wat ur going thru i have the exact same issue nd we are exactly the same age.
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November 17, 2010

Hi I'm 32, and yes I used to pick at my breasts also. As I suffered from acne in this area aswell. I will still occasionally squeeze the odd whitehead in this area but nothing like I use to...phew! Unfortunately I have a lot of scars on my chest from picking at the large painful acne that I used to get, although my friends have never noticed the scars, and I've even asked my sister about but she dosen't believe that they are noticeable, but I can't help but feel permanetly damaged.
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November 16, 2010

I was adopted at the age of 1, and as a small child I picked the inside of my mouth, and picked the skin off of my feet till I could barely walk, part of the picking was pulling the skin slowly as far as I could pull it makeing large sores, At the age of 12, I was molested by my adoptive mothers son from her first marriage. him and other men were always interested in my breasts that were large. I never told a sole about the molestation fearing noone would believe me as noone liked me because they felt I was an unwelcome invasion of their family. At school I was 14 and always teased about my breasts being large, depression set in I attempted suicide, didnt want to return to school etc... I eventually was able to get breast reductuion surgery, cuts below the breast, I always felt one was way larger that the other, wasnt happy.I picked at the scabs forming,I pulled slow and long and deep flesh pieces relieved stress building up in me. I am now 47, and have never stopped picking my breasts, and still do it. I have seen a psychiatrist in the past and admitted to it , I was put on anti depressents for depression and anxiety. I am on disability for chronic depression, and no longer like seeking relationships, I am in one, but I dont want to ever meet other men because of shame.
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December 10, 2010

uuummm...hello everyone...im kinda new to this soo i dnt really knw wat to say. im recently 16. i began picking at myself since i was 11 and i havnt stopped since ive treid jus about everything i can to stop but its not working. i have this fear that since ive lost a large amount of blood in my breast that i might have to have them amputated..but we'll see..i hope i dnt have to
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December 11, 2010

I'm so relieved to see that I am not alone. I've been a picker since I was around 11, I'm 16 now, and the first place I can remember picking is my breasts. Since this thing, which I can only describe as an obsession, has progressed to other parts of my body such as my arms, legs, and face, but my breasts remain the most heavily attacked area. I pick at my breasts at least once everyday. The thing is, once I start I can't stop, I go into a 'trance' which I now know most other pickers experience. These sessions can last anything from 5 minutes to (on one occasion;) 5 hours. The end product of my work is hard enough as it is, my breasts being an anatomical representation of my femininity, I don't feel sexy or feminine at all, in fact I feel hideous. But I think the worst part of it is the emotional roller-coaster I have to endure every single time I start up one of these little sessions. First comes the irritation, then the fight, then the surrender, then the release and peace, and then it all ends and I look at what I've done to myself and I feel so guilty and ashamed and angry at myself for giving in. To be honest I don't know how much more of this I can take. Everyday I wake up and I promise myself that today is going to be different. But it never is. It's just this vicious circle and it never seems to end. I don't know why I do this to myself. There is no explanation. This thing dominates my life and I have absolutely no control of it. And if I were to try and explain this to anyone 'normal' they would probably laugh at me and tell me to just get over it, which is why I'm so happy that I've found this place. I know that you guys understand. And I truly hope that one day, we can all break free from this obsession. If anyone would like to talk, here's my email: [email protected]
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May 07, 2011

Wow, Shatterproof...your post made me cry because I feel like you have exactly described my life. Even though I'm quite a bit older than you - 31! But, you're right about the whole vicious cycle. Here I am again thinking, okay it's another day and I'm going to stop this. The worst time for me is at night when I change into pajamas. But, like you said...I try to avoid and then give in, then I'm in the "trance" thing and the rest is history. I hate it...I've also picked wherever else I can. I have hormonal imbalance issues which causes my face, chest and back to break out like crazy and that of course just gives me more to pick at and I can't for the life of me leave a zit alone! I'm SO sick of this...feel like I've completely destroyed my body and of course...summer is right around the corner. Everyone else gets so excited about it and I wish it would be winter forever so I could be comfortable in my long sleeved shirts!! Ugh...
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November 13, 2011

The part of your post that really struck me was, "I don't feel sexy or feminine at all." Which came first, not feeling feminine or picking at our breasts? It's like the chicken and the egg.
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December 17, 2010

I've only just found this forum, and it's amazing to me, as well as comforting, how similar your stories are to my own. I've recently turned 20, and have been picking at my skin for as long as I can remember. I have been in treatment for anxiety since I was 11, and I believe that is a big part of why I do it. My breasts are the worst area, at the moment they are so bruised, sore and swollen that my bras feel tight. But I also pick at my face, scalp, shoulders, back, arms, buttocks and the soles of my feet. I feel so guilty about it, because I am aware I am doing it but I can't seem to stop myself. Lately I have even been using sewing needles and tweezers to get at blackheads etc. I don't really know what I hope to achieve by posting this. I guess it's just a release to share what I'm struggling with. Good luck to all of you with getting your own picking under control.
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December 18, 2010

julia-im the same age (20), whats either your email or fb? im sarah grace and definitely want to talk to someone my own age about all the struggles! I used to pick the soles of my feet, but now do face, boobs (the skin there and the bumps around my nipples, which i think is weird but idk why i do it), back, and shoulders...recently moved to my legs and bikini area. I'm stopping this before it gets worse. I think we can do this. want to chat? let me know!
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June 26, 2011

Can we all have an online session! I too am 20 and pick my breasts. I need help!! What is your email??
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December 17, 2010

Came across this site this morning, and comforted to know there are others out there, I'm not as alone as I have felt. I have been a compulsive skin picker for as long as I remember, my mother says I was about 13, think it was closer to 9 and my parents separation. I turn 30 in January. It started with my arms and legs, with puberty and acne, my face became another target, then my back, butt, stomach, and finally my breasts following my 2nd pregnancy. My primary trigger is stress, during a prolonged period of stress ( or knowing I have another court date nearing regarding my ex) the picking will become substantial, and even if I realize what I'm doing, it is the one thing I can't seem to control. I spent 4 years in an abusive relationship where Severe Depression set in, and my picking went from bad to horrific...and I've never been able to slow it down since. Medication didn't help, my family doctor is trying to get me in for hypnotherapy to see if that can help... I'm just glad to find others with remarkably similar stories...at least I know I'm not the only one struggling with this...thank you
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December 28, 2010

Hey, I'm 23 and have been picking at my boobs for about 5-6 years now. What's worse is that my hair has gotten darker and longer at the spots that were the worst for me. Has anyone else had that?!
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January 06, 2011

Hello - I'm 20 and have been struggling with this problem since the onset of puberty. I actually have a question for others with this issue - how have you brought this up with your significant other? I have not had sex with my boyfriend because of my embarrassment about this issue, but I feel ready to take that step. I am scared he will find me ugly because of this but even more scared of the prospect of spending my life alone because of my insecurities about my scars and so forth.
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February 26, 2011

Just last week I told my husband about my problem. I was in the bathroom putting spot bandaids on the open wounds I had caused on my back. He walked in and I just took the opportunity to spill the beans. "What are you doing?" "Can I tell you something about me without you thinking less of me or being disgusted?" "Of course!" I continued to tell him that I had a problem where I couldn't let myself heal. I don't know why I did it, but it has been since childhood. I told him I really want to stop and that I could use his help. He promised to tell me to stop if he ever caught me, and now he even helps me put the little spot bandaids on the places on my back I can't reach right. He really took it well, and I guess I didn't give him enough credit! If a guy really loves you, he may not understand, but he will certainly want whats best for you and want to help you stop! It has made such a difference in my accountability. Its makes me think twice before picking! Now that he knows, he will ask how I am doing, and how things are healing. It's sure great to know he really meant it when he said in sickness or health!
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November 13, 2011

What a good man!
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January 06, 2011

I pick my breasts a little bit, but not nearly as much as the rest of me mostly because there aren't many flaws to pick. Cate- I am wondering the same thing. I have been with the same guy for 2 1/2 years and I just say 'oh, I scar easily' but I am sure he has noticed my picking. He's nice enough to not bring it up, but I would like to discuss it more. I mentioned today that I found this site and think I obsessively pick, and he and my sister laughed and changed the subject.

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