So I've only been on the forum a few times, found lots of tips / comments - thank you everyone and have been wondering about something ...
This skin picking is a coping mechanism right. Something we started a long time ago - can you remember when you first started ... at what age ... did something specific happen that you can remember?
I know I've been picking since I was 9years old and I'm 38. I can clearly recall my baby sister being brought home from hospital as a new born and picking the "raisin" off her belly button where her umbilical cord was cut. So that's one specific memory. I have bitten my nails all my life .. I can't recall a time that I didn't so perhaps even younger than 9.
While I was in primary school (junior school) I was teased, mocked, ridiculed, laughed at. I don't recall telling my parents. So I'm wandering if I took my frustration of the unfairness of the kids at school out on my self because I didn't feel like a got adequate support from my parents (which may have been because they had a new born baby ... which now as an adult I can understand how one's life changes but when you're only 9 and been an only child you have no clue).
I also have this feeling of not being allowed to make mistakes. I never climbed trees or rode bikes as a child - in case I got hurt. So I've grown up with a fear of getting hurt or failing at something : if I got into trouble at school it was a disaster - now in comparison to so many people, I had a comparatively easy upbringing - no abuse, no violence, 2 parent home etc. But bear in mind that is 29 years ago, the world was different (and way more conservative) and what I knew at 9yrs versus what I know now about family dynamics is waaay more different.
But now that you've had some of my background ... I'm wondering what we may have in common - someone mentioned perfectionism & intelligence in another post which got me thinking is their something we have in common? Any comments?
(Sometimes I wonder how intelligent we really are when we take out our anger / frustration with someone else or a situation on ourselves - cos that's what we're doing, attacking ourselves when probably we'd like to verbal or physically attack back when provoked).