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Hello everyone. I'm new to this site and just looking for some place to vent where I know someone here will understand. I'm 27 years old and I've been a picker since I was 12. I pick my face, neck, breasts, back, legs, arms, lips, fingernails,,, just about anything my fingers will reach. Besides the fact this creates a horribly severe self esteem issue for me, I think my biggest problem I have with it is that my family thinks it's just a big joke. When I was growing up my parents would get to the point that they would scream at me to stop. We would fight a lot over it. My mother would try to scare me by saying I was going to contract some kind of flesh eating bacterial infection or MRSA. It got to the point that I would just go to my room and close the door so they couldn't see me doing it. Unfortunately this didn't always work because I do it without even realizing it sometimes. Like when I'm watching tv or having a conversation. Now I'm married. My husband doesn't scream at me but it still creates a lot of heartache and grief between us. He tells me to stop like it's just so easy. I think to myself "Gee, why didn't I think of that?" He doesn't even try to understand. I try to explain how it feels and how hard it is and he just throws it under the rug saying "I know, I know" and then goes right back to telling me to stop and starts grabbing my hands. The worst part is when he brings it up in front of people. Just the other day he asked me to put his phone in my purse so he wouldn't kill his battery from playing games on it. I joked and said "Why? Do you have no self control?" So naturally he said in front of everyone "I don't want to hear it. You spend hours standing in front of the mirror picking at yourself because you have no self control." I didn't want to cry in front of everyone so I held in the tears until the next morning after he left for work. It's hard because not only do you have to wear your obsession out in the open for all to see but you also have to endure the criticism and the judgement that comes along with it. Even from people who claim they love you. They think that it's so easy and they ask "Why don't you just stop?". I've quit smoking without a problem. This is something much harder to accomplish. It's like trying to quit smoking with a lit cigarette glued to your fingers. You can't get away from your skin.