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March 16, 2010

This is very true. Only WE can stop ourselves, because no external source can really do the work FOR us. Sites like this one are our own versions of 'skin pickers anonymous' and so we need to take advantage of it the same way alcoholics use AA. That's a really good point. Today is the 16th, so i have been trying to fight the urges for 10 days. And honestly, its hard!! When i get stressed i want to take it all out on my hands, especially now that the skin looks better and so it would be a lot more gratifying to pick off. I just can't look at my hands anymore. I wash them and put on lotion and try to leave them alone. I have noticed that the lotion actually does work as long as i don't pick...that's pretty obvious lol but still. the redness is slowly but surely turning into a more peachy color - and i am happy about that!!!! pretty soon people won't have to 'wonder what happened' to my hands anymore, since my hands will look just like theirs in...i'm gonna say 10 more days (they'll have to look better by then if i don't touch them, and saying 30 more days is still kind of scary and intimidating...).
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March 16, 2010

it's great news that you've made it 10 days !!! congratulations !! yes, the 40 day thing is scary and intimidating. it is for me too, to think i'm only about half way through makes me shudder. just take it one day at a time. you can do it. you're proving it. be proud. :)
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March 16, 2010

I still think its amazing having someone tell me words like this about a habit i've been so secretive about for such a long time! To know that i'm not in this alone is literally what has gotten me this far. I had tried to stop so many times on my own and was unsuccessful until I really started to think that it just wasn't possible. I thought I would've grown out of it by the age of 20, but things didn't work out that way. I'm past that - but am somehow making it work now..If i am healed after this, this will have been possibly the best birthday present I will have ever given myself. Oh and another motivation to continue is the fact that i started day 1 on my birthday - that is such a perfect day to start that i really wouldn't want to mess that up lol
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June 01, 2010

how have you been doing? it's helpful to know you're not alone and freeing when it comes out of the closet. it's the beginning of getting on top of it. i hope your hands are doing better and you've given yourself that wonderful birthday present. ♥
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March 18, 2010

i'm so glad to hear you believe this too. and yes indeed, this forum can be our skin pickers anonymous. spa? it's fabulous that you are now on day 11 and are seeing the benefits and improvements ! keep up the great work. each and every day is worth a celebration because it is an effort that isn't easy. it takes perseverance and commitment.
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March 20, 2010

are you willing to challenge the compulsiveness of this disorder and commit to a plan to beat it? if not, it will be with you for many more years. it is not going to go away on its own.
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March 24, 2010

i truly hope that you are here because you have had enough of the pain and embarrassment of dermatillomania and realize the health risk you are putting yourself in. i personally have suffered for many too many years and do not wish that upon you. tomorrow, i will celebrate having not picked or scratched my skin for 4 WEEKS !! it is possible to beat this disorder. i wish you the strength, will power, determination, and effort to do what you must do to conquer it as well. <3 <3
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March 27, 2010

http://www.skinpick.com/stop-picking-my-skin -- is a link i only recently found on this site. it has loads of information. i sincerely hope all the information inspires you to embark on a committed path to healthier skin.
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March 31, 2010

My face is dry and I feel like I will finally be out of the red/swollen zone. I cannot wait to say I have gone 1 day without picking then 5, and then 7 and so on. Congrats to you on being so strong.
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March 31, 2010

thank you. and you can be strong too and make it through a string of days. believe me when i say "if i can do it anyone can" having been a picker for many more years than you've likely been alive! lol if your skin has healed over now, moisturize with a soothing moisturizer. i have sensitive skin and so many didn't agree with me. now i use vitamin e oil morning and night and my skin is comfortable. the slight oilyness i feel when my fingers wander to it reminds me to massage, not scratch or pick and i tell myself it's better than finding scabs. if you find that you keep picking semi-subconsciously, put bandages on anything that is tempting, even healed over spots if necessary. do anything to make progress. oops, you didn't ask for advice. sorry if i overstepped and offended. do know i wish you much success and believe you can do it. :)
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March 30, 2010

so far, this is working for me!! it is DAY 35 of no picking for me!! that's 5 weeks !! and it feels great. :) i just purchased some raw honey, they say that raw is what has the benefits, and am wearing a honey facial as i type this. the honey was a tad bit more expensive but i figure i only used about a teaspoon of it. i took a semi-heaping teaspoon out of the jar. it was semi-solid so i gave it 10 seconds in a little bowl in the microwave and so it was also nice and warm when brought to a more runny spreadable state. and there's enough left for another treatment so that's why i say it takes only a teaspoon per facial since the original scoop must have been equal to 2. i intend to give myself more facials of different kinds now in my effort to be loving to my skin. mashed bananas is next !! :)
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April 01, 2010

Great thread, Wildflower. I also agree with the other poster that it really did take me realizing that I can't just make myself quit by wishing it hard enough...I need help and I need to focus on it more. I plan to look at the advice on the site that you mentioned here and see what I can learn from it. Just out of curiosity, once you've made it as many days as you have, do you find that the obsessiveness with picking continues to build the entire time, or does it stay about the same as it is when you're forcing yourself not to do it and have made it a couple of hours? Do you still have times when you're not thinking about it, even briefly, when it's been that long? Thanks!
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April 01, 2010

in the beginning of probably any quitting process, the urges are the strongest and they ease up over time. after a week, i found them to be significantly lessened but even in subsequent weeks there were occasional strong urges. but all in all, even though my fingers still explore and examine my skin, i'm finding that they're fine with just doing that and perhaps just massaging the skin rather than picking at it. and with itches, i reverse-scratch lightly. that is, i flick my fingertips up, rather than scratch down and do that only lightly so as not to catch a nail on anything. i've found it very ironic that healing sores itch. lol now, after 36 days, the urges are very few and the itching is much less. i do sit on my hands a lot still while i watch tv and the like just to be sure to touch less. with my healed skin i am pampering my face with facials. yesterday i did one with raw honey, and today i did one with mashed avocado. my face was never healed enough for me to feel comfortable to even consider putting anything other than medicine or (lol makeup) on it. tomorrow i'll put one on that is of avocado, honey and lemon! it might be overkill but it's interesting. most days i just moisturize with vitamin e morning and night. i've not even been wearing any makeup! mind you, i've not gone out anywhere important either. lol my husband is very proud of me, by the way! :)
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April 04, 2010

lip biting, cuticle chewing, skin picking, hair pulling, cheek biting, whatever the compulsive behaviour, it is critical to seek how to stop it now rather than endure it for years and years. you are not alone, there is a lot of information here in the topics, elsewhere in the menus, and on other sites. i hope you don't just want to read about each others' compulsions, but that you are at the point to make the personal effort to change bad habits into good ones.
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April 05, 2010

if anyone thinks what i've said above is wise enough to keep near the beginning of the forum for new visitors to see, please post an opinion on it now and again as i have kept doing to keep it alive. i obviously think it is as the info in it has been working for me, but i think i'll leave it up to other viewers of this forum to keep it alive as i can't guarantee how frequent i'll be here as i am also keeping a journal of my progress on another site that has that feature. it's the stop picking on me site. do stop and say hello if you visit there and let me know how you're doing if you wish. i will keep checking in here now and again too, tho. i just don't know how often. all the best to everyone in their quest to address your skin issues. <3 <3 <3
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April 14, 2010

it really doesn't matter what self harming behaviour it is, the key to stopping it lies in making a decision to stop it and combining a serious effort with all the tools possible to make it happen ...
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April 10, 2010

Thanks wildflower, this really has helped. I've started making a list of positive thoughts and techniques to stop that other people have suggested. I'm determined to stay positive and not let it affect me as much as it has in the past. This forum has done wonders for my confidence already! x
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April 10, 2010

there are lots of informative topics here. i hope you find an abundance of techniques to use and the inspiration to put yourself on a committed path to beat this compulsion. with that and determination and a positive attitude anything is possible. i wish you much success !! <3
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April 27, 2010

i hope this information helps anyone that is truly wanting to stop the cycle ... the self harming that keeps repeating itself so insidiously ... and so ironically ... and i do believe it is possible ... not easy ... but possible with determination ...
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April 18, 2010

wildflower, your posts are extremely helpful, especially the one about products to aviod because I have senstitive, easily irritable skin and most of my skin and hair products have at least one of your listed ingredients but...why do you have so much time on your hands... One of the million reasons I pick is from stress because of time shortage....it must be nice to have so much time.
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April 18, 2010

it's true, i have time on my hands at this stage. i moved here 6 yrs ago and am being supported so i can do my art. stresses just change with different situations. my picking didn't stop when i had more discretionary time. now, i'm obsessing about researching, information gathering, and sharing that info and those activities are positive obsessions that are helping me keep from picking. discretionary time is nice indeed, but it isn't always nice time tho.
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April 18, 2010

it's also too easy to lay the blame for picking on "something". not enough time/stress, too much time/boredom, etc. whist the real reason is not enough self discipline if brought to the lowest common denominator.
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June 01, 2010

to everyone that finds this place because they harm themselves in this way ...... i truly believe that it is possible to beat it. it isn't easy, but it's possible. want it and want it bad !
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June 14, 2010

i must add that as possible as i believe it is, it is difficult and requires sincere commitment just as addressing any serious addiction does. the effort may lessen over time but it is easy to slip into old patterns so one must always be vigilant. stresses will always be present in one form or another and excuses can easily be made. strong will and desire is necessary. there is no room for denial about this. but as bad as it sounds, people have strength within that can be tapped if the will is strong enough and we are intelligent beings and there's lots of information out there.
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May 23, 2010

of course, start with consulting your doctor. you may indeed have a skin disorder that there is a treatment for. be open and honest with the extent of your disorder disclosing your behaviours. you may require a referral to a psychiatrist or psychologist or the like. it is important for your health care professionals to know the whole situation in order for your condition to be treated properly and effectively. do not deny your own responsibility regarding the success and/or failure of treatment. doctors must be extremely frustrated when patients continue to self harm. medications and therapies must be supported with self awareness and self accountability for the process to be successful. i believe some of us can do this on our own with the information available these days but i also believe some of us need health professional assistance. denial of our own responsibility though is a recipe for failure. do some serious introspection and open up to others about your practices, especially your doctor(s). it is possible to overcome this disorder with a sincere, honest, diligent approach.
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August 26, 2010

what do you think?