Split End Pickers?

Okay, I don't know if ya'll do this but, I rip out my split ends and I have to see what they look like. I have to ge them all out of my hair. I am ripping out the back of my hair! Help, do you do this?

Me too :( it's really upsetting because it makes the bottom of my hair thin and then it goes curly and my hair is straight and when I get it cut it doesn't even do anything
I thought I was alone. I spend hours peeling apart my split ends... and running my fingers on my hair strands looking for the ones that feel rough or damaged so I can pick them apart, analyze them, and then put them on the ground and get them away from me. It brings me way too much satisfaction. I am ashamed of it! Before long, Ill notice tons of short hairs on the ground next to me that I have ripped out. Im very embarrassed by it.
omg i do this, it comes and goes though, it started when i was 11 i think (thats the first time i remember picking anything) and i would pick my eyelashes out until the point where my parents thought i had alopecia, i couldn't admit to them that i'd done it, then i started plucking out my pubes, plucking my eyebrows, leg hairs, compulsively squeezing spots and blackheads, cutting myself (i don't know if thats a symptom or a different matter entirely) and then started this split hair picking, i'll be watching tv or something and then i look down and I'm covered in little bits of hair and my thumb aches under the nail - i try and find a way to keep my hands occupied all the time but its so satisfying! it comes and goes when I'm stressed, anxious, sad etc - I'm just trying to condition myself to control it :(
Mj721 i totally feel your pain! When I was 8 I found my gorgeous straight locks started turning into frizz and curls and since then I've been looking for ways to make it straight. (Quite ironic really as I begged my parents for a perm and they would never allow it and then it came anyway but in a bush head kinda way) Since GHD's became the solution I also find these white blobs on my hair strands and they drive me insane. I love snapping them, twisting the hair around them, pulling them out but it's drives me mad as I've been trying to grow my hair long again since I was 16 and I'm now 29! I also have a section at the back that I constantly twist and I don't know I'm doing it. I tried to get friends and family to tell me to stop when they noticed I was doing it but now it's got to the stage that I resent them telling me because I love the moments I'm doing it but hate it afterwards. I've even resorted previously to sitting watching TV with a pair of gloves but since it's summer that's not an option haha! Whenever I look down and see all the split ends I've broken off I feel awful and riddled with guilt following my lack of will power to stop! Years ago I caused loads of breakage around the front and wore extensions for a while. Do you think being hypnotised is the solution, I hear it works for all kind of things?! What a crazy addiction we have.....people don't get it so I decided to Google it tonight and feel relived I'm not the only one as most people have stated on here.....help is required as I keep telling myself no more but really can't stop!! X
Mj721 i totally feel your pain! When I was 8y hair turned from long l
It makes me feel better knowing there are others who do this. My story started in Junior high when I was 13. I had gotten my first hair straightener and I would straighten my hair almost everyday and because of this is it made my hair really dry and damaged. I would pick the split ends mostly because I felt like getting rid of them made my hair 'better'. I would cut the split ends but if I didn't have anything to cut them with nearby then I would rip it off which I know isn't good. But then in 9th grade I did online homeschooling so I was home all the time by myself and because of that my picking addiction became worse. I started finding hairs that felt rough and dry and I would pick at those hairs and pick off the rough parts of the hair. then in 10th grade I went back to public school and the addiction kind of got better just because I wouldn't pick in public because it was way too embarrassing. I picked at the crown of my head and now I have a short section of hair there and a cowlick which I don't know if that was always there or if picking caused it. then in 11th grade I started picking at the sides of my head and now those sections are short too. Now I am 19 and in my first year of college and for the past year it's been the most noticeable and I've been trying to stop. I sometimes can go a few days without picking and when I do pick it's usually at night or when I'm really stressed out or bored. I tend to always put my hair up because I don't pick at it as much when it's up. Lately I've been wearing a wig cap at night that covers my whole head and it keeps me from picking especially at night when I'm most likely to do it. I just hope that everyone that has this problem can stop picking completely.
InsurriagA .. the second hair strand which names it look like a split end now I know is actually one of many fake hairs using or hair and a defense macanism like a comllian. It metaphor fasises into to a clear mass in yr saliva that pia.nts its self depending on what ur drinking. If best described like a Shelly fins. At the top of it u well see an embedded worm looks thin and brown. It then seeps back into your digestive track to reproduce more. At that point that worm embedded on top seeps almost completely off its end where disconected then bores into us intestine wall it then uses the worm as a form of feeding example like fitus connected in the womb. It then continues to suck nutrients out of u through that. All the hairlike strands are also used as a form if feeding strands that to feed alot of them. Drs diagnose that As intestinal tumors during autopsy. Cancer.that's where my brothers health is at the moment. He's only 38 . Heart at 15% . Wasn't suppose to be around with us as of 4 days ago. He's still holding on. He's had basically all this since he was 7 years old. I always questioned it but cudnt make since. I'm not doing to well either. My health not to had but I'm still here.
Thank God I'm not the only one! I don't know when I started but it's been years! I love picking my hair. I don't know what it is but I do it constantly. I love looking for them, I love peeling them apart, I love the sound when they break off but, I HATE the way my hair looks but I can't stop! I get some kind of joy seeing all the hair I've picked off but then I'm like I wonder my hair looks like crap! I hope we can all stop this. Btw, I have like little white balls throughout my hair and I love the sound of breaking them off and feeling for them throughout my hair. Anyone else have that problem?
Mj721 i totally feel your pain! When I was 8 I found my gorgeous straight locks started turning into frizz and curls and since then I've been looking for ways to make it straight. (Quite ironic really as I begged my parents for a perm and they would never allow it and then it came anyway but in a bush head kinda way) Since GHD's became the solution I also find these white blobs on my hair strands and they drive me insane. I love snapping them, twisting the hair around them, pulling them out but it's drives me mad as I've been trying to grow my hair long again since I was 16 and I'm now 29! I also have a section at the back that I constantly twist and I don't know I'm doing it. I tried to get friends and family to tell me to stop when they noticed I was doing it but now it's got to the stage that I resent them telling me because I love the moments I'm doing it but hate it afterwards. I've even resorted previously to sitting watching TV with a pair of gloves but since it's summer that's not an option haha! Whenever I look down and see all the split ends I've broken off I feel awful and riddled with guilt following my lack of will power to stop! Years ago I caused loads of breakage around the front and wore extensions for a while. Do you think being hypnotised is the solution, I hear it works for all kind of things?! What a crazy addiction we have.....people don't get it so I decided to Google it tonight and feel relived I'm not the only one as most people have stated on here.....help is required as I keep telling myself no more but really can't stop!! X
Raises hand... Yes, I do that-- My hair is curly, tends to be dry, and since I prefer it mid length vs short I am constantly acquiring and cutting split ends. Sometimes I justify it by telling myself the hair will continually split unless I cut it (which does have an ounce of truth). However, like picking, I can sometimes get into a trance and go berserk cutting them.
InsurriagA the black split ends if u have pay close attention is actually 2 . One hairs way blacker and thicker than average strand. It floats under skin in a small mass. It uses folicals as an anchoring system. Look for any discoloration under skin by so called zits. . There not zits stop missing with them its very contagious. Its spreads fast even after going dormant every 4 to 6 months. Tell or Dr. To prescribe a 10-30-40 day treatment of antiparicitic depending on severity of external symptoms . Once on skin go back as fr as 3 years and that shud tell u how long they been there . Demand that they do a stool smear glass test. Do not poet them sell u with it not being in or culture ..stool urine and blood. Believe it or not there a lot more common they think. Yes its contagious very transmittable through taking showers sharing drinking cups clothes blankets everything u can imagine . Make sure that they give u proper treatment. Do not settle for less. That floating mass under skin is a private. Hookworm! Get tested for Lyme disease as well as pinworm. I hope u got the help u need and most of all I hope they gave u antiparacite as well as a antibiotic oral peel for internal healing and skin antibiotic ointment for wounds. Stop touching and breaking off top to wound. Its not a scab its a seal made by the paricte when dormant looks like the letter c . There closed. If u see th heads and they look like a u symbol that means its active and spreading out onto or skin where it then bores back in . Ask for Albenza. Do not let them prescribe u anything slate as a substitute
For the split-end pickers like me, you know it's obnoxious when you hear suggestions like, "just go get a haircut more often, that simple- once the split-ends are gone, the problem is gone." I get a 3-4in cut every 6 to 8 months, and in between I get regular trims to (try to) manage the breakage. I also use multiple expensive professional haircare products for dry and damaged hair, and take biotin supplements off and on. But, unfortunately, I was just born with naturally very fine and thin hair, so breakage comes at a much faster rate for me than most. So even after a good cut or trim, Ill find myself scouring each and every section of my hair for splits just after a few days of that "freshly trimmed relief." My sister is a hairdresser, so I'm reminded on a regular basis how terrible for you hair it is, but my body just won't let me stop. There's no other way to describe it other than being maddeningly obsessed. Once I start doing it, especially in class, attempting to study, or watching TV, I turn into a robot. I don't care about anything else- my mind just goes numb- and that's all I can think about for the next several hours. Even when I'm in the middle of extremely important exams, if I think I see a split, I'll put down my pencil and start searching. And if I'm not searching, I'm constantly running my fingers through my hair. I've had an obsession since middle school about good looking, healthy hair, especially when bleaching my thin hair turned me into a frazzled, ugly mess. People made fun of my hay-hair and the ridiculous cut I had to have due to so much breakage. Now I'm constantly making sure my hair looks good- I can't really even go to bed without blow-drying it to make sure it doesn't look ridiculous. The intense split-end picking has gone on for about 5 years now- and at 24yo it's become exhausting, frustrating, and defeating. I hate that I'm so fixated on picking my ends, especially in public. People must think I'm a total mental case. I just wanna stop ruining my hair!
I constantly stare and pick at my split ends. I do it so much im starting to pull my hair out! I do it everywhere. Also I don't just pick at my split ends I also like to find really tiny knots and pull them apart because I have super straight hair naturally and when I pick the knots the strands get curly. Even when im not looking at my hair im combing my fingers through it. I guess its like a security thing? But all my friends and family have noticed. Before I started picking my ends, I have always had a thing about having shiny healthy hair. I was super OCD about it! But something that really helps me is putting my hair in a high pony tail or bun. In a high pony, its harder to look but not impossible. In a bun, you cant at all. In a bun I don't even feel the urge to look. I just kinda forget. But yeah looking at my hair is super annoying. Im thirteen right now and its almost summer vacation which means swimming and when your hair is wet you cant see the split ends. But my habbit needs to be broken and idk what else to do!
im so glad im not the only one i can literally sit in the mirror for hours & pick my split ends its like it gives me a rush i love it but i really wish i could stop its honestly the only thing that outs me to sleep at night or just to relax me during the day
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OK SO basically i started randomly pulling my split ends apart when i saw then. I didnt really think anything of it. after a while i started taking thicker chunks, starting halfway through my hair, and sliding my nail down it. Therefore, taking out a million split ends at a time. Its crazy. idek wht to do anymore. No one understand how happy i get when i see a split end with multiple splits. i will literally pull out that strand and examine it for a good 10 mintues. idek what to do anymore. someone help me,
The best remedy I have for this is a fresh haircut when I'm all up in my strands looking for damaged ones. And then moisturizing the crap out of my hair with leave-in products so the damaged strands the haircut missed are then extra hard to find.
omg okay so im sooooo glad i am not the only one! i have NO idea how this addiction started but i am totally aware that its an addiction. So heres my story. I started doing this at age 12. and i was obsessed. i couldnt stop. when i was in class or just bored or maybe even just watching tv i would find my self later picking at my split ends. and my split ends are the bad kind. the "Tree split ends" they're just soooo fun to pull out. i love rubbing my fingers up and down when i find multiple split ends on one strand. So i remeber this one time in 7th grade aka when i was 12. i was in science class and my teacher always threatened to cut my hair off with scissors bc i wouldnt leave my hands alone and once she warned me about giving me detention if i wouldnt stop. so obviously i got the detention. and she always called my mom about it. it was bad. then the end of 8th grade i stopped. and now... at age 15 in 10th grade i just got diagnosed with ADHD and ive been taking concerta and it brought back this addiction! i cannooooott put my hair down anymore! its sooo bad i have a hole on my index finger from pressing my thumb nail on it. and in class i would be doing this then 10 minutes later i realized i have been doing this for the past 30 minutes and i would find bunch of hairs on my desk and its so embarrising. i cant stop and i dont want to cut my hair. its already longer than shoulder length. is this a disease? idk help.
I am 60 years old and recently re-started picking at my split ends and pulling out my hair. I am on anti anxiety and anti depression medication and have been for a while. I used to do this as a teenager. I believe I did it because I was molested by my grandfather and it blocked out the memories of that. I had extremely short hair most of my adult life, and when I decided to let my hair grow, I had to use flat irons on it to get the curl and frizz out. I think that's what caused all the split ends! It's comforting even at my age to know that other people suffer from this malady.
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I would just like to say I'm so glad I'm not the only one who does this. Most of my split ends are on my bangs, and almost all of them are split. I look even weirder, with my now super short bangs pulled close to my face. I feel this weird sense of accomplishment or joy when I find a really unusual type of split end. I even looked up pictures of magnified split ends online! This is getting out of control. I'm going to start trying to wear a headband. It's weird, how one girl said she could feel which hairs were split without looking. That's actually pretty cool. But alas, I MUST STOP THIS!
I started picking at my split ends a little over a year ago when I was bored in class. Now it takes up so much time of my day. I love finding a hair with multiple split ends. When I was 11 I had trich and pulled my hair out all the time. I managed to stop doing that on my own, so just know that it is possible! However, it took me over a year to completely stop pulling out my hair but I did it. I just hope I'll be able to stop picking my split ends. Does anyone know why people do this? It just relaxes me and takes my mind off of things. I'm so thankful that I found this group and I hope we can all stop together.
I'm not sure exactly how long I have been picking my hair but I know it's been a while now. I'm only 14 and picking my hair is constant everyday thing. my mom showed it to me by always wanting to pick my hair sense I straighten it so much (which I know is bad for my hair, it's just that I don't like my natural hair) now I don't blame my mom for my bad habit nor do I hate her for showing it to me, I just want someone to help me stop. It's distracting when I'm doing anything especially when I'm doing my homework. It's horrible cuz I spend so much time picking at my dead ends that i end up haveing to go late into the night doing homework which also cuts into family time. My mom has tried to find several therapists for us but all of them either are too far away or ask for an extreme amount of money that we don't have. My mom talked to this one therapist and he asked for 200$ a month for a 4 month session. I mean common that's 800$ for only 4 months. I just don't understand, all of us on this site want and need help and the only people to help us ask for so much money. So I'm asking plz someone help us
I havent posted anything for a few months, everything was going well, felt empowered that I had stopped pulling my split ends, then for no reason you say to yourself, just pick one thats ok, and before you know it your back to picking it just like you used to!!! I wish I had better news for everyone, I will hope to try again soon.
I am exactly the same!!!! I have been doing it since I was about 12 and am now 28!!!! I can't stop it although I know it's damaging my hair. I will be on a roll and then find clumps of hair on my chest which is what I've picked! I wish someone could help or give me an explanation of why I do this and if anything could have triggered it? ;((
Mine starts when I'm stressed out (and might not even realize I'm stressed out). I'll be sitting around doing nothing but worrying, so I start to touch my hair. So, now my attention is diverted towards my hair. And we know where this is gonna go: split end fest! It's almost like a coping mechanism. When I can't find another way to deal with external stress I retreat to my OCD spot to "relax" and focus on something simple. It's an escape from my problems for me.
I didn't even know what split ends were until a few years back and then all the girls in my class used to sit around with scissors and cut off a few cms above the split end hence "helping" their hair. I, on the other hand, find incredible fun and entertainment in sitting in front of a white screen/wall and slowly examining each and every hair for a split end. I get a rush of excitement when I see unusual split ends (like fluffy, broken or ends that have split like 10 times) and I peel them apart. It's really bad, but the thing is, nearly every single hair on my head is split...most are small splits that you can;t even see but there are HEAPS AND HEAPS of split ends. im pretty sure im killing my hair but its so much damn fun and i just realised i sound like a pyscho but its true haha :P
OMG your comment made me laugh so hard! I can totally see myself getting lost in piles of split ends - it is so addictive.
I am so glad that I'm not alone in this fight. I can't recall how long I've been picking my split ends, but the behaviour has morphed into an addiction that I'm having difficulty breaking. I try to control it when I'm around others, but those closest to me have noticed by now. I also know that it stresses my mother out because she has seen me pick my ends many times and has witnessed my lovely locks deteriorate into thin, uneven hair. I don't ever peel the ends but break them off or cut them off instead. I've previously rationalized this by thinking that this my hair was healthier because LESS SPLIT ENDS = GOOD. I thought that this would make my hair look better. This wonderful little defense mechanism worked well for a while. But on one occasion a coworker grabbed my ponytail exclaiming, "wow, your hair looks thin!". It made me feel sad and disappointed in myself because it proved that I was destroying my hair instead. I also realized that no one will ever exclaim, "wow, you have so few split ends! Amazing!". It's difficult to speak with others about this. They don't understand to what extent this controls my life. When I think of all the hours spent (read: completely WASTED) picking my hair, it makes me feel ashamed and anxious. But wallowing in these feelings will not help me in moving forward. I am trying to practise mindfulness and remain aware of the present moment through meditation. Realistically I think that it will take much more than this to break the addiction so I'll look into cognitive behavioral therapy techniques as well. Good luck everyone! You're not alone in this!
after reading many of your other stories I am relieved I'm not alone, and as many others this compulsion has gotten in the way of my my daily life. It's embarrassing and I want nothing more than you stop, but even when my friends try to help me by pointing out that I'm doing it I only feel more embarrassed and I want to do it even more. The compulsion started as nail biting and moved to split end picking in high school. The only trick I've found to combat both is fake nails. The nails are somewhat thicker than your average nail and make it difficult to maneuver picking your hair. If you seriously want to stop I would advise this.
I am so thankful to know that I am not alone. I feel like such a freak! Someone, I forget who, said something about the split ends "that look like feathers" and I think I know what you're talking about - those are my favourite kind! There is something so satisfying about just running my fingernails over those ones. I think it's a combination of the feeling, the sound and the look of not just this kind of split end, but any kind of split end, that makes picking at them and pulling them apart so addictive. I feel really weird typing this but it's something I've been thinking about a lot and I know most of you will understand what I'm describing. My habit started in sixth grade, I was eleven. I still remember the day I took notice of split ends and began picking at them. I was bored in class and not paying attention, as per usual, when I started playing with and examining my hair. At first, I wouldn't focus on a single strand of hair, but on a whole bunch. Using the nails of my index finger and thumb, I would move up and down the shaft of the hair, tearing off the ends of about ten or so hairs at once. I never thought much of it, just something to occupy my hands and brain, until I went to the hairdresser's. She showed me the back of my head and it looked like a section of my hair had been burnt off! I was mortified! From then on, I knew that picking at my split ends was not good for my hair. Alas, I am now in the tenth grade, fifteen years old, and I still cannot break this habit. Because of my picking, I have two little sections of my bottom layer of hair that aren't long enough to fit in a ponytail! Even when my hair is in a ponytail, I grab it and pick. Now I put it up in a bun but I STILL find myself picking at those two little sections! It's gotten so bad that the hair in these sections are only about half an inch long. I hate this habit so much!! At this point, it feels like I'm no longer in control; like my hands have a mind and an agenda of their own. I desperately want to get over this habit, but at the same time, I don't know if it's worth it. In the end, I just want to be able to straighten my hair without worrying about it being uneven!! P.s. - I noticed that a lot of you were asking if other people with this habit could post updates and strategies, so I'll try to keep you updated on my habit and if I come across any strategies, y'all will be the first to know!
You just described everything I do! I am so obsessed with the texture of a clicking, cracking split end. I am coming to a point where it is all I do it is literally taking over my life!!
hi there, I have been picking my split ends for years now, i was looking through this thread and what your saying sounds EXACTLY like me, being obsessed with running my fingers up my hair and ripping it apart! i put my air in a bun but end up still picking it out and my hair ends up a mess. i can be in a trance for hours doing it, i'm about to go in a shower or something, an hour later i'm still there! i live with my boyfriend and when he tells me to stop i get so stressed and have to do it even more. it started with pulling my hair out when i was 11, then i managed to stop that after having bald pathes and cutting my hair really short but then when i was about 14 i notices split ends and have done it consistently, im 24 now so thats 10 years!. i dont want to go to the hairdressers because im embarrassed which obv makes the situation worse! ive read up loads about thricholomania (cant spell it!) but its always mostly to do with pullin hair out athough i do do this a wee bit its really cause im pulling at it because i like the snapping noise it makes when it breaks. it feels so wierd and feel like a phsyco because it is so obsessive and get satisfaction from doing it and total stress if im stopped from doing it. my hair is a mess, i use half wigs and extentions and stuff at the weekend and have to tie my hair up everyday! ive been on SSRI antidepressants for other issues which i was told may help bit it didnt at all. it completely takes over my life and get hair all over the house, my desk at work its horrible :( i wish there was some cure. anything any1 can tell me that mioght help would be appreciated. just joined this today and im hoping it will help me address the problem, but also feel relieved that other people do the exact same thing! i used to have really long thick shiny hair, even when i first started doing this and it is so depressing and i already suffer from depression so its too much! somebody help us!!
So I've been picking my split ends for about 10 years now, I'm now 21.. When I was like 14 I basically picked my whole fringe out I had to wear a head band for 6 months or so untill it grew in a bit. I have my stages with this I can be really good for about 6 weeks then all of a sudden il just start again and before I know it's been around 8months or so! I've got extensions in right now to try and let my hair grow hoping I will give up this horrible habit as I've spent a lot of money on them, I've been trying to pick the extensions insted of my actual hair but it's just not the same I love the feeling of the split end detaching from my hair. I've recently just for a fringe cut as the front of my hair was so brittle and thin. I've been using Moroccan oil everyday and it does seam to help a bit but I still always find hair to pick at.. My mums a hairdresser and thinks I'm crazy, I do this habit in front of my friends (who don't understand this addiction either) Ive even found myself standing behind the counter at work with a pair of scissors in my hand chopping at my hair. I NEED HELP this is honestly taking over my life all I want it long beautiful hair :/!!
Omg i thought i was the only one... i started pulling out my split ends about three years ago when a hair dresser over bleached my hair and it was completely fried. I got so addicted to it that i started using tiny scissors to cut them. It got to the point where i ended up cutting my hair completly uneven, so i went and got my hair cut to my shoulder and i still cannot stop picking my split ends! Even if i barely have any or none at all, I'll sit there for hours looking for them! I usually do it when I'm laying in bed, or sitting in class bored and once i start i can't stop until i have to or when i get extremely embarrassed when people look at me funny.. i am determined to stop because i want my long healthy hair back! It is taking over my life :/
I hope this website/blog helps me somehow honestly. I don't know if anyone will take the time to read my story but I'm going to share it anyways. My story. along with my others, is relatively the same. I don't know when I started to peel my hair. probably about 3rd grade. I think I was watching a boring movie and decided to see what would happen if I just peeled one. if I could go back and slap myself I would. Peeling my split ends has become more of an addiction then a bad habit and NO ONE understands. My parents constantly yell at me. my friends get annoyed with it and yell at me. my boyfriend probably things I'm so weird. he doesn't say anything about it anymore but I know he notices it. I can't see anyone helping me. no one knows how to. putting my hair in a pony tail doesn't work- as soon as it comes out I go straight to peeling. cutting my hair doesn't work, the split ends come back. my vision is so bad because of it. my grades are suffering because I don't pay attention in school- all I do is peel my split ends. i have dents in my thumbs from it. wrinkles in my forehead. I'm only 15. I saw somewhere on this blog "it's like smoking all your life and wanting to quit but constantly having a lit cigarette in your hand". I honestly don't know what to do anymore. I don't want to be like the other people on this website that has been doing it for 40 years. I don't want to have horrible thinning hair. I JUST WANT TO STOP. I've gotten into arguments with my patens and friends because they think I can just put it in a ponytail or cut it off or simply "just stop" but it's not that simple and i don't know what to do anymore. this is me calling out for help but no one knows how to help. I'm honestly sitting her sobbing because reading this is breaking my heart.
InsurriagA hello I see that us post is a lil old. Are u still looking for an answer or did u take care of it?
As I read your story it felt like I was reading my own thoughts- forehead wrinkles and all. Never thought about the possibility of this happening for 40 years. It worries me to death.
InsurriagA there's a cure and if u paid closer attention there's more leashed on to u. Those wrinkles that run together like taped Strands are part if or problem . The only ? Here is bein 40 and how to tell u stArted to see it. If u do remember or first outbreak. Then go Bk 3 years give or tAke . Albenza used to treat par I cites. Don't accept any less. And do not by no means accept antibiotics unless U get other. U need both.
I hope this website/blog helps me somehow honestly. I don't know if anyone will take the time to read my story but I'm going to share it anyways. My story. along with my others, is relatively the same. I don't know when I started to peel my hair. probably about 3rd grade. I think I was watching a boring movie and decided to see what would happen if I just peeled one. if I could go back and slap myself I would. Peeling my split ends has become more of an addiction then a bad habit and NO ONE understands. My parents constantly yell at me. my friends get annoyed with it and yell at me. my boyfriend probably things I'm so weird. he doesn't say anything about it anymore but I know he notices it. I can't see anyone helping me. no one knows how to. putting my hair in a pony tail doesn't work- as soon as it comes out I go straight to peeling. cutting my hair doesn't work, the split ends come back. my vision is so bad because of it. my grades are suffering because I don't pay attention in school- all I do is peel my split ends. i have dents in my thumbs from it. wrinkles in my forehead. I'm only 15. I saw somewhere on this blog "it's like smoking all your life and wanting to quit but constantly having a lit cigarette in your hand". I honestly don't know what to do anymore. I don't want to be like the other people on this website that has been doing it for 40 years. I don't want to have horrible thinning hair. I JUST WANT TO STOP. I've gotten into arguments with my patens and friends because they think I can just put it in a ponytail or cut it off or simply "just stop" but it's not that simple and i don't know what to do anymore. this is me calling out for help but no one knows how to help. I'm honestly sitting her sobbing because reading this is breaking my heart.
Hi! I also like to mess with my spilt ends. I grab either end and peel it in half, sometimes when it peels really far up ill just pull the hair out. I've noticed myself also picking off my mascara. I've been peeling my ends for 2 years now, my hair isn't that bad, but I know it'll only get worse. It has changed a bit since I started peeling. It sucks because my mom always tells me to stop but it's so addictive I can't. I've been working really hard to stop but every time I try I fail and I peel my ends more then before. My grades are beginning to suffer because of my addiction to peeling my ends. My eyesight used to be perfect, so perfect my mom was often surprised on how far away I could read things from. Now I don't have that ability, I can't sit in the back of the classroom and see perfectly fine. What I hate most about my addiction is that no one understands. I want to tell my mom that I need to go to therapy for help, but I feel as if she would laugh at my face. I have really long hair and I would never want to so anything to make it shorter. I started in 7th grade thinking it was good because I was getting rid of split ends. But later I realized how bad it was for my hair, it was too late at that point I became an addict. I really wish I could stop but I feel that to be impossible.
cant believe i have found a sight were people are describing exactly what i do. ive picked for about 8years or so? probably more.. but i love split ends. i like finding hairs that have hundreds of splits coming off, or even finding a 'crispy' hair, and pulling it through my nails so i make split ends off it myself. its so relaxing, however much i try to stop i cant, i hate doing it cos it hurts my fingers and makes my hair greasy. when i have hairs with loads of splits i even feel the urge to tell people. no idea what i have but i thought i was alone...
Hey all. Much like the others here, I'm addicted to peeling my split ends and can't seem to stop. I have been doing it for 10 years now, and I have DAMAGED MY EYESIGHT it's so bad. Holding the hairs so close to my face, pulling them over my head and down in front of my eyes and focusing my vision so closely to see them, I now need glasses because its hard for my eyes to adjust focusing in and out and I can no longer see distances. I'm one of those people who gets them, split all the way up the hair shaft, looks like a feather. I've gotten hairs that had hundreds of splits, running the full length from root to tip and those are SO satisfying. I have even taken pictures of them because of it. :/ don't even know how many times I've sat in my car in the parking lot or the driveway for an hour just peeling away because the lighting is so good, I know you all understand exactly what I mean! I have suffered anxiety and depression my entire life, since just before kindergarten. And have been diagnosed with dermatillomania back when I was around 12 years old... I used to sit there for HOURS every single day and my arms legs and parts of my torso were completely covered with scabs and bumps, I think I must have hit every pore on my body. People don't understand how hard it is to control these urges or even what would tempt us to do something that may seem bizarre but its hard to explain!! It has always felt to me like "grooming". I felt like I was cleaning myself and ridding myself of imperfections. Bumps, oil, etc. now at 23 years old I suddenly have little urge to pick, but still peel my split ends like a crazy person. While driving, while talking to people it's embarrassing but if I see a split end I just have to peel it because if I don't it will bother me knowing its there somewhere! It's interesting seeing all of us having the same issues. I have self esteem issues and image problems as well as pretty gnarly anxiety, this definitely stems from these issues. Just thought I would throw my 2 cents in especially when I saw the girl saying she is crying because she felt like the only one. You're not alone girl, I know the feeling :) hey there are worse habits! At least none of us are hurting others! Take care all.
It feels so good to not be alone, I feel like such a freak. I've wasted a ridiculous amount of my life pulling apart split ends. The best is sitting in front of sunlight and doing it. I have really healthy hair apparently but over the years I have damaged it. I remember when I was younger if I couldn't find any I would just rip out strands and snap them apart to create a split but after realizing the certain parts I pulled a lot were becoming more noticeable I very rarely actually rip it out now. It feels like an uncontrollable urge that once I start I'll keep at it for hours or as long as life will allow before someone comes around me ect. I've even wasted time at work doing it when the opportunity arose. Doing it in front of a white computer screen in a favorite way as well. It's so sickening. I tried telling a therapist about it once but she didn't ask much about it and kind of shrugged it of like it was no big deal. I know I have major issues with self confidence and obsess over it in my head thinking I'm not good enough though in reality I'm not all the bad. I've had anxiety issues in the past and depression. I don't know how to overcome this but am glad to know we aren't alone. My one biggest issue is how badly I need laser hair removal. When I was young my issue started out because I had hairy arms and got made fun of a bit for it. Later on in life I started shaving them which made me feel nearly 100% better but it's quite a hassle because I have to do it daily which makes my showers super long which annoys my partner. But after I felt better about my arms I started noticing other problem areas like my upper lip and sideburns. My upper lip I can somewhat get away with just waxing but my sideburns are a huge issue. I have spent hundreds on different products trying to get rid of it with no luck yet and it affect my everyday life on a high level. Under no circumstance will I wear my hair up even in the summer heat, even though it look really good up. If my partner tried to hold my face I'm mortified with embarrassment and try to pull away. We've been together for a year and a half now and I've never felt comfortable with it. I just want to be normal and live a normal life not having to worry about these little issues that most people don't have to deal with. It's holding me back from growing as a person.
i am actually crying as I type this I cannot believe that I am not alone. this is amazing. I have been pulling the split ends off my hair since I was 16 and am not 29. Like alot of you say, I used to have long thick dark hair but now it is so thin. I have had it highlighted in the past and that has not helped. I have also gone through stages of getting it cut into a bob to try and start a fresh but I simply cannot stop looking for split ends. I spend anything from 2-10 hours a day picking at my split ends. the damage to my hair is bad but the time I lose from my life is even worse. My boyfriend is quite hairy so I spend a lot of time pulling the split ends from his leg and chest hair too! I have never ever told anyone about my habit and try to keep it a secret. There is always a trail of hair behind me everywhere I go! I have recently been diagnosed with depression and also go and see a councillor once a week for other low confidence issues. I feel like the hair picking just goes hand in hand with all that. I want to stop so so badly to regain some control over my life. But is in an addiction, and not one that I could ever tralk about with anyone as there is no way they would take me seriously. Has anyone else ever been to the doctor about this? Do they take us seriously? I am off to make an appointment with my hairdresser today (I am getting no work done at work as I have been in hair picking mode all day) to get a few inches cut off to see how long I can go this time. This is an amazing forum and I am guessing this is not something any of us can talk about with other people. So lets work together and share our progress. one last thing.... does any one else feel excited at the though of bright sunshine shining into their car so they can get a beautiful sunlit backdrop onto their hair? It makes the split ends stand out beautifully. so weird!!!!!
Does anyone have ways that they stopped doing this? I've started picking at the front strands and now have sort-of bangs because I've pulled so much, and I feel like I'm almost going a little bald in front because I'm breaking off so much hair. Sometimes I even cut off the ends with manicure scissors, but it never helps because I just find more ends to break and then the more I pick, the more there are! I do it a lot when I drive, at work, or when I'm just sitting around. I even do it without realizing and other people point it out! Ugh it's terrible.
You all have no ideal how happy I am to find you. I use to have medium/long thick hair & for the past 5 years I have been picking my dead spilt ends. I my hair has grown but it's thinned out a lot from my breaking it off & lets not forget the highlights, blow drying, straightening & curling I've done to it everyday. I have a lot of areas that my hair is shorter than certain other spots & I just noticed last week that one side is shorter than the other side. I'm 43 years old & like others my age still want to look good for my husband & I would like to think others might find me attractive but with my hair it has caused my self-esteem to crumble. My husband always tells me to stop & I do cause it actually embarrasses me. Please help me with any advice you might have.
Hi I have just discovered this too! I don;t think there is any easy cure. but at least now we know we are not alone! Lets all work together to fight this with willpower as I think this might be the only way to do it My hair is a disaster. I have been splitting ends for 13 years. It has taken over my life. I need to get some control back! x
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