Someone who is obsessing about pores & pimples might not be appreciating the rest of themselves. That's not what other people are appreciating; they're appreciating all of you. You have other attributes and more important strengths. We should probably stop focusing our energy on something that 1) likely no one but you notices and cares about and 2) doesn't have much of a solution. Someone who thinks that their partner/friend/acquaintance/family member sees their minor imperfections and thinks they're disgusting...that just isn't real or logical. You have to be more compassionate toward yourself. It's good advice for all of us.