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February 23, 2011

Hi, I'm 20 and have been picking at my skin since I was 12 too. I have decided to try cold turkey too, starting today! Almost every day I try to stop picking and I never manage it. One thing I've learnt is not to give up if you just pick a little bit - it's really hard to go cold turkey after 8 (or in your case 10) years of picking!! The problem is once I pick even just once I don't see the point in trying any more so I keep picking for hours and then it gets really bad. Best thing to do is to stop as soon as you can then write it down somewhere so you don't feel like you've 'cheated' on cold turkey - that way you can see if you make progress as days go on. How are you doing so far? Anyway I'll be trying it too so let me know how it goes - keep trying, don't give up, we can do it!!
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February 23, 2011

I have the same problem--once I pick once I feel like I've already picked again, so I keep picking and decide to try to stop again the next day. Luckily, this time I haven't picked, so we'll see how it works out. I've tried the writing it down thing in the past...it was relatively effective, so I might try that again this time. Hopefully I'm on the right track this time, and being that I joined this forum and there are other people out there encouraging me this time, I think I can do it. I'm glad that you are trying to stop as well--it's nice knowing that there's someone else out there going through what you're going through. We can do this! Keep me updated on your progress!
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February 24, 2011

Glad to hear it's going well for you so far! I nearly managed a whole day today - best day I've had in a long time! Unfortunately picked a bit before I got into bed which is annoying but oh well I'm trying to stay positive. Have decided to set myself the goal of 15 days with as little picking as possible, with the aim of going a day without wearing face makeup at the end of it... I'm not sure if I'll actually follow through with that because I have only been out without makeup on once in about 5 years, but hopefully it will motivate me to keep picking to a minimum. I'll let you know how I'm doing - day 1 tomorrow! How are you coping with not picking? I felt so on edge today I felt like I needed to tear everything up around me it was horrible! I think just knowing I can't pick makes me really anxious. Hope you are still doing well :)
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February 25, 2011

:( I'm not so good at cold turkey. Was doing ok but just spent 2 hours picking this is so diffcult. Day 1 = not so good. But I will try again day 2 :(
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February 25, 2011

Keep your head up! You can do this! Trust me, I know how hard it is. I've caught myself just about to start picking and then immediately distracted myself with something else so many times this week! It is extremely difficult, and I know that, but I just keep telling myself that one day soon I will be able to go out without putting makeup on and feel good about myself. I keep telling myself that I am strong enough to get through this, and you are too! Whenever you feel the urge to pick, sign on here and share your thoughts. The support of others (along with the distraction) might help!
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February 25, 2011

paigerz - how are you doing? is today day 3? i'm on day 1 and just picked at a cuticle. cold turkey is really hard, almost debilitatingly so. i like to think that since i joined this forum, it's not really "cold turkey" anymore? maybe warm turkey? i just picked at the cuticle and instead of continuing, decided to come online to read. feeling better already...good luck!
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February 25, 2011

Today is day 5 and I already see so much improvement! I've gone longer than this before, so it is still not set in stone that this will be final bout with picking, but I feel stronger this time than before. Cold turkey is hard, and it takes a lot of willpower. I've been trying to keep myself distracted with other things every time I feel myself about to slip. I'm glad to see that you are doing the same. Keep it up! You can do it!
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February 25, 2011

today is day 2 and i'm feeling really hopeful! I have legit been signing on here more than my facebook to remind myself why i'm doing this, that there are other people struggling, and looking for tips everyone shares and its great. I think if I keep up with the check ins then i will be able to be successful. That and I am determined to be confident...I have never been able to quit before, so what makes me think this will really be it? I mean its almost scary to think of my life after ridding myself like even though I hate it, I'll be naked without the habit. But I'll be free! And what makes me think I can be successful is myself convincing me and being confident that I can do this and change.
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February 25, 2011

I know how you feel. I've been logging in here a lot lately, too. I've had a huge urge to pick today, and I don't know why. I've been trying to right down my thoughts and what's going on when I find myself about to pick, and mostly, there is no trend. Getting on here helps me to stay motivated. Knowing that others are stuggling with the same compulsions and trying to overcome them really helps me feel like I'm not along in the struggle. I keep thinking about how great it will be to hear my boyfriend and family tell me how great my face looks, and knowing that they will be happy for me makes me even happier for myself. Stick with it, and know that you can do it!
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February 25, 2011

me too! i just picked a dry scab off my face and i was starting to feel terrible. but i reminded myself that i didn't squeeze, didn't sit in front of the mirror, and didn't end up bleeding. i then came right here to read everyone's posts. THANK YOU. maybe it's creepy, but i think about everyone on here when i have an urge to pick and it helps remind me what the bigger goal is. good luck today!
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February 25, 2011

It's not creepy at all--support has been the thing that has helped me the most in all my attempts to stop picking. Although it has been great, you have to remember that while we are all here for you, YOU are the one that has to stop. Keep coming here and posting and/or reading whenever you get the urge to pick, and hopeuflly you will defeat this. That is what I have been doing, and I think it's really working. Stay strong!
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February 25, 2011

Hello, I have been plauged with dermatillomania since childhood, and cannot redily identify why I do it! It is like an obsession with having smooth skin and I cannot stand the feel of a scab on my body whether it's on my face or anywhere else, so I pick it! Now as a mother I find myself doing this even more because of the stress that comes with parenting and marriage! I sometimes won't even notice I am doing it until substancial damage has already been done! I really do need help! I tell myself that this is disgusting and that I would have smooth skin if I could just stop! I put bandaid's on certain areas of my skin and let them heal while I pick the rest of my body. I fear misquitoes in the summer because I know if I get bit, I will scratch, and scratch, and scratch! I have had misquito bites that don't heal until well past November. I finally confided in my husband about my problem. He couldn't tell because he has a vision problem, but I am sure everyone else notices. I just want to be better, I cannot do it myself! I don't feel depressed, just occasionally stressed! I want to quit along with you! And what a releif that I am not alone in my suffering. How great to get this off of my chest and not feel like an outsider! I think that we could help each other more than anyone else could understand! I am going to quit cold turkey along with everyone else! It's high time! We can do it together!
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February 25, 2011

Congrats on confinding in your husband. Often times, that is the hardest part. You never know how the ones you love are going to react. Will they be confused because they don't understand why you do it? Will they understand? Will they accept you? It's scary, but you did it! Also, congrats for joining this forum and taking the first steps--talking about your problem and pledging to defeat your compulsion. I know exactly how you feel--I know that if I just stop my skin will heal and be smooth, but I can't stand the thought of the scab/bump/whatever on my skin at any point in time. Right now, I am doing well, but who's to say that tomorrow I won't start again. All it takes is one little closed pore or blemish that is invisible to anyone else but me. I know, though, that I need to stop, and I have committed myself to it this time. Knowing that I have the support of everyone on this forum and that I am strong is really helping. Please keep us updated on your progress! I know that we can stop!
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February 26, 2011

Hi, I'm 23 and literally last night read that what I do is actually a recognised problem. I had no idea. I've been reading about it all night until I had to sleep and continued to read as soon as I woke up. Usually I scratch my scalp for a long time before goin to sleep, but because I was reading I didn't at all...so I figure I should be able to go cold turkey as long as I can distract myself. I have been doing it as long as I remember but luckily have no scars (that I know of as it's mainly my scalp which my hair covers) so reading about others who have to hide what they do has made me realise in comparison I am very lucky - and I should be able to stop as well. Thanks for writing up your stories everyone, so inspiring and good luck!
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February 26, 2011

Today is Day 1 for me! I could have started yesterday, but didn't decide to quit until half way through the day, you know how it is.... it was already a lost day! But today, so far so good! I think that having my husband around on the weekends makes a differance, but he has a four day weekend, so I should get off to a pretty good start! It feels better just knowing that I can go to other people about this! Good luck everyone!
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February 28, 2011

Ok so the last three days I went away to visit a friend and so didn't have the chance to pick barely at all - managed less than one minute each day which was great. Of course once I got home I picked again for an hour :( not so good but I am determined to try cold turkey again tomorrow - am really going to go for it this time. I am allowing myself 15 mins in the mirror tomorrow to put on my makeup but I'm going to set a timer to go off so I don't spend too long there. Then will try not to look at my skin or touch it for the rest of the day - if I don't touch it I can't pick it! Am taking this one day at a time. It's been absolutely ages since I managed a whole day without picking so tomorrow will be tough but I WILL manage it - have even painted my nails to remind me! Thank you for all the encouragement everyone. Keep trying every day!!
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February 28, 2011

Good trick with the nail thing! I am gonna try it! Day 2, so far so good. Did catch myself starting to pick a few times, but stopped before any damage was caused!
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February 28, 2011

Stay strong!!
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February 28, 2011

The timer works reallyyy well. I know before I started using a timer, if I heard my phone go off it would snap me from my trance to think more of what I'm doing/how long I had been there and pull me back to real life. Good Luck you can do this!
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February 28, 2011

I've tried the timer thing before. It's pretty effective, as long as you stick to it. I'm glad to hear that you did well this weekend. Just keep that positive attitude up, and I know that you can do this! I had a slight lapse this weekend, just for a few minutes--no major damage, but I am a bit disappointed. I cut my nails and am not going to touch my face at all today. It's already starting to look better, and I really really really want it to stay that way. Good luck! We can do this!
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February 28, 2011

It's always disappointing when you pick after doing well - but remember how well you've been doing apart from that! Just a few minutes is nothing compared to usual so don't let it get you down.The good news is I have managed to spend an entire day without picking AT ALL!!! I am super proud of myself. Have been really strict about not letting myself touch my skin which has been hard but not as hard as stopping myself picking once I'm already touching it. Haven't yet done the bedtime routine but have covered my mirror and am only uncovering it tomorrow morning for the 15 mins when the timer is set. I'm pleased to finally have something really positive to report - scared about tomorrow because this is so so hard but I know we can both do it! Hope today went well for you - let's both have a really good day tomorrow :)
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March 01, 2011

I had a great day yesterday, and today is off to a good start! My boyfriend complimented me this morning, which makes me feel good, and pushes me even harder to stop. Congrats on goin an entire day--it's soooo hard, but you seem committed to stop, so I know it can be done! Good luck today!
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March 02, 2011

How's everyone doing?! My compulsions to pick are starting to decline...but that's happened before. They seem to ebb and flow. Right now, though, it's pretty good. My face is almost completely healed up and scars are minimal right now. It probably helps that I use Mederma everyday and I used Neosporin everyday when I had fresh pick marks. I'm going to get gel tips on my nails this weekend since my face looks good (I find that if I let my face heal and then get my nails done, it keeps me from being able to pick and destroy it again). Hopefully my willpower will be enough to stop completely this time! I really hope so. Thanks for everyone's support in this, and know that I am here to support everyone else who is truly trying to stop! We can do this! =)
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March 02, 2011

I'm on day 7! My face looks great and I'm so much happier because of it. Right now I still have minimal scratches healing, and I'm just hoping that when all of it is gone that I won't restart the cycle....I still find myself to go to the mirror and check everything out and since its good, I don't pick but I'm just looking to build strength for if there actually is something there =/ Hopefully I'll be so far into this by then that my desire not to start over and throw everything away will overpower my urge to pick but if anyone has any suggestions on how to condition myself to just not end up at the mirror(you know when we're bored and just want to check ourselves out) it'd be greatly appreciated. Good luck all!
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March 03, 2011

Great job! I know exactly how you feel. I still check my face out a few times a day, but when I see that there is nothing there to pick, I don't. I hope I am strong enough that when something does show up again, I don't pick it. Although I don't have any real suggestions for avoiding the cycle again, I know that staying positive and strong, remaining active in the forum, and talking about it with people close to you does help. You could try covering your mirrors or limiting your mirror time. Good luck!
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March 03, 2011

Has any1 managed to make scars which they hav kept on going over and over again disapear? Like pink slight raised bumps and flat?
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March 03, 2011

hi there! no, my pink bumps are still here...but they're fading a little bit (the "inactive" ones i don't pick anymore). i try to use a scrub brush in the shower to get the dry skin off the top of them. and i use mederma cream. and i try to slather then with vitamin e almost daily. one of the other members here recommended apple cider vinegar mixed with green tee - and to dab it on to the scar directly. i tried that last night but i'm sure you have to do it consistently for it to work. also, i've considered getting microdermabrasion or something like that once i can get all the bumps on my legs to be "inactive". hope that helps! oh, i've heard tanning is a temporary fix. at this point, damaging my skin with UV is nothing compared to what i've been doing with safety pins and tweezers (at least for a few tanning sessions).
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March 03, 2011

When I stopped picking for a few weeks, I used the at-home microdermabrasion by Neutrogena. That, combined with mederma, worked very well for me. I have very minimal scarring, and that is a miracle to me. I also put Neosporin on any fresh scab/pick mark at least twice a day.
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March 06, 2011

I have been using apple cider vinegar which breaks up scar tissue and it works great!
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March 07, 2011

paigerz924 - i pray all is going well for you. i can really relate to your comment about skin picking hurting those around us ... that should be enough for me to stop, ugh!
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March 07, 2011

All is going well. My face is healing pretty well. I still have one spot that is a little rough, but all in all, I'm pretty proud that I've been doing well. I got gel tips put on my nails this weekend, which makes it practically impossible to pick. I find that that really helps. GOod luck to you! You can do it!
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March 16, 2011

Hope everyone is doing well. My face is basically healed. This is going to be a tough week because it's that time of the month, and I seem to get a lot more black heads and closed pores around this time. I had one yesterday, and I started to pop it, but once I realized it wasn't ready, I stopped before I squeezed it and picked it to shreds. I've been so good lately, I hope I can keep it up. =)