Where did the desire to self-harm began? I am curious how many of us have had trauma in childhood or inattentive parents. I have done some figurative digging and have realized that I am laden with guilt. I feel guilty about things that I've done, not done, should do. I never felt entirely loved by my mother, she was always depressed and not "present". But I did manage to inherit her guilt. Is the root of this issue for all of us the desire to punish ourselves, to hold ourselves back from absolute success, progress and happiness in life? Because that's exactly what picking accomplishes for me. It's an endless cycle. I remember feeling guilty as a child if I was given too much food on my plate. I felt guilty opening presents if I felt there were a lot of them at Christmas. I felt guilty for asking for new clothes. It's the same now. I am holding myself back, because subconsciously I don't believe I deserve to be completely relaxed, happy and successful. Biting keeps me in check. It draws me inside, it distracts me from the things in life that I've let go. All the goals I let slide out of anxiety and self-consciousness. (excuse the huge paragraph, this forum deletes any spaces in the posts!) So my question is, do you know the root of your problem?