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October 14, 2009

I understand where you are coming from. I've picked my lips until they've bled, become cracked like craters, stayed scabbed over for months at a time. While I was reading your post I felt compelled to pick at my own lips. Do you pick your cuticles? FOr me, I'm either picking at my lips or my cuticles, or both. I'm never pick/bite free. Have you explained to your boyfriend that there is a reason you are doing this, and you need to get to the bottom of it? He might not be able to empathize because he doesn't have the same problem. It took a while for my husband to understand that what I was going through was clinical in nature and not just "in my head." Best of luck. You are not alone. Unfortunately, I have no idea how to stop the habit. My advice is to be as honest as you can with your boyfriend and yourself as you try to find out why and stop the habit.
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August 16, 2012

Yes..I have been picking my lips since the age of 17 and I am now 39 male. I have discovered online various multiple reasons why I do this persistantly to the point where they hurt, swell, bleed...ripping loose skin off them at times. I do this at least 1 time every 20 minutes all day every day. My causes I fear are Anxiety disorder, depression, add/adhd, low self esteam, panic attacks, and now having been diagnosed with Huntingtons Disease. I obviously dont work, and collect social security. But still look for ways to help me stop this terrible ugly imature looking habit...and good luck to all of you.
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November 26, 2010

Hi, I'm also a lip picker. The bleeding and the pain is awful, but somehow the process is fun, in a very sick way. I try to stop, I manage for a few days, but I start again. I know what I'm doing too. I pull off one flake and think, 'oh on. not again' or I remind myself that I've gone 3 days without picking and everything will be ruined if I do this. But once I start I can't stop. I have to finish, I have to make all of the surfaces feel even. I hate myself so much right now (I ruined my 3 day streak earlier). I couldn't eat with my family tonight because I coudn't get my top lip to stop bleeding, and didnt want everyone to stare at it, or ask me whats wrong with it. What do you guys do when people ask? my mom is the only one I've ever told (it would be hard to keep from her, since I've done it since before I started kindergarden). But I never know what to say to my friends when they ask what happened. I know they wont get it, and honestly it doesnt feel like it is worth the emotional effort it would take to explane when its a friend asking, but not a close friend. They ask about my fingers and hands mostly, I dont have a boyfriend or husband, so I guess no one stares at my lips too much. Maybe that is even the reason why I have trouble in that department. but I know how both of you feel, I hate myself after I do it, and I wish I could just wake up one morning and have my lips be healed. I think if i had a fresh start I would be okay, if there isnt anything to pick..... but what ever, that isn't happening. how long would healing completely take anyway? not that it matters. but oh god, i just get so frustrated. There don't seem to be many lip pickers out there. But really, what do you guys say to other people (who you aren't that close with)? and I;m sorry about your boyfriend, I don't know what I could say to help that, I have absolutely no experience where boys are conserned. But I hope it helps you to know other people share your problem. I wish there was a therapist who specialized in this stuff in my state (there isn't). But maybe there is one where you live? I dont think any of us can do any of this on our own.
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August 24, 2011

Hi everyone. I was reading the posts and it made me feel better that I'm not alone in this lip picking thing. I went to the doctors about 8 years ago because I did not know why I could not stop picking my lip. The doctor told me I had depression/OCD and gave me medication it helped for a while but then the picking got worse. The worst Part of the picking cycle is how satisfying to peel the skin off but then you feel guilty for picking because you are always trying to stop . I also used to obsess that I would get cancer from picking. I don't know how to stop :( any suggestions or helpful hints?
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February 01, 2013

hi I don't know if you will answer this but you said you went to the doctors, I didn't think this stuff was worth going to the doctors about even though I want to. what should I say to them It sound bad me saying Im here because I pick my skin all the time?
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October 28, 2011

Like everyone elses comments i always thought i was the only person to pick at my lips. My dear mother would drag me to the kitchen and rub salt into my cracked and bleeding lips when i was a young boy in an effort to stop me picking. Her main concern was that my lips made people think i was a beaten child! As other people have mentioned my picking can be linked to stress, but just being sat in front of the t.v can be enough to start me running my nails across my bottom lip looking for a bump or ridge to pull at. I have read of the dangers of this odd habit but being a smoker as well my health never really bothers me. Knowing that other people go through the same problems helps though.
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December 21, 2011

I had no idea how common this habit was... I'm 35 years old and I've been picking my lips for as long as I can remember. As a child I was ferocious about it. I would over pick them and of course they bled. As bad of a habit I know that it is and sometimes I do want to stop but I've also master the art of it so I do not cause any wounds. The reason I don't stop is because I like how smooth my lips feel after I've successfully removed that daily build up of skin. And for the record, using any sort of lip balm does not help stop this habit, it only helps you do it. Carmex is especially helpful because it 'preps' the skin for easy removal. Lip liner is very helpful in drying out that top layer as well. I'm sorry I've giving tips on how to continue this awful habit but it's a habit I rather enjoy doing and can be pleasurable when you do it properly.
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January 14, 2012

I do pick my lips really bad too. I just can't help it. Right now my lip is so swollen i cant even close my mouth.!! I am going out in public tomorrow and hopefully it will be gone. Hope things go well with you :)
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January 18, 2012

I watched this video today on youtube about a girl with trichotillomana and how she is struggling with it. It got me thinking, which led me to google and then finally this site. I have spent well over an hour reading about people with the same problems as me. I pick my lips till they bleed, scratch off scabs...you know, the whole shebang. The only thing is, I don't really see any underlying depression or anxiety that would cause this. I just don't like the way my lips feel when they are all crackly and chapped. I use chapstix like no other and lather on the lotion, but I find myself rubbing my finger on my lips or back or arms or even chest to find the bumps/scabs. I guess that is kind of obsessive...oh well. It really does gross me out, and i cant stand seeing other people do it, but I can't really stop. Actually, I guess I've never really tried to stop. Okay. I will. Today. At 5:58 pm on January 17th 2012, I officially stop, or at least try to stop. Wish me luck....
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March 22, 2012

How's your anti-lip picking campaign going? I;m restarting mine...
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January 27, 2012

I started picking my lip at age five, I remember feeling something prickly on my lip, It was skin. I remember picking it off and feeling as though i needed to pick some more. Every since ten I just couldn't bring myself to stop. even after the fact that I drew blood, I still picked until my fingers were bloody. I feel like this is something I wish I didn't have to deal with, I hate going in public and having people look at me funny because i cant seem to stop doing it. I can stop for a little but I always find myself doing it again. I'm 20 now and I've been doing this for fifteen years straight everyday.. I just wish it would go away!!
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February 19, 2012

Holy crap!!!! I'm not the only person who does this? Well this sucks. Cause now I can actually be classified as having some sort of disorder. Great now I know I have OCD. I did a search on lip picking because I was sitting at my computer picking my lips when I thought to do a search, and I'm sorry that I did, because now I kind of feel like there is absolutely no hope of stopping and having "normal lips", which I know absolutely nothing about, since I have never had them and have been ravaging the epidurmis on my lips since I can remember. Hello. My name is Charlie, and I'm a lip-picker....F@%$ ME.....
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May 27, 2012

This is exactly how I felt when I came across this post. What???? This is actually a disorter.... And then, does that mean I have to stop doing it?
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March 22, 2012

I'm right there with you! I'm 29 and have been doing this since I was 7 or 8. I read your story and it's a mirror image to mine. Telling us not to pick is like telling a cut not to bleed! I want to stop doing it but I get angry when others tell me to stop. It truly is a compulsive disorder. Almost as if some subconscious part of you wants to be defiant of your best interests. My boyfriend put off proposing to me because of this issue and I don't blame him. I've tried getting fake nails, bitter or spicy things to put on my fingers so I don't pick, carry vaseline around and have it stashed around the house, etc. Lately I've noticed I have constantly swollen lymph glands in my right neck and my ENT doc is concerned that this rapid tissue turnover and constant illness I subject myself to may lead to cancer cell development! That was a wake up call! I can't imagine my life being cut short by something so ridiculous! So now I'm enrolled in counseling for behavior modification therapy and considering some medication to treat this aggressively. If you take away a behavior you have to substitute something to take over for that loss. I realize I can't control it and I'm powerless over it. I need a professional's help. It was embarrassing to go and admit but no less embarrassing that my nasty lips that draws in everyones attention!!! I wish you the best too! I'm coming to the page more for more support!
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March 29, 2012

Wow..these stories are totally me!! I'm in my 50's and have been picking and biting my lower lips since a teenager. I have a daughter who also has trichotillomania (hair pulling) so it does run in the family. I know that the outcome of doing this will make my lip sore, cause bleeding and leave a scab but I can't help myself. I literally become obsessed with having to pick my lip. it's terrible. But it's great to know there is a place where others are doing it as well.
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March 31, 2012

I'm 19 years old and i've been picking my lips since I was 5, My mother is 40 and she also picks her lips. So I guess it runs in the family. I have tried so hard to stop picking my lips but I can't. My bottom lips is not even its natural color anymore due to all the picking. Sometimes I don't even register that i'm doing it, it so natural to me. I go crazy if I can't pick them. I admit to picking my lips bloody and raw till their literally sore, but even then I go on. And sometimes ya'll might know what i'm talking about, I get this really like hard patch of skin on my lips and it's so hard to get it off. (I'm going through that now.) And it drives me crazy. So sometimes I use little thread needles to stick under the skin to rip it so I can pick at it. I end up stabbing myself in the lips all the time. It's so embarrassing, because it's so ugly and people have to see it.
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April 01, 2012

Isn't that the truth? One can be picking for hours and not notice until the lip is bleeding and hurts. It seems like the picking is more important than the pain. I get the hard patch too and I want to pick that off as well. Some days I look like someone punched me in the mouth. I'm getting married very soon and I don't want my wedding photos to look like I've had a boxing round!
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May 27, 2012

Hey everyone. I am an 18 year old girl and until now I never knew that lip picking was something common among so many people. It makes me feel quite better I guess. Like most of you I have been doing it since I can remember myself. I would describe it like my stress fighting habbit, the same way that some people bite their nails. Everytime I need to concetrate on something or I am writing an exam it's NOT POSSIBLE to stop from doing it. Other than that though, I do it at random times around the day because I life the feeling of peeling the skin of your lips. I don't know exactly how you do it... I guess that is a weird question, but I use my thumb and middle finger to tear the skin. My lips always have "skinless" patches especially on the inside but never too the point where they are bruised and notice by anyone. I don't know how hard you are doing it. They are bloody most of the times, but it has never been something that I'm "ashamed" of. I have been doing it for so long i'm quite used to the whole thing. Of course, my mom and everyone close to me has been persuading me to stop, but it's just not possible. Also, I don't know if this make me extra weird or if it is also common but when I remove the skin and it's caught up under my fingernails I find it relaxing to slowly remove it while smelling it. As I said, it calms me down.... I guess the only part that sucks is that when done around people you look very weird and make ugly faces trying to get the skin from all the parts of your lips. Do you ever get that? Rania
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June 29, 2012

Wow it's great to know I'm not the only lip picker out there! Im so sick of it. I can't help it. Once I start, I don't stop until my lip feels "evened out" It's the worst when I'm at work. I'll go outside for a cigarette, I'll come back in with half of my lip torn up. No one at work asks me about it, they probably think I'm disgusting, but I can't help it! It drives me nuts if I don't pick on a daily basis. I get extremely nervey and almost pissed off. I've been in a relationship for over two years, and I'm so lucky to have a boyfriend who understands this issue I have. Only thing that really sucks is that it hurts when we kiss :( I want to STOP. It makes my confidence go down and I hate it. How do I get over this!??
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July 07, 2012

I am a recovered lip picker. I have done it for God knows how long, I honestly can't remember. I'm 29 now & have not done it in a few months. I'm committed to never starting up again. When I was around 15 I introduced an infection into my lips & they were horrific, I didn't go to school for a whole week & had to make up a random excuse...but even that wasn't bad enough for me to stop (I mean I stopped while they were infected but once I healed I was back at it). Once I reached adulthood I stopped a couple times but would literally pick one time & be back at it. It was never bad enough that someone who didn't know me would really notice but my husband & mom would comment. I hated the fact that i did it but couldn't figure out how to stop. I would be able to get through a whole work day without touching them but once I got home (especially evenings) it was bad. Once my 2yo started picking at his lips (cuz he saw me doing it) I knew this was serious, I would feel so awful if he started doing it to. The only way I've been able to stop in the past was to be accountable to someone, always my husband. So I told him I was stopping that day & I was accountable to him. That was it. That's all it took oddly enough. I didn't want to let him down so I never did it again & I'm not even tempted. Another thing that worked previously was to have a goal. "If I stop picking for 3 weeks then I'll reward myself with _____". That & accountability has worked for me. I hope to never do it again, as enjoyable as it is in the moment, I always felt like crap when I looked in the mirror before bed. Good luck everyone, you can do it!
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August 18, 2012

I've been picking on my lips for 4 months now, I'm 12 :P And one day I just started touching my lips and pick on them for no apparent reason. Then my lips started to get really bad. And I couldn't stop. So one day my mom cut all my nails, I had a urge to start picking but my nails were too short so I stopped! Everything went a way in about a day or two. But my nails grow fast so I started picking them again, and now since I found that I'm not alone I'm relived. Cutting my nails help me with 2 reasons, for not picking my lips, and for playing the violin. Now I need to go and cut my nails before things gets worst! And I start school next week!! I don't want anyone to see my lips looking weird! It's the first day of Middle School for me! Hope this helped everyone. Cutting your nails will work just fine.
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August 20, 2012

I know how you feel. I pick my lip all the time. I've been doing it since I was a little girl and I'm 40 years old now. I used to pick my face when I was younger as well, but fotunately I stopped doing that, as it was leaving ugly pock marks all over my face. If I knew exactly what caused me to stop picking my face, I would use that same remedy to stop picking at my lip. I have noticed that anytime that I feel uneven skin on my face, my hand goes up to start picking, but perhaps I stop in my tracks for two reasons, 1) its more painful and 2) the pock marks, that it leaves behind, are disgustng. So maybe that is my remedy, but unfortunately, it hasnt helped me to stop picking my lips. I picked my bottom lip so badly the other day, that it was bleeding and swollen. It's still hurts now and its 3 days later. So while the left side of my bottom lip heals, I've moved to picking the right side. SMH.
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August 28, 2012

I had no idea other people do this! I know about the hair pulling and other disorders, but I didn't realize I had one - well, I knew this was not normal, but until googling had no idea others do it! Yesterday I was getting a tire replaced and the urge to pick was so bad, I use my teeth a lot too, I bit at a hard patch until I got it off and, of course... major blood. Just about the time I got it off, I realized the guy behind the counter was watching. I was SO embarrassed. What a nutjob he must be thinking I am. Then it bleeds another 10 minutes and I'm trying to pay for my service while acting like "no biggie". UGH, I have to stop doing this. I can go a few days, but the minute that skin starts coming back, I have to get it off. I bleed almost every time, I pull too deep. I know I'm going too deep, but I do it anyway! I'm 47 and I really don't remember when I started this. I don't think I did this when I was younger. I've had a lot of stress the last 10 years and I'm sure that plays into it. Now that I know I'm not alone, I'm going to tackle this. Glad I found this site!
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August 29, 2012

Ok so for me it began when i was about 8 or 7. i just remember touchin my lips. now im 13 and i remeber my ex always got so mad becasue she saw all the the cuts on my lips. it was only my bottom lip. i still do it alot. i mean i can't stop. but im begging to get control over it. usally when i start to touch my lip i get vazaline so i cant pick my lip. another way is i try not to think aobut it. but when its on my mind i do it alot.
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August 29, 2012

You're 13 and you have an ex??? :)
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August 29, 2012

I pick my lips too (I'm 23 and have been doing it since grade school)! Usually in public and around people I try to just bite instead. I also pick at the skin around my fingers. The one thing I found does help is having fake nails. I still pick but they make it so it's less severe. I have anxiety disorder and picking/biting seems to just relax me. I realize I do it when I am more stressed out and tend to notice I hardly do it when I am with my boyfriend. I don't do it to feel pain, and get irritated if it does hurt or bleed and stop. I just want my lips and skin on my fingers to be smooth usually once my lips are smooth I stop. I'll used nail clippers to clean up my fingers and then stop. It's a weird thing to be doing I find my hands get sore from repetitively picking and I am most worried arcarpal tunnel or arthritis in the future. It's like how smokers just addicted to the hand to mouth action and the smoking not just the nicotine. It's something I've done for years and I'm just used to doing.
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August 29, 2012

It may also be a perfectionism thing. I work at it till it's "perfect" and I tend to over-work on things to try to reach some level of my idea of perfect also - so for me this could be a factor. All I know it it's for sure linked to anxiety!
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September 11, 2012

I had no idea others did this. I've been picking my lips since preschool and I'm 20 now. It drives my mother crazy and she constantly tells me to stop but I can't. I literally pick until they bleed then stop and five minutes later when it's scanned over I pick it again. The only time I stop is when I pick so much I'll cause myself to get a fever blister. I tend to pick the same spot until its too sore to touch. I've tried to stop picking my lips but I've noticed when I do I pick at the skin on my thumbs until they bleed. Its really Embarassing when someone holds my hand. I always wondered if it was a disorder. I just avoid googling it out of embarrassment. Now I know. :(
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October 01, 2012

I'm 22..I've been picking my lips since I can remember. I pick them all the time my entire family especially my mom always tells me to stop or slaps my hand! It gets so bad to the point where ill begin to drull on myself! I don't understand why I do it and where it came from! When I do it in public I get all kind of weird looks...so I try not to! I also bite the insides of my jaws and puck scabs! I can't stand scabs....Ive even tried to pick other peoples scabs! I just feel weird idk!!!
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October 04, 2012

Hey there, I've been picking and ripping up my lips my whole life, every time I decided to stop, I found myself ripping up the flesh around my thumbs and fingers. This has gotten even whorse, since I'm about to move to the U.S. and start med school. I decided I have to stop, but couldn't imagine how. I didn't pick for about two weeks now, and had no urge. I first started using chap stick... A LOT of chap stick. Every time I've had an urge, I've applied a thick amount on my lips. Also, I keep in mind to ALWAYS have something in my hands. It distracts them, it can be anything reay, a pen, a phone, anything. Then it got real bad. I found myself constantly under pressing my urge, which resulted bad head aches. Now, don't laugh, but I found the ideal thing to replace this disgusting disorder: Knitting. You read that right: knitting. I knit hats, scarves, anything. It's easy to learn, distracts and gives you a goal. You should really try it, and if it doesn't work out for you as well as it did for me, don't give up. You'll find something.
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October 06, 2012

I'm also 20 and have been picking my lips forever. I'm just like you, lol, I don't even notice I'm doing it until it stings or I'm bleeding. I was able to stop once for about three weeks, the secret? Fake nails. Honestly, I hate fake nails, I don't like how they look on me and are, more often than not, tacky. But when I had acrylic tips for prom my senior year, I couldn't pick my lips. I even had moments of overwhelming anxiety not being able to, but over time those moments grew further apart. It got to the point where I would touch my lips constantly because I still had the compulsion, but no longer picked at them. I hated the nails so much that when they came off, I didn't replace them, I should have. Try it out for longer than 3 weeks, it's a habit like any other and CAN be broken, it just takes more patience than what I gave it. My friends are the same, always smacking my hand away and telling me to stop, ignore them, they don't understand and cannot help. You can take control of it, but it has to be YOUR decision, don't worry about your boyfriend, you should stop for you :) and you can do it
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October 08, 2012

i am also shocked and relieved i am not the only one doing this. I am 22 and i have been picking/ripping my lips since i was in preschool. My boyfriend gets so frustrated with me doing it and gets angry when he catches me doing it. i cant help myself, espically when they are nice and dry its defentily a habit i cant control. I hate the way they look after i pick them and always go through that many chapsticks and lip balms. My lips will tend to stay unpicked for a few days when they are healed but as soon as they get a little dry i am picking them again sometimes to the point where they are bleeding its defentily not a good look!. I wish i could stop doing it help!
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October 12, 2012

I used to pick at my lips really bad too. it was at its worst when I was smoking crack because my lips were always burnt and peeling. Since I've quit I've been picking at them a lot less, but what really helped me the most was using carmex. I use it constantly to keep my lips mosturized and I've found that as long as they aren't dry I don't feel the need to pick at them.
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October 26, 2012

Wow. holy dam. I just discovered this site. Maaaaaan..... I thought I was the only stupid mofo who did this to my lips. I pick and pick and pick and pick. It bleeds. Blood like that doesn't even bother me. I pick, and I see blood, and I say, Oh blood, and continue I won't lie, I have anxiety, and social anxiety You can tell anxious energy runs through my body when I sit down, I shake my leg a lot, I always gotta be moving I'll watch video on my laptop, and picking my lip is just a natural habit. Where did this come from?? Dam, I'm a hardcore lip picker and nail biter, and finger picker where the hell did these habits come from. It's awesome (well not awesome, but eye-opening) to see that there are many people like me out there, I had no Idea. I wish you all the best of luck on your journey of beating this stupid demon inside ourselves, I bless all of you. I'm 23, I've been doing this for God knows how many years, and I'm freaking tired of it, I'm sick of it. I can't do this anymore. Good for everyone who says they use fake nails, that's great. but sorry, I'm a dude, I can't do that. Some people say, they use lip balm. Lip balm, for me, just makes the skin smoother and easier to pick, and maybe hurt a little less, so that doesn't work for me either. I feel like a freaking artist, like a wood carver, or ice carver or sculpter or some thing. It's an art form for me. I have to make it perfect and I won't stop until it's perfectly all cut. I look down on my phone and sometimes an hour has passed, wasting my life on this bs. I can't do it anymore, I'm fed up, I'm talking right now, you can say you hate it as much as possible, but the next day, you know you're going to do this again. dam, I hate this habit.....no it's not a habit, it's more. this is freaking crazy, and I'm done with it. Well good luck to you all, cause I wouldn't wish this on anyone. As I type this, I got done with picking for the night, my lips are sore, and bloody, and painful. All my nails are way below where they should be. This has to end NOW!!! Once we all finally get over this hill, our lives will improve 1000% Guaranteed, but we must stop! Good luck all! Blessings to you for you all to beat this sh*t!! Cause I know I'm finally ready to beat this thing. This is almost like a coke habit for me, except I don't do coke, i pick my freaking skin.
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November 06, 2012

I totally get what your saying, I feel embarrassed cuz I feel like people get the wrong empression when they see my lips, I don't like kissing because I'm sooo ashamed tell me if u find a way to stop
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April 21, 2013

ever beat the habit?seeming as its about 6 months later, let me know!
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November 06, 2012

I don't feel like such a freak now that I know I'm not alone I really want to stop picking at my lip and I really have tried chapstick and candy I do it worse when I'm stressed its like a habit they look bad and sometimes lipstick wont hide it, I'm twenty six,my husband gets aggravated at me and even my six year old tells me to stop, I know how u feel
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November 06, 2012

The way I described it to my husband was: remember when u were a kid and u wud take glue and put it on your hands and let it dry, then peeled it off? It was fun but doesn't have the after affects like lip picking, that's the best way I describe it
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November 06, 2012

I knew that I was not the only person that picks the skin off my lips but I did not know that it was this serious. I have been picking the skin off my lips since I was in the 1st grade. I saw my mother doing it one day and started because she was. I have tried using chapstick to make sure I don't but it doesn't work. My b/f gets mad because he says it makes my lips ugly. Like some of you, he would pull my hands away from my face which would only make me anxious. If you have ever saw a movie with a drug addict feening for their "fix" then you know how I am. That’s how I feel whenever he pulls my hands away from my face. Then I try to sneak and do it without him seeing. Which only works for like a minute or two. I am now 27, so this has been going on for almost 21 years. One of the things that helps me is when I go get my nails done (sorry guys). Because of the thickness of the acrylic, it prevents me from being able to successfully pull the off my lip so I don't do it. However, I am tired of spending money just to keep myself from picking my lips until they bleed, burn and are sore. I am just tired of it but can't stop.
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November 09, 2012

AS many here have already said, I had no ideas there was a name for this compulsion that I hate so much! Sorry but I've been at it 40 yrs or more! I tell people it's a nervous habit! My hubbie or daughter have literally had to hold my hand thru church services because they can't stand my pulling the skin off my cuticles until they bleed, and I go through boxes of bandaids. They begin to heal and I reinjure before they get a chance. Then there's picking the callouses off my heels until there is nothing but raw skin and I can barely walk on them! Or biting the skin off my lips until they bleed. I, too, feel so helpless to this compulsion, and there's not denying that I need some help. It's like I cannot stand any loose skin, cracks, or unexplained bumps on my skin. Is it perfectionistic tendencies and lack of ability to let things be? Do I attack blemishes before they even have a chance to come to a head in the same way I attack problems and try to fix them before the involved parties are ready? This cannot be self willed away--believe me, I have tried! I even get angry at those who try to prevent me from doing it. How can something so vicious be calming and soothing, and be so embarassing and painful, yet so uncontrollable? Oh, yeah, that's what makes it a compulsion! The artificial nails do work, but are they really solving the problem or just preventing the symptoms?
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December 23, 2012

Ive been lip picking for at least 2 years and its horrible, Ive tried stopping but usually cant go more than a day without doing too and i just realized im doing it now whilst typing . My friends usually tell me to stop but i just wait til they're not looking and continue doing it , My lips are always chapped dry and peeling because i never give them the chance to recover but im glad im not the only one that does it. Also if i ever get itchy bites i always have the urge to pick them and have to resort in covering them with band aids just to stop myself.
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January 02, 2013

I'm right there with you guys. My mom was and still is a lip picker. I guess that's where I got it from. I started very little, around 5 or 6 yrs old. Mine became way more severe than hers was though. I pick my lips outside and chew them inside. Sometimes I get sores from this. I've gotten so good at this crap that you can't even tell by looking at my lips. There is no evidence. But you can catch my fingers by my mouth all day long. My parents and my husband yell at me when they see me doing it but that does little to stop me. Anyone have suggestions that you have found to work for stopping this habit? Even now, I'm chewing away and I'm grossing myself out over here. Help anyone?
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January 02, 2013

Oh my gosh! I thought I was the only one who did this! For as long as I can remember, I've been picking my lips. I pick them until they bleed. It pisses off my bf because he doesn't want me to scar my lips, I'm not sure if that's even possible, maybe he's just saying it to get me to stop, but I barely notice when I do it. Like, I know I'm doing it and I know I shouldn't, but then it's like I don't notice or don't care. It sort of annoys me when I wind up with red spots where they were bleeding, it looks bad but doesn't leave any scars or anything, so I don't really mind. No one at work says anything about it, no one besides him tells me to stop. But being yelled at to stop doesn't exactly help. So I don't know what else to do. I bought this stuff to help me numb and moisturize my lips, because it's the way they feel that bothers me the most. They feel like they are peeling anyway, so I think "I'll just peel off the dying skin". But it turns out, they aren't peeling at all. I don't know why they feel like they are, and it really bothers me.
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January 13, 2013

I've been picking my lips since I was a small child, I noticed my sister doing it and so I started, i didn't realise it was a problem till I began comprehensive school it got worse then. I'm going to try and stop again, Thank you all, I am so glad to know I am not alone here and I'll keep you all updated.
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January 09, 2013

I have been picking way at my lips for as long as I can remember. I pick and pick until my fingers are covered in blood and my eyes are watering, and even then I keep picking. Sometimes when I'm out I bite my lip and realise I'm making a weird face so I have to stop. And the problem is, I know what I'm doing to myself, and I just can't stop. I saw a comment about fake fingernails working but I'm only 15 so I don't think I should be wearing fake nails. If someone thinks of a good way to stop please let me know!
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January 30, 2013

Fake finger nails will definately stop the picking but not the biting and 15 is totally a normal age for fake nails. The reason it works is cause you can't grab any skin. So picking solved but biting....I have no answer for that. Buf I will tell you when you wont be able to pick due to the nails. You will actually get angry you can't pick...or at least I do.
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February 19, 2013

When my lips bleed, I put paper towels or tissue paper on them. I originally did it to stop the bleeding fast and keep my parents from asking about it. Even after it's stopped bleeding, I sometimes keep it there, just so that I'll stop picking or biting it. I also put chapstick on because my lips become more slippery and it's harder to pick... however when my lips dry, the flaky parts become pronounced. I don't know what to do. :/ I was surprised when I went to school and someone had lips like mine. I said I bit my lips and she told me she picked hers! I was so shocked that someone else did too and told her I picked mine as well! I really need to get out of this habit. One time, I was so frustrated that one part of my lip wouldn't come off and just kept bleeding. My lips just got slippery so I took a nail clipper to my lip and cut it. There was still a flab left though... so I kept picking. Sometimes I think of taking tweezers to my lips and pulling at it when my nails are cut short. I have so many habits already, you'd think one of those would distract me from picking, but it doesn't. My lips are so uneven I feel bumps when my fingers go over them. Sometimes I leave ugly gashes or bleed a lot. A lot. One time I bled so much, I started getting drops of blood on my homework. I was so embarrassed that I scratched it out with pen. I'm seventeen now, and I worry that when I go to college, my problems will get even worse because of the new environment and fear. I'm a really outwardly confident person, so people don't expect me to have problems... but I can't stop my habits. When I used to wear make-up, I'd put on lip gloss or lipstick to cover up the gashes. Sometimes I'd lick my lips to smooth them out and stop myself from picking them, but they'd just dry up even more. I used to think my lip picking was seasonal, but now it's a lot more often. I really hope we can all get over this habit. Let's try our best!
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January 14, 2013

I too began my picking with biting deep holes in my lips.... One night I was watching a movie and I bit so deep I hit an artery in my bottom lip.... I began to hemorrhage blood at such an increased speed it was shooting straight out from my lip... I was rushed to the ER where they but 6 stitches deep in my lip.... I have a small bump in that place now.... That throbs occasionally.... After going trough this, is when my habit of stabbing and picking my gums began...... :0( I feel like a freak! I know I need help......
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January 14, 2013

Wow. I posted this years ago and forgot about it. Just now as i was trying to fall asleep i began to pick. I picked up my phone and googled lip picking...something i hadn't googled or searched in awhile. The second google search that came up were words that i recognized. I clicked on it and realized these were my words...from years ago. And that people were still posting & commenting! I couldn't believe it. I still suffer from picking unfortunately. However seeing that my post has made others feel not so alone has inspired me. In what way I'm not sure...but it has. Maybe i will stop picking today; right now. Maybe i will tomorrow or in five years, i don't know. I was just shocked to see my words come up on a google search. I felt not so alone anymore, and sometimes thats all we need.
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January 30, 2013

I also pick my lips and I can't remember not doing it. Im 18 now. And I don't know if this qualifies me for grossness but I eat the skin I peel off. My lips have never healed but for one time and it happened in one day I used some type of chapstick constantly and even that night I picked again. I don't know if I will everstop picking. I don't really want to stop picking. I like it. It makes me feel good without notice I just know I hate not doing it. Its so painful i will pick until it bleeds. Give it a second and pick again...then minutes later look down and I have blood on my fingers. I don't know if I will ever stop bugoy husband says its ugly and makes my lips ugly. He just doesn't understand I NEED to do it. I sit all day and pick my lips even when I think I've done good by not picking them... I haven't, its just me not noticing the picking. I don't plan to ever stop if it makes me feel better than I guess its worth it. That's probably a bad way to think but it how my brain works. Just wanted to tell my story... thanks!

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