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February 26, 2009

hi sammi, i am also new to the site, just signed up, im 18 but taking several psych courses at the moment. ive been picking for 3 years now. It seems to ebb and flow with me, mostly based on my stress levels. Also i seem to discover a direct correlation between my sex drive and my picking. It seems that when i have sex, or relieve my hormones another way, like weightlifting or boxing, i have less of an urge to pick. I think that there is a direct connection between stress hormones and skin picking, for example when i have a term paper deadline coming up, i tend to pick more. I have been able to keep my picking at a moderate level using several techniques of my own creation. Firstly, i work out 5 to 6 times a week. I also txt my gf when i feel the urge to pick and she tries to talk me out of it. keeping busy, reading, video games, studying, any activity that keeps ur hands busy works. television, unfortunatly, doesnt. my picking isnt that bad but my counselor also recomended other techniques, such as wearing latex gloves when possible, and sweaters at home. cocoa butter helps with the scars. best of luck. keep posting
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February 26, 2009

Thank you for replying to my post . . I'm feeling so alone atm. I have also thought about taking up boxing or something as well to relieve my stress levels. I notice my scratching is worse when I'm stressed but sometimes I don't even notice I'm doing it and I do it when I'm bored, upset, even when I'm asleep as well. I just can't believe there are other people out there like me . . I have been looking for years!! Thank you for sending through all your techniques, I am going to give them a go.
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February 26, 2009

well since we are both online atm u wanna talk... im kinda lonely too
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February 26, 2009

Ok sure that would be great . . how do we do that? Do you need my msn address or something?
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February 26, 2009

not yet, this is new to me and i think its easier to just chat in this forum here. and i dont use msn anyway lol. oh im trying a new technique atm, i put like lotion on my scabs and then i cant pick them cuz its either too messy or too slippery, plus it helps heal them
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February 26, 2009

Yeah same . . I don't use msn either lol! Oh I'm glad the lotion works for you, unfortunately it doesn't work for me because it makes my sores go all soft and then I knock the tops off them easily or I just find it easier to scratch them. Atm I have Rawleighs medicated ointment on my face to try and make them heal faster but now I'm too scared to wash my face because I don't want all the tops to come off my scabs. I have a 21st this weekend and I just don't want to look like crap :( It's my first night out in 3 years! Do you scratch all over your body?
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February 26, 2009

i pick and squeeze more than scratch really, mostly cuz i dont have nails. I have geneticly high testosterone from my fathers side so i am high strung and have anger issues sometimes. I take it out on my skin a lot. Also because of my testosterone levels i get a bit of acne on my chest arms and back. Unfortunatly they are usually empty or premature pimples that i pick or squeeze, only making things worse. try cutting ur nails really short. or sleeping with ur hands tied. as a last resort. oh a natural tan helps, i kno it sucks to go to the beach, beleive me, i have a six pack and muscles and all i can think of is ppl looking at my scars at the beach, but a natural beach tan fades away the scars. you can do it at a tanning salon too probably if u want more privacy.
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February 26, 2009

I pick, scratch and pull and in the last 2 years I have started using tweezers to help me. I too get really angry as well and because I don't want to hurt anyone or anything I take it out on myself as well by scratching. Which is why i think boxing would be a good idea. I've tried the nails short thing, it didn't work for me, same with tieing up my hands. Acrylic nails helped me a little cuz it made it too hard for me to pick but they cost SO much to get done and I don't have the money atm. I've tried the natural tan too and I agree it really helps with the scars. Unfortunately I won't go to the beach though and I haven't in over 7 years cuz I'm just too embarassed. I too have a really nice figure I just never get to show it off cuz of my skin. I'd like to tan more but I don't leave the house anymore that's how bad mine has got!! Also do you have a bf? I have been with my fiance for 3 and a half years and we broke up last night over this. It just got too hard to hide it from him anymore and he was sick of seeing the way I looked. It sucks as well because we have a 2 year old son together :o( this scratching has just totally ruined my life.
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February 26, 2009

well im a guy. i have a gf lol. My gf knows about it and helps me with it. She had eating disorder issues and kinda knows what its like to have a body image addiction so we fight together, and its a big help. Idk how ur fiance would take it but i think opening up to him might be a good idea. the more alone u feel the more u tend to pick. the only person who knows is my gf actually. and i only told her cuz she sees me naked so i couldnt really make up anything. also she trusted me with her issues so i figured i could trust her
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February 26, 2009

Oh shit sorry I got things mixed up a bit. I'm glad your gf really helps you out with it. I kept it hidden for a long time from my bf but when it came to giving birth well that ended that and he finally saw me naked. My bf had drug addiction issues and I helped him through that so I was hoping he would help me but he says he can't take it anymore, he hates the way I look, my scratching disgusts him, etc. etc. so I burst into tears and that was the end of that. The only ppl that know are my family cuz I've had it since I was 4 and my bf. None of my friends know they just think I'm the wierd one that wears winter clothes in summer lol!!
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February 26, 2009

yeah i havent been picking for too long and i try really hard to keep it on my shoulders and chest and away from my face so that i can usually dress normally, recently tho i have been wearing sweaters to the gym instead of t shirts. im really sorry to hear bout what happened. i know we just met but it seems like i know you already, probably cuz we have a similiar problem. I have class in 6 hours and i still havent gotten any sleep tho so unfortunatly i g2g, but listen, il sign in this forum at about 10 pm east coast time tomorow if you want to talk. I told my gf this when she was having her eating disorder issues and now im gunna tell it to you: you have to remember that you are beautiful, not because of your outside appearence but because of who you are. You are strong and you can make it through this. And no matter how bad you think you look, i will always find you gorgeous and i will always be here. I know it sounds corny but i figured id try to cheer you up. anyway u need anything before i go to sleep?
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February 26, 2009

I hope you get to start wearing t-shirts to the gym again soon. Same you are the first person I have talked to who has this problem and it feels really good to know that I'm not alone. I too have to go as I have an appointment in 30 mins - I just want to check that you live in Australia so we get our times right lol! I live in Perth Western Australia so I'm not really sure of the time difference. But as soon as I get a comment from you I should be able to comment back. Thank you so much for your beautiful words, they meant a lot to me and thanks they did cheer me up :o)!! I look forward to talking to you again!! Take care!!
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February 26, 2009

well i live near new york city so im a bit off of ur time zone.10 pm for me is 12 noon for you in western australia, i have a distant cousin in sidney btw. anyway thats when il be online. and im glad i could help. Also there are more of us than you think, many just wont fess up and admit it. Talk to you tomorow , goodnite lol
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February 26, 2009

Wow New York . . I have always wanted to visit there. Hehe well 12 noon is a good time for me anyway so that will be great!! Talk to you then . . goodnight lol!!
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February 27, 2009

hey sammi, how are u feeling today?
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February 27, 2009

I felt a little better after going to the psychologist last night. He'd never heard of Dermatillomania either . . actually I haven't met anyone in Australia who has a clue what it is. I asked if he could refer me to someone who specialises in this area but I think there is only specialist help available in the US . . I've been trying really hard not to pick cuz I have a 21st this Saturday but no luck so far. I had to buy long sleeve pants and a long sleeve shirt as my clubbing outfit lol!! How are you feeling today?
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February 27, 2009

yeah i kno its pretty rare apperantly, im gunna see a doctor soon, probably next week. i havent picked much today, only like 5 or 6 scabs today. im having a good day i suppose. if u fly out to new york u must let me know. my counselor knows a little bit about it, even though she hasnt even completed her masters yet, but she is very smart and gave me a few good tips today. She recommended doing something like squeezing a stress ball or doing something else with my hands. I bought a stress ball and it kinda helps a bit. Also when im in my computer i doodle in paint and it keeps my hands busy. U still upset? i mean of course you are thats silly of me to ask but like are you gunna be ok?
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February 27, 2009

Lol I'd love to come to New York . . I'm a big fan of Sex and the City haha lame I know!! This may sound really silly but I'm going to send a letter to Dr. Phil to see if he can raise a bit more awareness of the issue as I never even knew it had a name until yesterday. So far I've been pretty good as well only picking about 5 . . but then my son rammed his firetruck into my forehead and so now I have a massive cut between my eyebrows . . so not helping!!!! Thanks for the tips . . I love painting and I'm thinking of joining a gym to start boxing to relieve some of my temper. Does working out at the gym help relax you? Yeah I'm still pretty upset but not nearly as bad as yesterday, I just hope my psychologist can fix this. How are you feeling today? Less lonely I hope?
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February 27, 2009

im feeling a lot better today, i hung out with my gf after school and we made plans for my bday, im 18 on the 17 of march btw. and i love going to the gym, it takes away the craving to pick for a good 4 hours afterwords, and its a way of showing off my body without showing off my skin, i wear sweats but still i have impressive workouts so ppl can tell im in good shape and it feels good. Im glad ur feeling better. and ur son seems a lot like my baby cousin lol. he also hit me in the face with a firetruck once. i never watched sex in the city but i assure u the real new york isnt as glamorous, but the doctors are good. I live about 20 miles or so away though, not exactly in the city.
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February 27, 2009

Glad you're feeling better. Your gf sounds really sweet! Does she ever try to help you stop? Or has she ever done any research on it for you? I was quite dissapointed in my fiance that he never bothered to look into things for me to try and help me even though I put SO much effort into helping him to quit drugs. The gym sounds great - I hope it helps me as much as it helps you! Lol gotta love kids sometimes haha . . stupid firetrucks . . had a massive headache afterwards and so annoyed that I didn't have a spot on my forhead before and now I have a massive one lol!! Oh :( damn about NYC - is where you live nice? My friend visited NY outside of the city and she came back with some beautiful pics. You're really lucky to be in the US as a lot more research is done there on rarer conditions. Hey have you purchased the online book from this site? I was thinking of buying it for the help. Oh and Happy Birthday for the 17th March . . it's a big year for both of us 18 and 21 . . I was really hoping to have stopped picking by the age of 21 . . it would be nice to have fun for it without having to worry about what I look like!
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February 27, 2009

well my gf just found out not too long ago, and she was in the hospital dealing with her own issues and i supported her thru those. She does whatever she can to help me, but she isnt really like the research type, mostly she just tells me she loves me and asks me what she can do for me, and i tell her. Ive done a lot of research and very little is known outside of a small circle of psychiatrists about csp. Furthermore, i dont recommend buying a book written by a guy without letters after his name, if you know wat i mean. I doubt he knows more about this then you can find online.
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February 27, 2009

Oh no sorry to hear she was in hospital. I'm glad she took your news well. I was with my fiance for 3.5 years and he seemed fine with it all this time right up until Wednesday night when we split up over this. I didn't realise I disgusted him so much (those were his words) and when I got home last night I saw he was back into reading "those" kind of magazines with all the beautiful ladies who've been air-brushed lol - real supportive haha!! I haven't done any research - in the past when I used to look it up online I'd get results that had nothing to do with skin - like DJ scratching - so I seriously thought I was the only one who did this. I think the guy who wrote the book is the guy who started this site but I might double check. Do you have a myspace or a facebook or anything so I can put a face to you? I saw a buddy system had started up on here where ppl could show each other pics of their scratching but I can't figure out how to join it lol.
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February 27, 2009

i dont like myspace or facebook mostly because i have no time for them and i have no patience for ppl lol, i have an email and an aim account if u want. as for pix, i can take one now and email it to u if u want, it wont be a good pic but u kno,but u gotta send me one too. and yeah he is the same guy, no doubt he has good intentions but not many ppl kno much about this. I dont want to toot my own horn but im pretty knowledgeable when it comes to biology and psychology and honestly i think csp is not one but a combination of several different things that manifest in one major symptom. my email is bbassil@hotmail.com, please dont share it tho thats my priority and business email so i cant get spam on it. il take a pic now, wats ur email?
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February 27, 2009

I hate myspace too but I admit I'm a bit of a Facebook addict lol! Haha I have no patience for ppl either . . lol who would have thought we could have ended up speaking for this long then . . I guess cuz we're both suffering from the same thing. Ok with the pic is it going to be just one of u looking good or one specifically of ur scratching cuz I don't want to scare you off - my scratching photos are REAL bad?? And don't worry I won't share your email . . I can't stand spam!! My email is: inquisitive_creatures@hotmail.com
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February 27, 2009

im not gunna be shy with u, since u are like me thr is no reason to, i just picked and im gunna take a hi res face pic that il send, i prefer just a regular pic of u, like the normal natural u
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February 27, 2009

oh crap im scared of sending my scratching ones lol. the one i will send through to you will be my scratching at its worst, taken a few months ago. i have salve on my face as well. omg i've never showed anyone this its scary as. pls don't hate me lol im still so worried ppl wont like how i look without makeup :(
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February 27, 2009

i wont trust me, and my pic is pretty bad too
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February 27, 2009

no your pic is great . . ur gonna faint at mine . . well i guess my pic can teach u not to do it for 17 yrs lol
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February 27, 2009

its not that bad really. u kno u could have smiled tho. ur pretty. once u get past this the guys are gunna go nuts i promise lol. honestly tho its not that bad
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February 27, 2009

Haha thanks for trying to cheer me up but I know it's horrible! Lol I wasn't smiling cuz I wasn't happy . . but I always do this I take pics for the "before" shot determined to get an "after" shot but so far no "after" shot lol!! I hope I can get past this without scarring too bad .. I'd like to meet a nice guy lol or at least get the old one back haha!!
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February 27, 2009

idk it might not be my place to tell you this but if he couldnt support you and be thr for you when u most needed him, then perhaps he doesnt deserve you. Dont sell yourself short, this isnt a death sentence, its cureable, and the scares will fade in a few months after you can stop picking, you kno i had quit for 2 years, and my skin was completely clear. tomorow im gunna be on later than normal, around 12 oclock eastern, so probably like 2pm where u are.
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February 27, 2009

Wow you're really wise for your age, what you say is really true, I just never feel like I deserve anyone better because I think who could love me when I can't even love myself. My scars have never faded :( they've turned into white lumps now which never used to bother me until someone commented on them as well!! How long did you do it before you quit that first time? That must have been really really hard to get over it and then start again. I stopped for a couple of months and felt so good about myself but then it all came back again! Ok I should be on tomorrow . . it's going to be Saturday here in Australia. If you ever want to talk privately where nobody else can read things, feel free to talk to me via my email. It must be pretty late for you now, I should let you go to bed lol!!
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February 27, 2009

i got a couple of white lumps too, they go away eventually. i started when i was 5, first it was the cuticles, then the lips, then the face, then i quit, then it came back as face, arms, chest and back. i mite start picking my legs, especially upper thighs, just because its easier to conceal than my face and arms. and yeah its getting late. sweet dreams. quitting the first time was easy because i had a fresh start going to a high school where nobody knew me, so i built a new self image.anyway, i should get going, goodnite beautiful
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February 27, 2009

I'm glad to hear they go away eventually . . you started at the same age as me . . I was 4. It started with my nose and then supposedly I got bitten all over my body by mosquitos and scratched cuz it itched and then basically never stopped scratching. Please try not to start on your legs :( I don't want it to be any harder on you to quit. I do it all over now and it's no fun at all. Thanks for staying on and talking to me!! Goodnight and sweet dreams . . I'm off to have lunch now lol!! Nite Handsome
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February 28, 2009

hey sam, how was your day?
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February 28, 2009

Argh not too good . . I scratched all of my face thinking it would make it better and surprise surprise it didn't and I have that 21'st to go to in a couple of hours . . I don't even think makeup will cover it :( stupid dermatillomania lol!! How was your day? I hope a lot better than mine!
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February 28, 2009

oh happy bday, and im sorry to hear that, i always think itl look better when i pick and it never does. i had a semi decent day and only picked a bit in political science class, otherwise i was busy all day and really didnt have time.
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February 28, 2009

Hehe I'm not 21 yet, it's my friends b'day - I turn 21 in October and so I really hope I have this scratching kind of under control by then. Yeah I know it's strange how we pick cuz we think it will look better - it's kind of like body dysmorphic disorder I guess - like when an anorexic person looks in the mirror and all she sees is fat - I guess we're kind of the same. I'm glad you had a semi-decent day and only picked a little!! Good on you - I'm proud of you!! Keeping busy definitely does help, I should have busied myself this morning. Hey you know how you said you do boxing can you do that in a gym cuz I need to learn the technique so I don't damage my wrists lol?
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February 28, 2009

yeah u need to tape ur wrists and get gloves that fit, you mite want to get somebody to show u the technique too cuz boxing without technique is just smacking around a bag lol. i mite start mauy thai soon. i read that about the bdd too, idk tho, cuz i later realize that it looks bad, i only thinks itl look good be4 i do it, not after
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February 28, 2009

Yeah I thought as much that there'd be a technique to it and that I'd need to tape my wrists. And so I can learn all that at the gym? I think that would help a lot with my anger cuz I find if I get angry about something someone's done instead of telling them I'm pissed off I take it out on myself instead and start scratching. Oh yeah I see what you mean cuz you're right I know it looks bad after as well.
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February 28, 2009

im sure they have trainers at the gym who wouldnt mind showing u basic technique, its all about the footwork really. id show u but id have to fly like 20 or so hours to get thr
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February 28, 2009

Haha yeah true true!! Well I should probably head off for a shower and start getting ready for tonight. I have to keep convincing myself to go out cuz after what i did this morning I didn't feel up for socialising anymore. I just gotta get through the night lol!! And I'm online like everyday around the same time so if ya ever need to talk either through this forum or our email addresses I will be pretty quick to respond as I know you're weekend is coming up and so you'll prolly be pretty busy. We have a long weekend this weekend over here in Aus.
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February 28, 2009

yeah my weekends are pretty booked, and dont worry bout 2nite, im sure u look fantastic, yeah i should be going too. and il try to be on 2mro also, you can send me an email anytime tho and il get back to u asap. good luck tonite and dont party too hard lol. bye sugar
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February 28, 2009

Ok well I will talk to ya soon . . I'll prolly send you an email if I haven't heard from ya on the forum just to see how you're doing and how you're weekend went. Haha well I'm going to try and pluck up the courage to party hard and not bail too early lol!!! Thanks for being so sweet - I hope I can look fantastic tonight too lol!! Chat soon :)
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March 01, 2009

hey partner how was ur day today? and how was the party?
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March 01, 2009

Good day today so far . . have only scratched a little and only 2 on my face so my face is looking a lot better. Party went ok was a little bored and decided not to go out clubbing for the night but my confidence was good so at least that wasn't stopping me. I took a before and after pic for you so you can see how pro I am with my makeup lol!! I'm just going to set up my son's new cot so I will try and reply when I can. How was your day? And how has your weekend been so far?
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March 01, 2009

im glad ur party went well, and id like to see that pic, email it lol. ive been doing good, i started my own thread to encourage ppl cuz i really havent picked all that much in like 3 days and im on a roll. i feel good, i was out all day with my friends, keeping busy. i saw the video you sent me. Its sad but im glad the guy had the courage to do it on camera. I have picked in front of friends and stuff but i doubt i would post it on youtube.
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March 01, 2009

Aww good on ya!! I'm glad you're on a roll!! And I'm proud of you for starting a thread where you can encourage people - I think it will really help. Yeah that guy was brave to post it on youtube, I'm not sure if I could ever do that because I don't pick in front of anyone but hey if it gets you the help you need then I guess why not. By the time I send through the email you'll prolly be in bed cuz i'm just about to go and set up the cot now but I will email it off as soon as I get the chance :)
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March 01, 2009

its saturday, im staying up late so take ur time
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March 01, 2009

ok i'll see if I can upload them now cuz I just have to get them off my camera first

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