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Angi32010 , 06 Aug 2022

Looking for a skinpick buddy! (around age 21)

Hi everyone,

I just found this forum and am relieved to discover that I am not alone in this! I am a 21 y/o female who has struggled with skin-picking since around the age of 13/14. I have finally started to hold myself accountable and am trying to control the urges, but would love to have someone from around my own age to talk to about this. We could hold eachother accountable and have someone to relate to. The areas of my body which I am most self-conscious about are my face and my breasts, but luckily the scars are still fading (although slowly). Whilst I finally came across a really great guy, I am terrified to start dating him because of what he might think of my scars. Are there any others out there who struggle with this? I would love to get in touch :)

7 Answers
wecanstoppicking
August 10, 2022

Hello, 

It’s good that you’re reaching out and seeking support.  Although I’m not the right match (older that target age range), you should be proud of yourself for reaching out and seeking accountability. The earlier you try to intervene with skin picking…the better.    

If you don’t immediately get a response on this site…I would suggest trying some “self-accountability” measures like tracking your picking behaviors and seeing if you can identify patterns / triggers.  Other strategies that may help are “blocking” techniques (like wearing gloves or covering the picking site) and cognitive strategies (like trying to challenge the thoughts that underlying the picking and replace them with something more positive/healthy).    

You are not alone with the skin picking struggles — and there is hope for getting better.    

Also, please try to remember that anyone who doesn’t accept you (scars or not) is not worth your time.  You are much more than your skin or outward appearance.  If you’ve met a great guy…that’s fantastic — but if he’s truly the right person for you, he will have empathy for your struggles and support you no matter what.    

I lived my whole life being ashamed of picking — and still struggle — but my wife (who it took me until my 30s to find) accepts and supports me. She sees more than a mark on my face and just wants me to be healthy/happy.    

I’m confident that you will find that too (whether it’s this guy or not).  Remember that you are more than your appearance — and keep striving to control the picking behaviors.    

Wishing you all the best. 

Angi32010
August 15, 2022

In reply to by wecanstoppicking

Hi! 

Thanks so much for the response. It is very comforting to hear your story! I actually only told my parents about this two days ago (I am always very stubbornly trying to fix things on my own), and we are now discussing whether therapy might help me. I totally agree someone should accept me the way I am, which is something I keep reminding myself of. Anyways, thanks again for the response!

DangerNoodle2000
August 12, 2022

Hey! 

Are you still looking? I'm 21 y/o female too, and also struggle with it since I was 13...and my face is also my biggest problem area:) looks like we are a perfect match:D

 

Angi32010
August 15, 2022

In reply to by DangerNoodle2000

Hi! I would love to get in touch. Someone else (age 23) commented too, and shared her discord. My username on discord is Mirrepirre2000#1843. I also suggested to her that we could form a small group for support? 

 

(P.S. I haven't used discord yet but will ask my little brother for help. So it might take me a couple of days to get the hang of it and respond XD) 

nova
August 14, 2022

23f here! Love this idea! I’ve been picking my face/body for as long as I can remember, so completely judgement free zone here! Would honestly love the help too :)

add me on discord nanithefuck#2979

Angi32010
August 15, 2022

In reply to by nova

Hi! Great to hear that you would like a skin-pick buddy as well! I just added you, My username is Mirrepirre2000#1843. There was someone else who commented too. I am going to share my discord with that person as well, maybe we can form a small group?

P.S. I have no clue how discord works yet, but I will ask my little brother to explain it to me. So you might not get a response from me right away XD

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