Split End Pickers?

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January 23, 2009

This seems more like a form of trich to me. I used to pull my hair more but it seems that I've switched to my skin. I used to find really thick hairs and most would be split ends, I'd usually pull at them and split them completely into two separate pieces.
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January 29, 2009

Interesting. I used to be a split-end picker, and I would rip the split-end hairs out of my head as well. I actually had my hair cut short at some point (age 17?) and I stopped messing with my hair (even though it is rather long now; I am 32). BEfore split ends, I bit my nails. After I cut my hair is about the time I moved to lip picking. They all seem related to me. I think I am scared to quit lip picking because lord knows what I will replace that habit with. OF course, messing with my hair was a much less harmless habit. It was never a severe habit. But yeah, cut your hair short. You'll start picking at other things instead probably though.
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February 20, 2009

I have recently began split end picking. I also bite my nails and skin around them, pick at my face and neck, lip biting/gum chewing, and pick at my scalp. GROSS right! I think split end picking is just one more thing that keeps me occupied. Any pointers??
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February 21, 2009

I don't get split ends often (lucky, I know), but when I do get them I have to pull them out, or split them even farther in half. I more pick my scabs.
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May 27, 2009

tarab, you are not alone on that one. I played with my hair and picked my split ends, since I could remember. Probably starting around age 10. I am 29 now and still do. I recently cut 10 inches off my hair (never had short hair) and I don't mess with that...However, I do pick my scalp more...Ugh. In college I would zone out with a pair of scissors and stand over the sink and trim each split end. It was not uncommon for me to do that for hours at a time. Looking back now it was most certainly a way to zone everything and everyone out. As alone and crazy as we may think we are...they are a ton of people just like us. And I think we are pretty normal : ) Don't give up.
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June 02, 2009

I can relate to that- obsessively looking at split ends and pulling them off (my hair is really really long now, I should really just cut it and get rid of the split ends, but being able to pull off the ends of my hair instead of the entire strand (which i prob would if it was short) is the lesser of 2 evils for me. I agree that you will probably start picking something else if you cut your hair off. I just try to pull it back when I'm around people (so I dont get distracted and anti-social around people... if people were talking to me I would totally zone out and look only at my hair not them which is just rude)
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September 10, 2009

I too do this and have done since the age of 15. I do notice i do it less when my hair is short. I leave my hair alone then. As soon as it reaches the collar or a decent length, I ususally notice a split end. As soon as i begin picking them i cannot stop. I pull them apart completely, and get a real buzz watching the process. I have even sat in front of a mirror or perched a magnifying glass to really get a good look and it shows up the little rascals even more. My hair when i begin is thick and lustrous but now a few months later, it resembles rat tails. When brushing it out there are large lumps that are eneven and one side looks like i have cut it in a triangular shape with a few stringy wisps. If i carry on i will be bald. I know i shoukld go and get it cut but never get round to it, any spare time is spent on this undesirable habit. I also pick the skin under my eyes.
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September 29, 2009

Hi everyone, So I've been picking my split ends on and off for about 12 years now (AHHH!) There have been times when I've been able to consciously stop and also times that I've unconsciously stopped. Lately I've basically gone off the deep end. I can't stop picking my hair and literally will do it for hours. It's usually when I'm watching tv, on the computer, reading, travelling, in the bathroom... Tonight I've decided that I have to stop! It gives me headaches and I think has affected my eyesight. It's just so hard to stop and people who know about my problem really don't understand how difficult it is to fight the compulsion. Why does it feel so good to break off hairs??
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October 24, 2009

I've been picking and shredding my hair since I was 13 and read in Jackie magazine that you should get rid of split ends! I'd never paid any attention to my hair before reading that and was amazed to find a split end! It really did start something!!! Anyway - I'm over 40 now and still do it - I have dents in my thumbs because I run my nails down the shaft of my hair and make several splits then I tear them off - I use a magnifying mirror too and I have been known to save really good split ends! It really revolts me that I do this but I've tried 30yrs to stop and have only succeeded for a few months at a time - the best thing I find to stop me picking is gel or acrylic nails - although I can still feel the splits they are too blunt and clumsy to allow me to shred a strand of hair. I've really got to the point where I feel I have to accept this problem - and just try to limit the damage. Cutting the hair doesn't work - I've tried that too - in fact, in many ways it makes the problem worse as I feel even uglier with short hair!!! Ohhh and the worse thing is...... I do it in bed before I go to sleep - I hate that - I have a sore head afterwards too!
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January 14, 2010

Thanks so much for being honest about your problems girls, i have exactly the same thing, it's awful, i want so desperately to stop it totally sickens me. I really thought i was the only one in all the world with this compulsion.
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January 14, 2010

I also have an obsession with picking and ripping my split ends, it repulses me but i can't stop. I started when i was about 14 and am now 46! It's got to such a state now that i have a cataract in both eyes - which in my opinion have been caused through picking my hair compulsivley. I have also given myself the most appalling crows feet as a result of straning my brows, then again it could be an age thing!! I've tried for years and years to stop. Thought i was alone until i came across this website tonight.
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January 17, 2010

I am primarily a skin picker, but I would always pull out my split ends from time to time, but I found a good way to redirect that habit. Now I trim my split ends instead of pulling them out. I make sure there are good quality haircutting scissors near any of the places I'd normally find split ends - the bathroom, my computer desk, my bedroom, my purse... Now I get the excitement of searching for, and finding, split ends, but I'm not losing the whole hair, just the split end itself. I feel like I'm actually doing a good thing. My other habits typically cause damage to my body, but this one now fixes damage. For a while, I was pushing myself to trim my split ends whenever I felt the urge to do any other kind of picking and it worked really well for a while. Now I'm off of my more effective OCD meds (I don't have insurance at the moment) so I'm back to picking, but at least my hair pulling has stopped. By the way, I HIGHLY recommend that anyone with these issues see a psychiatrist. It was immediately obvious to mine that I have OCD, based solely on the picking (the intensity and duration probably helped in the diagnosis - when I was diagnosed I was picking for hours each day). Apparently, any compulsive picking is at least an anxiety issue, if not full on OCD. I was shocked to hear that I had OCD, and at first thought it might be a mistake, but after my doctor diagnosed it, I started thinking of a million other ways that I'd obsessive or compulsive. I'm not the typical germaphobe, so I'd just never put two and two together. However, as soon as I went onto medication my picking improved. It took a long time, and a few medication increases and changes to feel like my picking was finally fairly under control, but, for me, medication was definitely the real solution. I'd tried to quit many times, with lots of different creative approaches, but until I solved the underlying chemical anxiety nothing was ever going to work long term.
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January 21, 2010

Realise i may need to see a Doctor for anxiety problems, I am such a worrier maybe thats my problem, at last decisive action and to be able to admit to it. The more i research this the more i am coming to terms with it. I've tried different ways to stop, wearing a hairnet helped, looks a bit silly but hey.......! So tired of ripping and splitting hairs spending hours bent over a bright light with a mirror and tweezers searching - its so sick. Every day I vow will be the last and every day i fail. Thanks for your help everyone - really appreciate it.
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December 29, 2010

This will really help (i think) I been doing this for about almost a year. It's so sad! Anyways I don't know how old you guys are, but if you can find a Barbie or bratz doll they have split ends! Alot too.so instead of messing up your hair mess up the dolls hair lol. I hope this helped!
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December 29, 2010

This will really help (i think) I been doing this for about almost a year. It's so sad! Anyways I don't know how old you guys are, but if you can find a Barbie or bratz doll they have split ends! Alot too.so instead of messing up your hair mess up the dolls hair lol. I hope this helped!
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February 01, 2011

i cant believe people other than me have this issue! i am obsessed, and i justify by telling myself that there just split ends. I can spend hours pulling them, the time flies by and i cannot stop!
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February 01, 2011

i have to see them to! when i get the ones with like ten splits it almost feels like a high, and i just stare.
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February 05, 2011

I feel much better now that i know that i'm not the only one. I've been dealing with this since age 11. I'm 24 now. I always felt weird and alone. I can't stop. I have to do it.
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February 25, 2011

I have had the same problem for over 20 years. Like other people have said, I also got a high from finding especially damaged hairs. I'm thrilled that I am not alone and that there is finally a significant amount of attention being paid to this problem. One thing that will definitely help is switching to cutting the split ends off with hairstyling scissors instead of picking them off. This is much better for the hair, and I find it is just as satisfying psychologically. I carry hairstyling scissors in my purse at all times. Another thing that helps control the habit is to prevent as many splits as possible by treating your hair gently--using a lot of conditioner, avoiding chemical damage such as perms, etc. Yet another technique to control it is to wear your hair in buns, twists, braids, etc. These styles contain your hair so that you can't see the damaged ends, and braiding will actually help prevent split ends. These styles look pretty and add variety as well. Good luck, everyone!
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February 26, 2011

I go through phases with the different things I do to my body. I have definitely had times where I rip out split and broken hairs. I would just stare at them, sometimes pick them apart. I haven't done that in a while. Right now I am more focused on skin and pores. Sometimes I can get a little hair out of a pore, that is the same kind of "high" for me at the split ends. It hurts more though afterwards.
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March 01, 2011

I could sit for hours on end picking split ends. I have been doing this for at least 20 years, if not more. I like hearing the little "pop" when I snap them off. Finding the ones that have multiple splits fuel the fire, and the ones that are high up on the strand because they're easier to grasp. I rarely go after the little baby splits at the very ends. I have a callus on my finger from doing this. I do it everywhere too. In traffic is the worst. I have been honked at I don't know how many times for sitting at red lights because I'm too distracted by finding a split end. I do it at my desk at work, in front of the tv, EVERYWHERE. I have tried cutting them with scissors and that helps a little, but nothing compares to the little pop you can hear when you rip one off. It really is like getting a high. I wish I could stop. My hair stylist told me all you're doing when you pick a split end is create another split end because the hair becomes weak and vulnerable. It's an endless cycle!!!
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July 09, 2011

OMG... okay, im 13- turning 14 but i have this problem to! i do it during class and its a way i dont get bored... i loovee the feeling when it comes out but my hair is horriblee! i really need to stop but i like NEED it..:(
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July 17, 2011

OMG! I Can't believe Im not the only one!!!! This is soooooo affecting my life! Im 28 now i have been doing this since I was 14 yrs old. My fiance says pls stop im starting to think your crazy. I spend hours finding split ends and when I pull them apart im so happy! I can't stop Ive tried everything pinning my hair back. Styling it different, I get mad cause I can't get the back like I can access the front. My poor head is sooooo uneven and brittle in the front, I don't put chemicals in my hair but my hair is very stingy looking 0_o I kno I need help, where do I start????
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August 22, 2011

Like everyone has said Im sooo glad im not the only one!!!! I was messed with as a child and never told a soul until i was older and I noticed after that happened to me I would spend hours cutting split ends out of my hair bitting them out pulling them out ripping them apart. I would have hair every where my mom would get mad and tell me to stop I was around 12 when I started. Now Im 25 years old and everyday I mess with my hair. To me I felt dirty or unperfect if i got a split end out i felt better but not just one i could spend hours doing it. I did cut my hair really short in high school and I stopped for a while bc I couldnt really see or feel them. I have bought the fake hair and played with it instead also hair extensions. But nothing compares to getting split ends out of your own hair. I use to think I was crazy. I try not to straghen my hair as much I leave it curly and tie it up and when i find myself doing it I try to stop or find something else to do. Its very hard but Im pretty sure Ill do this for the rest of my life my goal is to stop and let my hair grow out. Right now its so uneven and I hate it. Im glad I found this page and look forward to finding out more tip to help stop this madness other then the dolls hair or ectension bc i do this already from time to time. And some otther things I do is get my nail done bc I found it very hard for me to pull my split ends or rip them more with fake nails on and if I dont have my nail done I make sure they are short bc I can get a peice of hair and make it split with my nails. :( so so embrassring Thanks!
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September 05, 2011

Omg this is such a relief coming across this site! I'm glad to know I'm not the only one who suffers from this!!! I have been picking my split ends for the last couple of years now. I tell myself everyday that I must stop doing this but I just can't seem to!!! I know it's horrible for your hair and just causes more splits but that doesn't seem to stop me. I try to put my hair up as much as possible so I don't see it and start picking for hours, but sooner or later when I take my hair down I come across some splits and I can't help myself but pick them off. I started realizing I pick them more when I'm stressed or upset about something, but sometimes I pick them out of straight boredem. I also think they're so hideous and they make me think my hair looks ugly, and I feel like people can see them! I know most people probably can't see them, but I CAN see them, and that just drives me insane! I really don't want this to take over my life, but sometimes it does. In college I used to spend hours picking them and I would completely forget I was studying. Split end picking can be such a distraction because I can end up doing it for hours. I'm picking my split ends as I type this! The light from the computer allows me to see my splits better, and like many people have mentioned I also get a high and sense of comfort and relief from picking them. My family yells at me all the time and tells me to stop doing it because I look crazy, and I know I probably do look crazy but I can't stop! I'm also getting dents in my fingers from picking so much. I just got a haircut yesterday and cut off 2 inches, and I STILL have splits! I don't have as many as I used to, but there are still some! I just don't understand how this is possible. I'm really trying to cut down on the split end picking since I just got a haircut, but we'll see how this goes. I'm thinking I should have probably cut more hair off to get rid of more of my splits, but I just love my long hair and don't want it too short. Sometimes I feel like just cutting all of my hair off and getting it really short so I could end my split end picking for good! Unfortunatly, I don't have the guts to cut of all my hair because I would look terrible with short hair. I guess for now I have to trim my hair more frequently and stop touching my hair! I hope one day I can stop picking my split ends for good :(
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September 22, 2011

split eeeends! curse thee! i have wicked long hair n if i start i can't stop! i'll be sitting there holding my hair up to the light n squinting while i slowly go through it.... FOREVER. keeping your hair braided keeps the hairs from breaking...... and using a good conditioner. your hair, she be a precious fabric..... be gentle with her, yes?
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October 10, 2011

I am 13 and i pick at my split ends so much that i get blisters on my fingers. My mom gets really mad at me when i do it and so does my dad. I do it all the time whenever i can, even during school. My teachers get really mad and its gross becuase you can see the little hairs on the suface blow me. Its really gross and i need to stop. I've been doing it for about 3 years since i was 9. My friend said i had a lot and told me hwo to get rid of them. I have also tried to cut them but then i cut them so short because they still have spilts when i cut them they go up to the roots. It is so gross and i look like a crazy person. I am going to try a thing i think it's called Brazilian hair treatment, and it like gets rid of a ton of your split ends. you just use it in the shower before you wash your hair i think. My friend did it and it made her hair amazing! I am also going to take pre-matel pills or whatever there calld. They i guess help your hair to be helthy. I dont really pick at my skin, but i have exema and its like bumps on your skin and i squize them and i guess that counts. Idk but my hair pinkng needs to stop. I really hope i dont have ODC or ADD. But idk i mite. SOme people in my family do so i oculd be. I Try to cut my nails short so i cant pick them, but that drives me crazy and i kinda just pull of the whole hair. I am glad i am not the only one who does this, evenn though i'm kinda young. I hope i can get rid of them :/
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October 15, 2011

Hey everybody, Im 24 years old and I have this same problem. I have been doin this since I was 13 and I can not stop. I am completely obsessed with it and it gives me a since of relaxation and comfort when i do it. I find myself picking my ends when I am nervous, sad, mad, very upset, anxious, depressed, picking after arguing with someone, anxiety issues or jus plain out bored. I will sit in my room for hours upon hours doing it, like some people say, I usually dont go after the baby ones either I like to find the ones thats really big and the ones that have about 10 or more strands of a split on it makes me so happy and relieved. I will pick my ends anywhere like the bathroom, at my vanity table where my desk lamb shines bright on it, at work, in the car waiting or sitting at a red light and sometimes I get honked at too lol but ( I find that the natural sunlight is the absoulte very best when picking your split ends) and the worst was in school. I would pick them so much in school because I was so bored, didnt get very good grades and my teachers would hold a parent teacher conference with me regarding my issue with this for not paying attention. Im a very girly girl and likes makeup and stuff like that but when I want to pick my ends or jus feel that need to I like to wear black or hold my hair in the direction of something dark in the background bc I found I can see them alot better that way. I have been yelled at so much by my parents and friends bc they said its nasty and annoying lol. My friend said she can hear the popping and it drives her crazy. I am not on any meds for this nor have I ever and Im still to this day picking my split ends for hours and hours. But here recently I have developed another obsession to picking my acne bumps on my face some will be tiny bumps some large but not the very big nasty pus kinds jus like the little whiteheads or blackheads that have the tiny little white thing that pop out with a hard squeeze. I have sat in my room yet again picking these bumps on my face, everytime I find one that has the whitehead pop out I get this overly excited feeling that jus utterly comforts me so much. I wish I could stop these obsessions bc I feel like not only is it unhealthy and damaging to my hair and skin but Im wasting my young youthful days sitting in my room doin this instead of being out with my friends or having hobbies. These are the prime years of my life where I should be focused on school and getting a college diploma and finding someone to settle down with and starting a family but instead im too distracted and lost in my own little word of obsessive complusive disorder and all im doin is jus working and living with my mother still. I hate it and have came to a conclusion that I need help and this needs to stop. Im currently in the process of seeking a therapist for every matter that I have in hopes that I can get my life on the right track instead of having it wasted with no accomplishments. So if your like me I strongly urge you to seek help immeditely. If these obsessions are taking over your life and doing nothing but causing so many problems for you, then get help please. If your comfortable in your life and have all your goals met and have settled down and already has everything goin for you then picking your split ends doesnt have to stop unless it takes over you and controls you then yes, but then do it because it makes u feel good and dont pick them cut them off with shears. But the picking of the bumps has to stop its jus all around damaging and in the long run you will just end up having nothing but a bottle of pills for ocd and a scarred up face. Good luck to everybody that suffers these issues I hope you all find a cure for yourself and jus know that your not the only one who has these problems others like me suffer from it too and no your not crazy by the way, WE JUST CANT HELP IT. lol. Take care everybody. :)
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October 21, 2011

i have the same problem with picking my split ends! ahh i hate it so much and i cant stop. im not that bad about it though like ill do it alot at school but at home i dont. i do it alot when i get out of the shower though because they i guess are fun to pick at when there wet. but i really need to stop. ill do it and i dont even relize im doing it and then i get more annoyed! my friend does it to but i dont think as much as me. i first found out about split ends when i was 13 yeah im 15 now and i think its time to stop... reading these storys makes me feel better because i feel like im not the only one that does it. but still i really want to stop. i remember this period of time when i didnt do it for about two months and i loved it and then just one night i was under a light and i saw a split end and i just needed to pick it and so it started up again. i hate it because when i do it, it just creates more split ends. and in my opinion i think they are discustng. i hope i can find a way to just completely stop. one thing i have been do is i have been picking at my lip because they are so chapped and i dont even relize it sometimes and it makes my lips hurt even worse. i mean i have big lips and if there bleeding from me picking at them that doesnt make them look so good. i pick them until theres no more chapped skin and thats not good. chap stick doesnt work it just makes my lips even more chapped. so i just need to stop and im going to try everything in my power to, so yeah thats my lips and split ends problem..
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October 22, 2011

Count me in as well...I enjoy picking my split ends; the act itself seems to calm my anxieties and gives me something to pick at other than my face. I especially love the long ones--they're bendable and remind me of the appendages of a "daddy long legs" spider. I also love the ones that are frayed into several fanned segments. I know I say these things and risk being seen as convoluted; I hope someone can relate!
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October 29, 2011

Im 14 and ive done it for 3 years! I cant focus at school and people laugh at me. My teachers yell at me in class to leave my hair alone. ITS HIMILIATING! I CANT STOP! I cant do my homework cuz all i can think about is my split ends! I put my hair in a pony tail at home and that really helps but wen im bored i just pick! It is super bad at school. I get no work done! I used to be a straight A student but no i have Bs and Cs! I get nothing done. I Wake up on the weekends and sit in my room ALL day picking! Sometimes i dont leave my room and dont even eat! Im si glad im not alone. I NEED HELP!
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January 04, 2012

Hi, please see my post earlier today. I have been doing this for 40 years and can relate. My teacher once asked me if I was picking bugs out of my har!!!! That was humiliating. But please don't get too overwhelmed. The best thing you can do is get your hair trimmed a lot. And maybe talk to your parents about counsiling. Also, I think keeping your hands busy helps too. I do jigsaw puzzles, crochet and play on my DS.
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November 30, 2011

God yes, favorite past time, i don't even realise i'm doing it any more, at least its not quite as destructive as picking at your skin. To stop myself do it i wear my hair up pretty much all the time now to give it some time to grow back.
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December 04, 2011

I have been picking my split ends sinve ive been 12 im almost 20 for me its a stress releiever i have 2 kids both boys the ages is 1 and 4 months old so yea thats alot of stress.. I remember the first day i picked one i thought it was good for your hair honestly, Im starting to wonder if this is a condition or just a bad habit like biting nails. ive tried so much to stop but i just cant it relaxes me for some reason. I guess some people drink some people smoke I pick split ends its my horrible addiction...
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December 10, 2011

I can't believe this site is real. I'm in college and have been picking at my hair since I was a sophomore in high school. I used to bite my nails but that stopped when I got braces. I remember my best friend was complaining about how bad her ends were and I asked what she meant and she replied saying "i sometimes split my ends" and I took one look at my hair and it's been down hill ever since. I had long, gorgeous strawberry blonde hair that hair stylists would always comment about and beg me to donate because it was so thick and pretty... Now I have fried, split, choppy uneven hair that I can't stop picking at. It started with just splitting the split end and then I kept getting hair cuts so that I would stop doing it. Eventually my hair was too short to see so I started to run my nails down the hair to create a split and break it off. Now I sit in front of the mirror with a light and tweezers and split the ends. My roommates let me sit in front of the mirror for a little bit because if they don't I sometimes stay up late and do it for hours at night. I could be perfectly content doing it in front of the mirror for hours on end I have no doubt and it really becomes a problem when I need to write a paper or study. Papers take me so long not because I'm slow at writing but because I stop and pick at my hair for 10 minutes after every few sentences. I want to stop so bad.. I've even had my roommates take my tweezers but I just use my nails now. Over Christmas break I wanna dye my hair dark red brown and get extensions because maybe having extensions will make me stop? I doubt it though.. It'll just be more hair to feed my addiction. I guess I could seek a counselor because I know it is an anxiety problem, but I also think it's just a bad habit. Not sure what to do. I've worn gloves or a hat in the security of my room but even then I find myself ten minutes later picking at my hair because I unconsciously took off the gloves. I've already stopped a few times while typing this huge thing. Idk why I never thought to google this problem before. I think it's cuz I thought I was the only one because after my old hair dresser was shocked and had never heard of anyone so obsessed I lost all hope and had my Mom trim my hair ever so often and stopped going to the salon because I'm so embarrassed. I want my gorgeous hair back! It would boost my confidence so much! I already have a really low confidence and picking my hair does not help! HELP!!
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December 11, 2011

I know exactly how you feel! Here's some advice, recently I've been adding a little bit of olive oil to the ends of my hair when it is wet, this helps make split ends less noticeable when your hair dries (but unfortunately you can still find split ends even after doing this). I use to have blond hair and I also got extension because my hair was short and not growing because of how much i picked at my split ends. One thing with extensions I noticed is that it did some what help me stop picking at my split ends BUT instead I was picking at the split ends of the extensions instead! But i guess that is better than picking at your real hair's split ends. Since I was picking at my extensions split ends it did help my real hair grow out some. However, now I don't have extensions and I recently dyed my hair brown.. one thing I've noticed compared to my blond hair and brown hair is that I notice more split ends and dead ends when i have darker hair. With darker hair I found it easier to notice split ends in all different kinds of lighting. So be careful if you do dye your hair dark because the same might happen to you. I definitely recommend using olive oil on your ends and getting extensions to help deter you from picking at your real hair's split ends. So far this is what I've found to work best for me, but I still struggle with the urge not to pick. Good luck! Hope this advice helps!!
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December 14, 2011

Don't think of it as "just a bad habit"! This is not normal. I do this too (in addition to skin picking) so I totally understand your pain. My hair is so much thinner than it would be if I didn't have trichotillomania and that is indeed a blow to confidence. You really do need to seek a counselor. This is not a habit that you can just kick. I had no idea that dermatillomania and trichotillomania were so common (or even that they had NAMES!) until I found this site a couple of weeks ago. Since then, my problems with those two and with anxiety and schoolwork got so bad that I finally was desperate enough to call the Center for Counseling and Psychological Health at my university. I have now had two appointments and I cannot praise the experience enough. I was SO nervous about it and have been avoiding therapy for years because of that fear. But all of that nervous-ness faded very soon after the first appointment began. I really recommend that you try to see a counselor. I didn't have much trouble telling him about how my family stresses me out and my problems with schoolwork, but I was pretty worried about telling him about my skin picking and split end pulling. While I have talked to friends and family about other problems, I have never spoken with anyone about my trichotillomania nor dermatillomania. I got the courage to open up about it during my second appointment and was relieved when he used the clinical names before I did. He understood. Just like this website has helped me in realizing that I am not the only one that suffers with these, talking to a professional made me feel better because he was very understanding and clearly had knowledge about these things. It's the end of the semester, so I won't be able to see him again until the end of January, but I'm going to try to see someone at home in the meantime. Apparently I have lots and lots of anxiety and OCD. He recommended I my ask my doctor for a referral to a psychologist so I can start treatment which may be a combination of behavorial therapy and medication. Girl -- I promise you that this is not just a bad habit. You need to see someone. Your health is worth overcoming whatever is holding you back.
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December 11, 2011

It is such a relief to know that others pick at their split ends as well. I thought I was the only one who had a serious problem with it! I started picking at my split/dead ends when I was in high school. It wasn't that bad at first and I would only do it once in awhile. Since starting college my problem has gotten way worse! It wasn't that bad my first couple of years at college but from my junior year on it has gotten out of control! In class I would just sit and pick at my split/dead ends all day and completely ignore the lectures I was attending. Even while I am taking tests I will pick at my split ends. Before when I was still living at home, my mom use to yell at me and tell me to stop when she saw me doing it. Now that I don't live at home and live far away, there's no one there to tell me to stop. It has gotten so bad and so out of control that it has affected my school work and studying. I'm so irritated with myself and have tried what seems to be everything to stop! I'll cut off my split ends, but I seem to always find more to pick at after I do. I've tried wearing my hair up but still find myself picking at split ends when little pieces of hair that fall down (or I'll intentionally pull small pieces down to pick at). I've tried sitting on my hands too to avoid doing it but some how I always manage to pick at them. Recently Ive tried a new technique of adding a little bit of olive oil to the ends of my hair when it is wet to make my ends less dry and it helps make split ends less noticeable. (but I still manage to find some split ends to pick at). Sometimes, especially at night or in certain lighting, I'll catch myself sitting for hours just picking at my split ends. It's gotten so out of control for me and I'm so desperate to stop but I have no idea how! My hair use to look so good, now it never grows and is so damaged. I'm so embarrassed by it because even some people in my class have called me out on it. Now I'm about to graduate college and get a job and the last thing I want to do is pick at my split ends while working. If any one has any advice on how to stop this please let me know!! I know it is a form of an OCD problem, and I'm contemplating seeking therapy help for it but would prefer to kick the habit on my own. So PLEASE help me! I'm willing to try anything (except shaving my head haha).
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January 04, 2012

Hello, I am 48 years old and I have been doing this since I was 8. It is worse at times and better at others. I have found that when I am nervous about anything, it is very bad. I have even caught myself picking while driving!!!! Sometimes the only thing I care about is picking. Not my husgand, not my kids or job. Believe me I really know about this obsession. Anyway, the things that I found that have helped me, is............ I have to have my hair cut short, not really short, but short enough that it is hard to pick comfortably. And I get frequent hair trims. Nothing makes it worse than knowing I have damaged hair. So after I get the trim, I usually have a few weeks of not obsessing. But I am also on Zoloft. I know you might not want to go to drugs, but hey, If you need it, it is silly not to. You just need to get over the obsession for a while to see how much better your life is without it. But if you only do one thing, get your hair trimmed often. Let me know how you are doing, Shelley
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January 17, 2012

I am 16 and I started picking last year because I was abused and publicly humiliated by my best friend and then left friendless for months untill I found people I could trust. I have been bullied my whole life about my appearance so once I got my braces off I became obsessive about the way I look and I feel so guilty for being vain, somedays I feel like the most beautiful girl in the world and somedays I feel like the ugliest. I feel Like I need to be perfect so i feel the obsessive need to get rid of my gross splits so I can be perfect . I had read that if you pull them off and leave the hair there then the split just spreads farther up so i pull the entire hair out then pick off the end, the way I see it once it has a split the whole hair is gross. People always comment on how few split ends I have and thus motivates me to do it more. I have been praised for my hair so often that I feel like people expect it to be flawless and if it has splits of looks bad I have failed. There was a boy in my math class who constantly teased me about my picking saying I would go bald, then he asked me out after all that bullying was angry and confused so i punched him .... That's never how I would usually react but I am so tired of bullying so I snapped. I really scared myself and i don't want to have anything for people to bully me about anymore I just want to be perfect so people will leave me in peace! I notticed that there are little white balls and if you pull them the end pops off, and ones that have split Luke a fan, and ones that split like the branches ofand I am scared to ask a tree and you can bend them to form right angles and i truly hate them all and take joy in removing and them breaking them. My obsession hasn't quite taken over my life yet but i can see that coming, I know I need to get rid of my obsession with having to look perfect I have had a lot if people beating on my self worth for my whole life and I really need therapy! I know my problems just not how to fix myself but i am scared to ask my mom for therapy... Anyways goodluck to all of you!
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January 25, 2012

If I spot a split end while driving, I will hold it in my fingers until I stop at a red light. My two kids will tell me to pay attention to driving. Sadly, I have even driven with my knee so I can pick my split ends. Wearing it up does not help because I will still pick the ends of my ponytail. I also run my fingers through my hair until all the loose hairs are pulled out. I do not pull at the root. I tell myself that I am pulling the "essential oils" down from my scalp toward my ends, but I know that I am just making my hair thin. I cut my hair short one time, but I found that I obsessed over it being cut evenly. That drove me more crazy than dealing with my split end picking/hair pulling.
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January 26, 2012

I can't believe that there are others out there! I started doing this when I was in high school. I would only do it every now and then, and would even find my self looking at my friend that sat in front of me to see if she had split ends. It took everything I had not to pick at hers!! As time passed, my problem became worse. i will sit for hours cutting the ends. I have to find at least 10 every time I start, or I can't stop. Sometimes, I have found myself looking while checking for them at redlights. I have a friend that has them really bad, and she'll let me pick at them....wish she never would have done that because I never wanted to stop. She would have 10 splits in one hair. Felt like heaven being able to pick them out....I seriously need help!!
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January 28, 2012

Oh my god i'm not alone! I'm 14 and i've been doing it since i was about 12? during class and tests i catch myself completley zoned out and picking at my ends. My friend used to do it but she stopped and now she makes fun of me for it. My teachers yell at me and make fun of me in front of the whole class, some even tell me that i need to wear my hair up. which dosen't help i end up taking the end of my pony tail and picking at then still. My mom always yells at me and tells me to sit on my hands but it dosent work i end up picking still. sometimes when im straightening my hair i have to put the straightener down cause i find a bunch. When my mom catches me doing it she adds on a month that i won't get a hair cut. I haven't gotten my hair cut in 9 months because of it...i seriously need help. :(
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January 28, 2012

ok i never had this problem before, but if you would want to stop picking at your split ends. cut them off every 4 to 5 months, and take good care of your hair by deep conditioning. it will get rid of your split ends, another would be putting your hair in a bun not ponytail. ive read that many people put there hair in a ponytail but not a bun.. but when you put your hair back into a bun hid the tips/split ends so you wont pick at them. but putting your hair in a bun to much is damaging, when your at home wear a hair cap, you can buy them at salleys,etc. then try to keep your hand of your hair. go shoping or cook do somthing that keeps your mind off of picking at them. but im just trying to help but if there are others better then do anything to stop picking your split ends.
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February 24, 2012

You Are So Right About Keeping Your Hair , Tyed Up . & Getting it trimed cause it makes me feel like my head is split end free .
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January 31, 2012

honestly, ive read all your stories and ive been doing this for almost a year. i honestly think that there is some way to stop it besides putting it up or doing it to barbies or bratz. i feel like it is a nervous habit or when you get bored you do it. i need to stop this because my hair is really frizzy and bad looking. everyone always tells me to stop and now if i run my fingers through my hair, a whole chunk comes out of my head, this obsession needs to stop because it's ruining peoples lives. all my friends look at me like im crazy. i wish i had never learned about split ends. i feel that if we just ignore it, we eventually stop doing it. and if you just started doing it, dont continue just stop. because it gets to a point where you can sit there for hours and do it. im not at the point, i could sit there for like 20 minutes and do it then id snap out of it. so i think if you stop doing it early then you will be able to avoid this. and im relieved that im not the only one who does this. i figured i wasnt the ONLY one doing it, but i didnt know how many people did and how out of hand it can get. from reading all this, from this day on i swear i will try not to get distracted by my hair anymore. im going to start right now by trying to do my homework without looking at it. im going to try it tommorow too in school. the habit for me has gotten a lot beter just by me ignoring it more. i only do it during a hard question during a test or when im stuck doing my work. i think if you just igore the hair and keep doing what youre doing that can help too. and i swear from this day on even though i look 1000000 times better with straight hair i will only straighten my hair like 2 times a month and wear my hair natural. i
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February 03, 2012

I split my ends to. For me, it started when I was 11. (I'm 20 now.) It's an obsession. Even now, when I sit typing this, I notice maybe one or two split ends and can't help messing with it. Sometimes I do it absentmindedly. Recently, I found out that this might be a form of Trichotillomania. (Go to this site to learn more: http://www.behaviortherapynyc.com/trichotillomania-skin-picking-new-york.html) I am tired of picking at my hair too. (I’m afraid I might go bald…) I think the best thing to do is to talk to a therapist. I will try to do the same.
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February 03, 2012

I, too, have been a split end picker since I was about 13 years old. It got very bad in high school and college and then subsided for a few years and now it's been bad again. I am 32 years old. I have callous fingers from picking, my hair is so uneven and it's very hard to stop. I am a therapist as well. What I can say is that I've identified my triggers - anxiety and boredom. The picking allows me to focus on something while disconnecting from other people/things at the same time. There is something so fascinating about focusing on this little strand of broken hair and "fixing it," all the while detaching from everything else around me. All that matters in the moment is that tiny little hair that needs help. When I am anxious, it gives me something to focus on other than what's causing me anxiety. When I am bored, it allows me to concentrate on a "project" to pass the time. I cannot tolerate sitting with those two feelings which is why I pick. It's truly crazy but this is how I think. To that end, all that's ever worked for me is a getting regular haircuts. I have tried to put my hair up and that works 50% of the time only. I either pull out chunks to pick or I take the ponytail down altogether. It does work some of the time. Essentially, I need regular hair cuts. When I don't have splits to pick, I typically don't create them. I used to create them more frequently at one time in my life, and then pick them, but I have stopped that thankfully. However, if I have split ends now, I will either waste HOURS of my day searching for broken, weak hair and breaking it off OR I will cut chunks off with scissors, leaving my hair very uneven. Sometimes what helps is finding images on the web of split ends and broken hair and that will "feed" me for awhile so that I don't have to look for my own split ends to destroy. Good luck to everyone out there. We all need to find what works for us.
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February 06, 2012

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February 18, 2012

Ok I am 13 and im pretty sure I have been doing this for a year, or more :(. right now i have really long hair, but with this habbit it will soon become uneven and thin. I discovered this habbit on my own, just sitting in my room and I saw one. i just thought of the idea of splitting it and i honestly thought it was good for my hair at first. I even told people it was good for your hair and I got alot of people into it , I got alot of my friends in it and my sisters. I have tried to quit for so long. My mom yells at me all the time now. I always say this is the last time and i always end up doing it :( I do it in school all day and sometimes i see a pile of hair on my desk and it is so embaracing. It has really interfered with my school work because i get so bored in class i just always do it. I have actually developed a new habbit with my hair.....I feel the hair and if it "rough" i will rip it in half! it is so bad and i have a bunch of short hairs on my head from were ive done that. I really want to stop on my own without therapy...I really dont want to get to the point of doing it for hours. sometimes i even do it subcontiosly. I really want to stop and hope you guys can get out of it. best luck 2 all :) DO NOT LOOSE HOPE! there is a way to stop remember that. its under your control we cant let it own us.

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