Why he picks his lips?

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January 21, 2013

Helpmeunderstand, I'm sorry that I can do nothing to help you understand the condition itself, but I can tell you what it's like to live with somebody who suffers from it. I've been struggling with understanding my wife's picking on her face, breasts, arms, back, and legs, but I don't think I'll ever be able to understand it. I've tried about everything to help her, but nothing works. It sometimes gets better for a while, long enough to give me hope that she's recovering, but she always falls back into the habit, often worse than before she started to get better. It never gets easier to be around it, in fact, it feels worse as you begin to feel hopeless. Please don't misunderstand, I love my wife and it's been worth it, but her problems with anxiety, depression, and dermatillomania have been far and away the single most stressful and disheartening aspect of my life. I feel like it's important for somebody in your position to hear that it's okay to end things. If the relationship is putting you at risk of picking up bad habits, it's okay to remove yourself from the unhealthy situation. I feel like I'm mostly saying this because I wish I could hear it myself. To this day, I still have doubts that I can continue to be supportive while my wife destroys her body with no way for me to stop it. If I had been told "it's okay" I would have left before we got married after a couple spells of emotionally abusive behavior on her part. I never was told that "it's okay" and I felt like it was abandoning somebody not just who needs help, but because she needs help. I never felt that I deserve to be happy, even if not everyone else is. I was also afraid that leaving her would make her suicidal. To be completely honest, I feel just as lost as you, but I've complicated things with marriage and often wish I hadn't. I'm incredibly conflicted too. I thought when I started writing that I could help, but really I'm just reaching out too.

April 12, 2013

Yes its a problem for someone. In winter lip is usually cracked and this bad habit of picking lip develops the bad condition of lips.