Split End Pickers?

Okay, I don't know if ya'll do this but, I rip out my split ends and I have to see what they look like. I have to ge them all out of my hair. I am ripping out the back of my hair! Help, do you do this?

OK SO basically i started randomly pulling my split ends apart when i saw then. I didnt really think anything of it. after a while i started taking thicker chunks, starting halfway through my hair, and sliding my nail down it. Therefore, taking out a million split ends at a time. Its crazy. idek wht to do anymore. No one understand how happy i get when i see a split end with multiple splits. i will literally pull out that strand and examine it for a good 10 mintues. idek what to do anymore. someone help me,
omg okay so im sooooo glad i am not the only one! i have NO idea how this addiction started but i am totally aware that its an addiction. So heres my story. I started doing this at age 12. and i was obsessed. i couldnt stop. when i was in class or just bored or maybe even just watching tv i would find my self later picking at my split ends. and my split ends are the bad kind. the "Tree split ends" they're just soooo fun to pull out. i love rubbing my fingers up and down when i find multiple split ends on one strand. So i remeber this one time in 7th grade aka when i was 12. i was in science class and my teacher always threatened to cut my hair off with scissors bc i wouldnt leave my hands alone and once she warned me about giving me detention if i wouldnt stop. so obviously i got the detention. and she always called my mom about it. it was bad. then the end of 8th grade i stopped. and now... at age 15 in 10th grade i just got diagnosed with ADHD and ive been taking concerta and it brought back this addiction! i cannooooott put my hair down anymore! its sooo bad i have a hole on my index finger from pressing my thumb nail on it. and in class i would be doing this then 10 minutes later i realized i have been doing this for the past 30 minutes and i would find bunch of hairs on my desk and its so embarrising. i cant stop and i dont want to cut my hair. its already longer than shoulder length. is this a disease? idk help.
I am 60 years old and recently re-started picking at my split ends and pulling out my hair. I am on anti anxiety and anti depression medication and have been for a while. I used to do this as a teenager. I believe I did it because I was molested by my grandfather and it blocked out the memories of that. I had extremely short hair most of my adult life, and when I decided to let my hair grow, I had to use flat irons on it to get the curl and frizz out. I think that's what caused all the split ends! It's comforting even at my age to know that other people suffer from this malady.
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I would just like to say I'm so glad I'm not the only one who does this. Most of my split ends are on my bangs, and almost all of them are split. I look even weirder, with my now super short bangs pulled close to my face. I feel this weird sense of accomplishment or joy when I find a really unusual type of split end. I even looked up pictures of magnified split ends online! This is getting out of control. I'm going to start trying to wear a headband. It's weird, how one girl said she could feel which hairs were split without looking. That's actually pretty cool. But alas, I MUST STOP THIS!
I started picking at my split ends a little over a year ago when I was bored in class. Now it takes up so much time of my day. I love finding a hair with multiple split ends. When I was 11 I had trich and pulled my hair out all the time. I managed to stop doing that on my own, so just know that it is possible! However, it took me over a year to completely stop pulling out my hair but I did it. I just hope I'll be able to stop picking my split ends. Does anyone know why people do this? It just relaxes me and takes my mind off of things. I'm so thankful that I found this group and I hope we can all stop together.
I'm not sure exactly how long I have been picking my hair but I know it's been a while now. I'm only 14 and picking my hair is constant everyday thing. my mom showed it to me by always wanting to pick my hair sense I straighten it so much (which I know is bad for my hair, it's just that I don't like my natural hair) now I don't blame my mom for my bad habit nor do I hate her for showing it to me, I just want someone to help me stop. It's distracting when I'm doing anything especially when I'm doing my homework. It's horrible cuz I spend so much time picking at my dead ends that i end up haveing to go late into the night doing homework which also cuts into family time. My mom has tried to find several therapists for us but all of them either are too far away or ask for an extreme amount of money that we don't have. My mom talked to this one therapist and he asked for 200$ a month for a 4 month session. I mean common that's 800$ for only 4 months. I just don't understand, all of us on this site want and need help and the only people to help us ask for so much money. So I'm asking plz someone help us
I havent posted anything for a few months, everything was going well, felt empowered that I had stopped pulling my split ends, then for no reason you say to yourself, just pick one thats ok, and before you know it your back to picking it just like you used to!!! I wish I had better news for everyone, I will hope to try again soon.
I am exactly the same!!!! I have been doing it since I was about 12 and am now 28!!!! I can't stop it although I know it's damaging my hair. I will be on a roll and then find clumps of hair on my chest which is what I've picked! I wish someone could help or give me an explanation of why I do this and if anything could have triggered it? ;((
I didn't even know what split ends were until a few years back and then all the girls in my class used to sit around with scissors and cut off a few cms above the split end hence "helping" their hair. I, on the other hand, find incredible fun and entertainment in sitting in front of a white screen/wall and slowly examining each and every hair for a split end. I get a rush of excitement when I see unusual split ends (like fluffy, broken or ends that have split like 10 times) and I peel them apart. It's really bad, but the thing is, nearly every single hair on my head is split...most are small splits that you can;t even see but there are HEAPS AND HEAPS of split ends. im pretty sure im killing my hair but its so much damn fun and i just realised i sound like a pyscho but its true haha :P
OMG your comment made me laugh so hard! I can totally see myself getting lost in piles of split ends - it is so addictive.
I am so glad that I'm not alone in this fight. I can't recall how long I've been picking my split ends, but the behaviour has morphed into an addiction that I'm having difficulty breaking. I try to control it when I'm around others, but those closest to me have noticed by now. I also know that it stresses my mother out because she has seen me pick my ends many times and has witnessed my lovely locks deteriorate into thin, uneven hair. I don't ever peel the ends but break them off or cut them off instead. I've previously rationalized this by thinking that this my hair was healthier because LESS SPLIT ENDS = GOOD. I thought that this would make my hair look better. This wonderful little defense mechanism worked well for a while. But on one occasion a coworker grabbed my ponytail exclaiming, "wow, your hair looks thin!". It made me feel sad and disappointed in myself because it proved that I was destroying my hair instead. I also realized that no one will ever exclaim, "wow, you have so few split ends! Amazing!". It's difficult to speak with others about this. They don't understand to what extent this controls my life. When I think of all the hours spent (read: completely WASTED) picking my hair, it makes me feel ashamed and anxious. But wallowing in these feelings will not help me in moving forward. I am trying to practise mindfulness and remain aware of the present moment through meditation. Realistically I think that it will take much more than this to break the addiction so I'll look into cognitive behavioral therapy techniques as well. Good luck everyone! You're not alone in this!
after reading many of your other stories I am relieved I'm not alone, and as many others this compulsion has gotten in the way of my my daily life. It's embarrassing and I want nothing more than you stop, but even when my friends try to help me by pointing out that I'm doing it I only feel more embarrassed and I want to do it even more. The compulsion started as nail biting and moved to split end picking in high school. The only trick I've found to combat both is fake nails. The nails are somewhat thicker than your average nail and make it difficult to maneuver picking your hair. If you seriously want to stop I would advise this.
I am so thankful to know that I am not alone. I feel like such a freak! Someone, I forget who, said something about the split ends "that look like feathers" and I think I know what you're talking about - those are my favourite kind! There is something so satisfying about just running my fingernails over those ones. I think it's a combination of the feeling, the sound and the look of not just this kind of split end, but any kind of split end, that makes picking at them and pulling them apart so addictive. I feel really weird typing this but it's something I've been thinking about a lot and I know most of you will understand what I'm describing. My habit started in sixth grade, I was eleven. I still remember the day I took notice of split ends and began picking at them. I was bored in class and not paying attention, as per usual, when I started playing with and examining my hair. At first, I wouldn't focus on a single strand of hair, but on a whole bunch. Using the nails of my index finger and thumb, I would move up and down the shaft of the hair, tearing off the ends of about ten or so hairs at once. I never thought much of it, just something to occupy my hands and brain, until I went to the hairdresser's. She showed me the back of my head and it looked like a section of my hair had been burnt off! I was mortified! From then on, I knew that picking at my split ends was not good for my hair. Alas, I am now in the tenth grade, fifteen years old, and I still cannot break this habit. Because of my picking, I have two little sections of my bottom layer of hair that aren't long enough to fit in a ponytail! Even when my hair is in a ponytail, I grab it and pick. Now I put it up in a bun but I STILL find myself picking at those two little sections! It's gotten so bad that the hair in these sections are only about half an inch long. I hate this habit so much!! At this point, it feels like I'm no longer in control; like my hands have a mind and an agenda of their own. I desperately want to get over this habit, but at the same time, I don't know if it's worth it. In the end, I just want to be able to straighten my hair without worrying about it being uneven!! P.s. - I noticed that a lot of you were asking if other people with this habit could post updates and strategies, so I'll try to keep you updated on my habit and if I come across any strategies, y'all will be the first to know!
You just described everything I do! I am so obsessed with the texture of a clicking, cracking split end. I am coming to a point where it is all I do it is literally taking over my life!!
hi there, I have been picking my split ends for years now, i was looking through this thread and what your saying sounds EXACTLY like me, being obsessed with running my fingers up my hair and ripping it apart! i put my air in a bun but end up still picking it out and my hair ends up a mess. i can be in a trance for hours doing it, i'm about to go in a shower or something, an hour later i'm still there! i live with my boyfriend and when he tells me to stop i get so stressed and have to do it even more. it started with pulling my hair out when i was 11, then i managed to stop that after having bald pathes and cutting my hair really short but then when i was about 14 i notices split ends and have done it consistently, im 24 now so thats 10 years!. i dont want to go to the hairdressers because im embarrassed which obv makes the situation worse! ive read up loads about thricholomania (cant spell it!) but its always mostly to do with pullin hair out athough i do do this a wee bit its really cause im pulling at it because i like the snapping noise it makes when it breaks. it feels so wierd and feel like a phsyco because it is so obsessive and get satisfaction from doing it and total stress if im stopped from doing it. my hair is a mess, i use half wigs and extentions and stuff at the weekend and have to tie my hair up everyday! ive been on SSRI antidepressants for other issues which i was told may help bit it didnt at all. it completely takes over my life and get hair all over the house, my desk at work its horrible :( i wish there was some cure. anything any1 can tell me that mioght help would be appreciated. just joined this today and im hoping it will help me address the problem, but also feel relieved that other people do the exact same thing! i used to have really long thick shiny hair, even when i first started doing this and it is so depressing and i already suffer from depression so its too much! somebody help us!!
So I've been picking my split ends for about 10 years now, I'm now 21.. When I was like 14 I basically picked my whole fringe out I had to wear a head band for 6 months or so untill it grew in a bit. I have my stages with this I can be really good for about 6 weeks then all of a sudden il just start again and before I know it's been around 8months or so! I've got extensions in right now to try and let my hair grow hoping I will give up this horrible habit as I've spent a lot of money on them, I've been trying to pick the extensions insted of my actual hair but it's just not the same I love the feeling of the split end detaching from my hair. I've recently just for a fringe cut as the front of my hair was so brittle and thin. I've been using Moroccan oil everyday and it does seam to help a bit but I still always find hair to pick at.. My mums a hairdresser and thinks I'm crazy, I do this habit in front of my friends (who don't understand this addiction either) Ive even found myself standing behind the counter at work with a pair of scissors in my hand chopping at my hair. I NEED HELP this is honestly taking over my life all I want it long beautiful hair :/!!
Omg i thought i was the only one... i started pulling out my split ends about three years ago when a hair dresser over bleached my hair and it was completely fried. I got so addicted to it that i started using tiny scissors to cut them. It got to the point where i ended up cutting my hair completly uneven, so i went and got my hair cut to my shoulder and i still cannot stop picking my split ends! Even if i barely have any or none at all, I'll sit there for hours looking for them! I usually do it when I'm laying in bed, or sitting in class bored and once i start i can't stop until i have to or when i get extremely embarrassed when people look at me funny.. i am determined to stop because i want my long healthy hair back! It is taking over my life :/
I hope this website/blog helps me somehow honestly. I don't know if anyone will take the time to read my story but I'm going to share it anyways. My story. along with my others, is relatively the same. I don't know when I started to peel my hair. probably about 3rd grade. I think I was watching a boring movie and decided to see what would happen if I just peeled one. if I could go back and slap myself I would. Peeling my split ends has become more of an addiction then a bad habit and NO ONE understands. My parents constantly yell at me. my friends get annoyed with it and yell at me. my boyfriend probably things I'm so weird. he doesn't say anything about it anymore but I know he notices it. I can't see anyone helping me. no one knows how to. putting my hair in a pony tail doesn't work- as soon as it comes out I go straight to peeling. cutting my hair doesn't work, the split ends come back. my vision is so bad because of it. my grades are suffering because I don't pay attention in school- all I do is peel my split ends. i have dents in my thumbs from it. wrinkles in my forehead. I'm only 15. I saw somewhere on this blog "it's like smoking all your life and wanting to quit but constantly having a lit cigarette in your hand". I honestly don't know what to do anymore. I don't want to be like the other people on this website that has been doing it for 40 years. I don't want to have horrible thinning hair. I JUST WANT TO STOP. I've gotten into arguments with my patens and friends because they think I can just put it in a ponytail or cut it off or simply "just stop" but it's not that simple and i don't know what to do anymore. this is me calling out for help but no one knows how to help. I'm honestly sitting her sobbing because reading this is breaking my heart.
I hope this website/blog helps me somehow honestly. I don't know if anyone will take the time to read my story but I'm going to share it anyways. My story. along with my others, is relatively the same. I don't know when I started to peel my hair. probably about 3rd grade. I think I was watching a boring movie and decided to see what would happen if I just peeled one. if I could go back and slap myself I would. Peeling my split ends has become more of an addiction then a bad habit and NO ONE understands. My parents constantly yell at me. my friends get annoyed with it and yell at me. my boyfriend probably things I'm so weird. he doesn't say anything about it anymore but I know he notices it. I can't see anyone helping me. no one knows how to. putting my hair in a pony tail doesn't work- as soon as it comes out I go straight to peeling. cutting my hair doesn't work, the split ends come back. my vision is so bad because of it. my grades are suffering because I don't pay attention in school- all I do is peel my split ends. i have dents in my thumbs from it. wrinkles in my forehead. I'm only 15. I saw somewhere on this blog "it's like smoking all your life and wanting to quit but constantly having a lit cigarette in your hand". I honestly don't know what to do anymore. I don't want to be like the other people on this website that has been doing it for 40 years. I don't want to have horrible thinning hair. I JUST WANT TO STOP. I've gotten into arguments with my patens and friends because they think I can just put it in a ponytail or cut it off or simply "just stop" but it's not that simple and i don't know what to do anymore. this is me calling out for help but no one knows how to help. I'm honestly sitting her sobbing because reading this is breaking my heart.
Hi! I also like to mess with my spilt ends. I grab either end and peel it in half, sometimes when it peels really far up ill just pull the hair out. I've noticed myself also picking off my mascara. I've been peeling my ends for 2 years now, my hair isn't that bad, but I know it'll only get worse. It has changed a bit since I started peeling. It sucks because my mom always tells me to stop but it's so addictive I can't. I've been working really hard to stop but every time I try I fail and I peel my ends more then before. My grades are beginning to suffer because of my addiction to peeling my ends. My eyesight used to be perfect, so perfect my mom was often surprised on how far away I could read things from. Now I don't have that ability, I can't sit in the back of the classroom and see perfectly fine. What I hate most about my addiction is that no one understands. I want to tell my mom that I need to go to therapy for help, but I feel as if she would laugh at my face. I have really long hair and I would never want to so anything to make it shorter. I started in 7th grade thinking it was good because I was getting rid of split ends. But later I realized how bad it was for my hair, it was too late at that point I became an addict. I really wish I could stop but I feel that to be impossible.
cant believe i have found a sight were people are describing exactly what i do. ive picked for about 8years or so? probably more.. but i love split ends. i like finding hairs that have hundreds of splits coming off, or even finding a 'crispy' hair, and pulling it through my nails so i make split ends off it myself. its so relaxing, however much i try to stop i cant, i hate doing it cos it hurts my fingers and makes my hair greasy. when i have hairs with loads of splits i even feel the urge to tell people. no idea what i have but i thought i was alone...
Hey all. Much like the others here, I'm addicted to peeling my split ends and can't seem to stop. I have been doing it for 10 years now, and I have DAMAGED MY EYESIGHT it's so bad. Holding the hairs so close to my face, pulling them over my head and down in front of my eyes and focusing my vision so closely to see them, I now need glasses because its hard for my eyes to adjust focusing in and out and I can no longer see distances. I'm one of those people who gets them, split all the way up the hair shaft, looks like a feather. I've gotten hairs that had hundreds of splits, running the full length from root to tip and those are SO satisfying. I have even taken pictures of them because of it. :/ don't even know how many times I've sat in my car in the parking lot or the driveway for an hour just peeling away because the lighting is so good, I know you all understand exactly what I mean! I have suffered anxiety and depression my entire life, since just before kindergarten. And have been diagnosed with dermatillomania back when I was around 12 years old... I used to sit there for HOURS every single day and my arms legs and parts of my torso were completely covered with scabs and bumps, I think I must have hit every pore on my body. People don't understand how hard it is to control these urges or even what would tempt us to do something that may seem bizarre but its hard to explain!! It has always felt to me like "grooming". I felt like I was cleaning myself and ridding myself of imperfections. Bumps, oil, etc. now at 23 years old I suddenly have little urge to pick, but still peel my split ends like a crazy person. While driving, while talking to people it's embarrassing but if I see a split end I just have to peel it because if I don't it will bother me knowing its there somewhere! It's interesting seeing all of us having the same issues. I have self esteem issues and image problems as well as pretty gnarly anxiety, this definitely stems from these issues. Just thought I would throw my 2 cents in especially when I saw the girl saying she is crying because she felt like the only one. You're not alone girl, I know the feeling :) hey there are worse habits! At least none of us are hurting others! Take care all.
It feels so good to not be alone, I feel like such a freak. I've wasted a ridiculous amount of my life pulling apart split ends. The best is sitting in front of sunlight and doing it. I have really healthy hair apparently but over the years I have damaged it. I remember when I was younger if I couldn't find any I would just rip out strands and snap them apart to create a split but after realizing the certain parts I pulled a lot were becoming more noticeable I very rarely actually rip it out now. It feels like an uncontrollable urge that once I start I'll keep at it for hours or as long as life will allow before someone comes around me ect. I've even wasted time at work doing it when the opportunity arose. Doing it in front of a white computer screen in a favorite way as well. It's so sickening. I tried telling a therapist about it once but she didn't ask much about it and kind of shrugged it of like it was no big deal. I know I have major issues with self confidence and obsess over it in my head thinking I'm not good enough though in reality I'm not all the bad. I've had anxiety issues in the past and depression. I don't know how to overcome this but am glad to know we aren't alone. My one biggest issue is how badly I need laser hair removal. When I was young my issue started out because I had hairy arms and got made fun of a bit for it. Later on in life I started shaving them which made me feel nearly 100% better but it's quite a hassle because I have to do it daily which makes my showers super long which annoys my partner. But after I felt better about my arms I started noticing other problem areas like my upper lip and sideburns. My upper lip I can somewhat get away with just waxing but my sideburns are a huge issue. I have spent hundreds on different products trying to get rid of it with no luck yet and it affect my everyday life on a high level. Under no circumstance will I wear my hair up even in the summer heat, even though it look really good up. If my partner tried to hold my face I'm mortified with embarrassment and try to pull away. We've been together for a year and a half now and I've never felt comfortable with it. I just want to be normal and live a normal life not having to worry about these little issues that most people don't have to deal with. It's holding me back from growing as a person.
i am actually crying as I type this I cannot believe that I am not alone. this is amazing. I have been pulling the split ends off my hair since I was 16 and am not 29. Like alot of you say, I used to have long thick dark hair but now it is so thin. I have had it highlighted in the past and that has not helped. I have also gone through stages of getting it cut into a bob to try and start a fresh but I simply cannot stop looking for split ends. I spend anything from 2-10 hours a day picking at my split ends. the damage to my hair is bad but the time I lose from my life is even worse. My boyfriend is quite hairy so I spend a lot of time pulling the split ends from his leg and chest hair too! I have never ever told anyone about my habit and try to keep it a secret. There is always a trail of hair behind me everywhere I go! I have recently been diagnosed with depression and also go and see a councillor once a week for other low confidence issues. I feel like the hair picking just goes hand in hand with all that. I want to stop so so badly to regain some control over my life. But is in an addiction, and not one that I could ever tralk about with anyone as there is no way they would take me seriously. Has anyone else ever been to the doctor about this? Do they take us seriously? I am off to make an appointment with my hairdresser today (I am getting no work done at work as I have been in hair picking mode all day) to get a few inches cut off to see how long I can go this time. This is an amazing forum and I am guessing this is not something any of us can talk about with other people. So lets work together and share our progress. one last thing.... does any one else feel excited at the though of bright sunshine shining into their car so they can get a beautiful sunlit backdrop onto their hair? It makes the split ends stand out beautifully. so weird!!!!!
Does anyone have ways that they stopped doing this? I've started picking at the front strands and now have sort-of bangs because I've pulled so much, and I feel like I'm almost going a little bald in front because I'm breaking off so much hair. Sometimes I even cut off the ends with manicure scissors, but it never helps because I just find more ends to break and then the more I pick, the more there are! I do it a lot when I drive, at work, or when I'm just sitting around. I even do it without realizing and other people point it out! Ugh it's terrible.
You all have no ideal how happy I am to find you. I use to have medium/long thick hair & for the past 5 years I have been picking my dead spilt ends. I my hair has grown but it's thinned out a lot from my breaking it off & lets not forget the highlights, blow drying, straightening & curling I've done to it everyday. I have a lot of areas that my hair is shorter than certain other spots & I just noticed last week that one side is shorter than the other side. I'm 43 years old & like others my age still want to look good for my husband & I would like to think others might find me attractive but with my hair it has caused my self-esteem to crumble. My husband always tells me to stop & I do cause it actually embarrasses me. Please help me with any advice you might have.
Hi I have just discovered this too! I don;t think there is any easy cure. but at least now we know we are not alone! Lets all work together to fight this with willpower as I think this might be the only way to do it My hair is a disaster. I have been splitting ends for 13 years. It has taken over my life. I need to get some control back! x
i don't even know how to begin finding that this forum exists. I've never really identified with the trichotillomania community because i have no interest in pulling my hair out at the root. I have naturally extremely curly hair (that i have straightened with a brazilian blowout) but I still have hairs that are extremely porous and bumpy with different textures. I am LITERALLY addicted to running my nails over the bumps and feeling the texture, the tension and the sorta clicky sensation that comes from doing it. I've been doing it since the 5th grade and now i'm 25. I usually don't do it in the mornings or afternoons, and I don't have the urge to do it around other people unless I'm comfortable around them, and then I can't stop. Like with my two roommates now I feel like they must think I'm crazy because i ALWAYS have my hand in my hair pulling. I think today is the first time in my life that I've mustered up the strength to deny the urge and I'm here on my bed feeling this tightness in my chest! I can't believe I'm not the only one who does this! I want to stop so badly but I don't know how to break a habit/addiction I've had for over half my life! Is there anyone else reading this currently? It looks like the last update was a few months ago and I really want this board to continue!
i just don't know what to do anymore
Hey ladies!! First I want to start off by telling you all that I have the same problem and I feel so much better knowing I am not the only one! I have picked my hair since I was like 15, I am now 23 and I find myself constantly doing this. Yesterday my boyfriend told me to stop because it gives him anxiety and he doesn't like it. I felt really embarrassed. I know that the only SOLUTION IS GETTING MY NAILS DONE! Lol as silly as that sounds if you guys have nails (medium or longer lengths) it makes it hard/almost impossible to do this. I hope this helps you girls. I feel like I waste wayyyy too much time doing this and I hate that I do it, but I love doing it!! Its what gets me thru boring college classes and in between things. I will get my nails done soon and I will stop, reading this forum made me realize I will eventually damage my whole head and I don't want to do that. I hope this solution helps!
I do this! I started maybe a year ago? I used to have long, thick wavy hair, now it's extremely thin and much shorter. It started when I seriously heat damaged my fringe and my hair would come out without too much pulling, and I liked how it felt. I don't like to pull hair straight from my scalp as it hurts, but I cut and pick my split ends- it looks like my hair is burnt...
I can't believe (and am relieved) I'm not the only one who does this! I started doing this when I was in the 8th grade. This was the beginning of a very stressful and dark period in my life, and to cope with the stress I started picking off my split ends after seeing the heat damage. I naturally have very thick long hair, and I started to notice recently that my hair is thinning badly . I know it's more of an emotional thing for me and found comfort in it, but now I even do it subconciously. I hate that I do it, and makes me feel bad about myself, and when my dad sees me doing it he gets really angry as well. Here I am three years later, and am finally having the will power to do something about it.
I started picking my split ends when I was 12-13 my hair was down to my waist, now 10 years later I'm still picking my hair everyday expect its now like a Mohawk from the 80s it looks ridiculous but I'm not able to stop! To make it even worse my mums a hairdresser!!!
This forum could be my lifesaver. Either way, I'm a 13 year old girl, turning 14 next month and basically all I do is picking split ends. I think it started some months ago when I just picked up my hair and studied the ends. And all of them were split, so I immidiately thought how I could prevent this. I though that if I pick the split end off I will end up with a healthy hairstraw, but from all of the comments I've read here on the forum it doesn't seem healthy at all. But the thing is that I seriously CAN'T STOP. My parents get really mad at me for doing this, but when they yell at me I just do it even more. A month ago I was on a 3 week vacation were I didn't really think of my hair, so since I got back I haven't picked that much. But I still pick them. I remember that I picked the ends while doing a test. Oh, and as I mentioned earlier I was on a vacation this summer and I actually cut my hair three times, but the ends are still there. It's driving me insane because I can't stop even if I want to. And I really don't wanna end up picking them for several years because then there's really no return. My hair in overall has always been really long, thick and straight. But now it's kinds of dry and frizzy too. So right now I'm looking for help from someone before it's too late!
I started picking my split ends at age 13 when my friend showed me how to! I did it for about a year then just stopped! Until another friend reminded me that I used to do it and BAM there i was doing it again!!! Its been about 4 years now and im still doing it! One side of my hair is awful and its as though i have a bob on the left and mid length cut on the right! Its bloody awful and really wish I could stop :( When i get up from my chair, a whole shower of split ends fall to the ground and my family and friends shout at my constantly for doing it! My boyfriend even compared me to having a golden retriever! I want to stop so badly but dont know how to :/ I wear my hair up in a bun often but this causes even more breakage and then its just going round and round! Don't know how to stop and would really appreciate some help!!
I read somewhere that this always starts at a young age (roughly 12-13) and it started to happen to me in 8th grade (12) and I'm 25 now. I also read in the same article that it's almost impossible to cure. Great. Whenever anybody tells me to stop, I always compare it to having smoked all your life and wanting to quit while having a lit cigarette permanently in your hand. I look relatively young but because of doing this for over a decade, I've developed some serious forehead wrinkles from looking up at my hair all the time. My forehead is 35 and my face is 18. This and the fact that my hair looks like shit and can never be long is the worst part for me. I had a pixie cut for about two years and didn't pick at the hair then because I couldn't see it. Since I started growing it out, it's started up again. I really wish this wasn't a thing :(
You can get lost in yourself and time at its worse, I did it because it relaxed me and I enjoyed it, thats what made it even harder to stop, I still havent picked, I just went to earlier and I had to remind myself that I dont do that anymore, it does get easier, but I would definitely consider cognitive therapy ask a doctor, feel empowered and do it for yourself and the quality time you will give back to your family. GO FOR IT!!!
I remember when I first noticed them; 7th grade math class. I was 12. 24 years later my obsession overpowers me daily. I wish I knew how to stop. I know that it is how I self-soothe. It effects my life daily. At work I use my scissors and cut the split ends off for hours. At home I blackmail my daughter into letting me pick her hair because she straightens her hair and has a ton of damage. I run my thumb nails down strands of hair to create damage to pick at; I sometimes do this so much that i can feel my thumb nails pull away from my thumbs. If I had to guess I would say that I spent about 7 to 8 hours today cutting off my damage. I know the answer is to just cut off my hair, but I can not let go. I feel lost.
Its called trichotillomania, it can be as little as picking your split ends, too pulling out so much hair it leaves you with bald patches, I only pulled the split ends off. I still havent pulled, but its hard not too, please all try too, I had always wanted too, but never thought lets just stop for one day and see how I get on and if I manage that I will increase to two days, etc... etc... good luck to anyone trying.
I thought I was the only person who did this! I do it all the time and my parents yell at me but I just can't stop. I've been doing it since the 4th grade I think and I'm 22 now. Any idea of a name for this?
Well its been 4 days and I have only picked once, and I did it without even thinking, as soon as I realised I stopped, it just proves how many times I used to do it without really knowing. All I can say is now I keep my hair up a bit longer and I am keeping my hands busy mainly playing on my phone, I also pick my skin on my feet, but I am not stopping that yet, one step at a time, I will try and update every so often, hopefully to share my story with you all and so you know there are other people out there who do it too, its nice to know im not the only one walking round with a lop sided haircut!!! Tata4 now.
Are you still checking this?? Have you kept it up?
I have been picking my split ends since I was 19 I am 38 now, started when friend told me what split ends were, I have been completly obsessed by it, I used to have long thick, hair, now its above my shoulders and thinner,? I am finding as the years go on its getting shorter and shorter, luckily I have a lovely hairdresser, when I go instead of me saying I will have a trim I say can you level me up, if its someone different I do feel embarrased. I even pulled a split end of a strangers hair who was sat infront of me on a bus, it was massive hanging on the hand rail so I put my finger on the end so when she moved it snapped off, she didnt even notice, but how cheeky was that!!! If my daughter is near me I really have to stop myself looking at her hair too. And it doesnt make a difference people telling you to stop or hitting your hand. For the first time ever only because I dont want any shorter hair I am now trying to stop its only day. 2 and its soooo hard, hopeing I will get to day 3, wish me luck.
I honestly don't want to admit to myself that I have such a serious problem. I really hate myself for picking at my hair so much and am so embarrassed by it. I just want my hair to be healthy and split end free. I feel so helpless because of my picking and so dumb that I let myself get so obsessed! Reading through everyone's posts, I cat help but ball my eyes out. I have been picking for about 7 months and I do of when I get bored or stressed or anxious. My mom hates that I do it and so do I! I need help!
I honestly don't want to admit to myself that I have such a serious problem. I really hate myself for picking at my hair so much and am so embarrassed by it. I just want my hair to be healthy and split end free. I feel so helpless because of my picking and so dumb that I let myself get so obsessed! Reading through everyone's posts, I cat help but ball my eyes out. I have been picking for about 7 months and I do of when I get bored or stressed or anxious. My mom hates that I do it and so do I! I need help!
I was bullied when I was 11, as a result I used to pull my hair out (usually the coarser rough ones) but I eventually stopped that and then by the age of 14/15 I developed a habit to pick my split ends. I'm 23 now I still pick my split end but not as impulsively as I once did, I feel as if moments I'm feeling insecure or nervous about something I'm at my worst but also when I'm bored I find myself searching for the illusive multiple split hair, or the regular split end. Sometimes if I feel that the split part it is too far up I pull the hair out completely. My hair isn't in bad condition but thats due to regular hair cuts and deep conditioning, my hair was at its worst when I started this habit 12/13! I hope one day I will be able to get over my insecurities and completely stop damaging my hair!
Wow, I am happy I found this site as well:) I am mostly a split end picker. But tend to pick my eyelashes at times too:( I can't remember when I started but I am 35 now and know its prob been 20 or so yrs but seems a bit worse over the past couple yrs or so. I can also just sit there for hrs picking my hair and not even notice how much time has went by. I try to wear my hair up a lot so I won't pick as much, but every chance I have, I do it. I have never talked to anyone about it. I know ppl see me do it, but just never talked about. I rarely get my hair cut cause I am so ashamed how horrible my hair looks. And when I do, I lie and say I just have really bad hair that grows weird, lol. But I'm pretty sure the hairdressers know the truth. I am so bad with doing it that I sometimes just rip at my ends and get a few pieces ripped off. My hair basically looks kinda like I got electrocuted. Not quite that bad but its all different lengths. And it of course shows really bad right after I wash it. So I try to use lots of product and straighten it. Kinda helps but not a whole lot. I really wish I could stop but it is so addicting. But it is kinda a relief that I know I'm not the only one with this problem. But crappy at the same time cause I feel so bad for everyone who has it.
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