Accomplishments


Online Test For Skin Picking Disorder

Find Out The Severity of Your Symptoms With This Free Online Diagnostic Tool

avatar

April 06, 2010

I am on a 40 day challenge. I'm on day 8, and I am motivated to kick a bad habit as I will soon be moving in with my significant other, and also to help me face life head-on and with confidence. I am so far getting by by sheer will power, after having accepted my picking as a self-destructive condition. For me, the 40 day challenge is a start - if I pick, I have to re-start, even when the first 40 days are up. I know I can kick it and I want to do it while my skin is young and healthy enough to not leave me with scars.
avatar

April 06, 2010

way to go! 8 days is really something! i believe you can do it. it should get easier and easier but there can still be some trying days. be strong! <3
avatar

April 07, 2010

i'm starting the 40 days today! day one! i'm super nervous...
avatar

April 07, 2010

You can do it! It is so rewarding to look in the mirror and see that the sores are starting to heal up. And it happens much faster than you might think - I noticed a real improvement at only day 3!
avatar

April 07, 2010

thanks :) i'm actually feeling super-empowered today... i almost slipped a little during a stressful situation, but i've now made it almost 8 hours! i'm so proud of myself!
avatar

April 07, 2010

way to go !! be proud. i'm proud of you! i know how hard it is. each hour is a feather in your cap and when you've gotten a whole day that's big when you're starting out. keep up the good work!
avatar

April 07, 2010

thank you! you inspire me :) i'm almost at 12 hours!!!!!!
avatar

April 08, 2010

wonderful! be sure to post your next accomplishment post right at the top! you deserve to be right up there !!
avatar

April 09, 2010

Just wanted to share one thing thats been helping. meditation. I sit before I go into the bathroom, right when I wake up, and before bed. I know not everyones into meditation, so maybe people could tweak it in ways that work for them( saying a mantra, looking at positive imagery, listening to a positive song etc). I find that the more quiet my mind is before I go into situations where im likely to pick(eg-the shower), the better chance I have of not picking. I often feel scared that Im going to lose control, which can lead to more picking. But when I ground myself and stay in the present moment I can stay conscious of where my hands are and remember my intention to not pick. Just slowing down and breathing has helped. The tension around picking/not picking is so intense sometimes, its important to learn to relax.Hope this helps.
avatar

April 09, 2010

Totally good idea. I used to do yoga with my ipod and found it made me feel much more in control. I should keep doing that. Thanks for reminding me.
avatar

April 06, 2010

Okay so Ive only been on here for a few days and already I feel like Ive achieved something. Just by examining my behaviour and taking a good hard look at myself. Instead at being annoyed at life, I should be annoyed at me-its my doing. And i want to use this post to thank those who have welcomed and supported me because its being really useful. Ive identified reasons, triggers and some alarming unconcious behaviours. Ive done it for years and made many links. The most alarming realisation to date has been that as a former acne sufferer, i continue to afflict myself with it- but I think im helping. So my goal is to only pick/squeeze/fiddle when absolutely necessary- you know, when the spot is literally hanging off your face type thing. Never again do I want to wreck my face and ruin my life- THIS IS MY COMMITMENT. When my skin has healed this time, ill let everyone know!!
avatar

April 06, 2010

According to the information/opinions I have found, even when a spot is "literally hanging off your face", it is better to leave it. I believe that it was wildflower and 40days that told me that (though I could be mistaken!) I must admit, I haven't had a big one recently, but I have noticed that out of the few little whiteheads that I've had in the last 8 days, the ones that I left cleared up in 36 or 48 hours, and the ones I encouraged to come out of there took at least 60 hours. So my ultimate goal is to be able even let those get on with it in peace, though I do feel your compulsion to let that yuck out of there! Still, the first step for me is not to mess with them with my fingers but gently "wash them out" as I like to think of it.
avatar

April 06, 2010

Sure, but leaving any kind of spot is a big thing for me. Even if something is quietly in a pore or invisible to the naked eye I wrench it out as a means of control so for now I just want to stop the huge wrecking sessions I have in front of my magnifying mirror. Then hopefully I'll be able to leave anything I see. It has been very useful to identify the behaviour- when and why it happens. I always do it in the same place at the same time every week. Interesting.
avatar

April 06, 2010

I hope you don't feel that I was admonishing you - I am the last person you should feel like you need to justify yourself to - I am in exactly the same boat, and have been known to go as far as having a go at clean pores to create spots! All I wanted to do is pass on the information to you that even faced with one of those ones that look and feel like it °has° to come out, from what I know (and I don't pretend to know everything) it is still better to leave it, however counter-instinctive that is to me, and to, I believe, others who suffer from dermatillomania.
avatar

April 07, 2010

No, course not we are all supporters here. Just making my situation and goals a little clearer.
avatar

April 06, 2010

it's great that you've recognized the personal component to the habit as well as life's contribution and have analyzed the causes of your behaviours. i too have imagined that i will give myself "permission" if a huge spot presented itself but i'm thrilled to say that it hasn't happened yet so my record is still good. i feel you're going to do real well and you'll be thrilled to see your complexion get better and better. keep letting us know how you're doing! <3
avatar

April 06, 2010

i am actually on day 42 of a 40 day commitment that i never would have believed was possible for me. in fact i stared out my "one hour or one day at a time" challenge. i credit my success to seriously following the Commit to healthy practices topic i created to share them http://www.skinpick.com/node/863 . my skin is healing up and the red marks are fading. i still get urges but my fingers are content to just explore, not destroy, and actually, they're exploring less and less!. I'm treating my face to natural facials that i could never do before because of sores and i'm enjoying the pampering of indulgent healthy baths in epsom salts, powdered milk, baking soda and safflower oil. i'm feeling more loving to my skin now and am feeling good about it. although i realize i may have a setback one day so i'm promising myself that i will not admonish myself about it because i will be able to begin anew. i'm taking it one day at a time. considering i picked for most of my 54 years, i hope that my 42 days will show that it is possible to make headway even when it seems impossible as it did for so many years for me. i hope no one waits as long as i did before beginning a commitment, even one just one day at a time. <3
avatar

April 11, 2010

day 45 for me was difficult !! i wanted to pick a few spots so badly but managed not to. i did scrub a little harder than usual with my washcloth, but not so hard as to do damage, luckily. on day 46 i did a facial scrub even though i know they're not good. ground up peach pits polishing your skin? how can that be good ? but i did, hoping that'd take care of things that yesterday's scrub didn't ... lol ... it didn't. i wasn't too rough with that even. i just did the cold water rinse and followed that with my vitamin e oil and my skin feels good and still looks good ... *whew* ... today will be 47 now !!
avatar

April 12, 2010

yay! keep up the good work!
avatar

April 12, 2010

thank you so much !! another day is down now and i'll be working on day 48. i can't say i've not been tempted, but i've managed to abstain. :)
avatar

April 23, 2010

i made it to day 48. i picked one on the 49th and started over. i made it a week and scrubbed too hard on a whte head with a wash cloth and then scratched at it on day 6. i'm on day 1 again now and i resolve to do better. it seems i must keep my wits and strength about me.
avatar

April 07, 2010

I'm on Day 11 I think. What is helping recently is doing things that make me happy and wearing eye makeup. Eye-makeup doesn't clog my pores (obviously) but gives me the impression that I have prettied up my face so I shouldn't pick at it, or I might ruin my makeup. I'm not sure if that makes sense... But I find I don't pick after I put on makeup because I don't want to mess it up, and having eye makeup on also makes me want to preserve my face. My skin is almost good enough to go without makeup again.
avatar

April 07, 2010

awesome! absolutely awesome !! DAY 11 !! that is fabulous! so you've noticed improvements in your skin? that's great and so rewarding. i also found i didn't pick with makeup on not wanting to mess it up, wanting to look good. whatever works!! it does feel wonderful to be able to go out without makeup on too, though. you must be feeling really proud of yourself and deservedly so. it's great to read of your progress. keep strong! <3 <3 <3
avatar

April 12, 2010

I'm almost done day 15 now. The urges today were strong but I didn't give in and it wasn't too hard to walk away. I'm seeing the dermatologist tomorrow for a regular visit. I am putting on eye makeup when I wake up to deter me and it seems to be working. I just keep telling myself that blackheads are 1m times better than red dots! Good luck to everyone! Keep it up!
avatar

April 12, 2010

omg !! ... that's awesome !! ... i can't wait to hear how your appt goes. i go to my new one soon and he'll see me the first time as a recovered picker ... i wonder how that'll go ... but i'm so happy about you !!! it's such great news. now you'll be inspiration for me !!
avatar

April 12, 2010

The dermatologist said that he didn't have anything to recommend for fading dark/ pink areas faster; I just have to wait. But he said my skin looks good!!!! :) Yay. He said with time, everything should heal fine and I should have no lasting scars. He also said there is no need to exfoliate and it can irritate your skin, so it might be better to avoid exfoliating if you have sensitive skin. That's it really. I treated myself to a new hairband to keep my hair out of my face (keep the oils off my face). Day 16 is looking good. I feel like I can really do this.
avatar

April 13, 2010

wooo hoooo !! awesome visit !! and 16 days !! great going !! there will be some trying days, still, but hang in there. keep up the great work.
avatar

April 25, 2010

that is a great idea! i loathe wearing face make-up .. especially any sort of powder or foundation i DREAD having to put on to go out at night, but often i feel the need to do it because i have picked so badly you can see all the marks. HOWEVER, wearing eyeshadow during this 40 day challenge definitely seems like it will do wonders!! i am going to go try that right now. awesome, thanks 40daysfromnow :)
avatar

April 08, 2010

Ok: I'm already half way through day 2! Sometimes it seems really easy... I don't even think about picking at all. But I'm learning to recognize the problem times -- usually in the morning when I'm getting ready (in front of the mirror!) and at nite before I shower (also near a mirror). I guess there's almost always a mirror involved when I do the serious damage, so I'm trying not to spend much time in front of the mirror. Or, if I'm in the mirror and I'm tempted, I turn away immediately. I've also been trying to use different mirrors in my apartment instead of the bathroom one. I just think the change of surroundings might help break the habit. Other things I'm trying: wearing a watch to fiddle with; putting on eyeshadow so I feel like my face is pretty (thanks whoever suggested that!); telling my mom about the 40 days program; writing/thinking about how empowered I feel; using a new lotion that might help reduce my current scarring. Aaahh this is a crazy thing. It's just nuts to realize how picking was such a huge part of my day-to-day routine! Ok. Thanks everyone for the support and for existing as a community... I'm gonna do this!
avatar

April 09, 2010

it's great to hear you say "I'm gonna do this!" ... and that you're about done day 2 !! ... and that you're recognizing some of the triggers! ... and most of all that you're thinking less about it !! ... way to go! ... you might try candle light in your bathroom too .. some say that works good ... keep up the good work !! ... <3 <3 <3
avatar

April 09, 2010

wildflower, you are the ultimate supporter. thanks so much!
avatar

April 09, 2010

i just want to see you succeed. to see everyone that is truly making an effort to succeed. <3
avatar

April 09, 2010

i am under a lot of tension nowadays. my final exams are coming up and the studies are really tough(dental student final year :p). i need to concentrate on my studies but i find myself picking a lot of times. i even bite my lips and examine my hands is there any skin left to pick or not. i have been determined a lot of times. i skin pick especially while i am under tension and mental torture but i bite even when im bored.ive been making a lot of plans to quit but all in vain. i dont have any plans right now except for forcing myself not to do it. i even never thought of it as a big problem as my brother and cousin bite their skin too. i really really wanna get rid of it because i feel ashamed of showing anyone my hands. oh and btw i feel kinda relaxed that a lot of other people suffer from it too
avatar

April 09, 2010

it is comforting, indeed, to know you are not alone. and now that you're aware of that and are more knowledgeable about the condition perhaps you're ready to research the tactics that will help you be kind to your skin, rather than harmful regardless of what your brother and cousin do. maybe you can be an example to them. use gloves, lotions, the elastic band on the wrist, and simple better basic skin care principles for the sake of wanting healthier skin. some good guidelines are as follows --------->>>> CLEAN your skin – use a gentle cleanser nightly with warm water, not hot. Hot water dehydrates. Do a final rinse with cool water to close pores and calm inflammation. Do it lovingly -- BANDAGE open sores - keep bandages on as long as possible to allow healing. Bandages deter sores from being picked at and keep wounds moist and protected from contamination -- MOISTURIZE your skin - avoiding bandaged areas. Use gentle effective moisturizers such as olive oil, Cetaphyl, or Aveeno, etc. especially in dry climates and seasons -- SLEEP well - Get 7hrs + nightly on bedding cleaned weekly (consider fragrance hypoallergenic laundry detergent) -- CLEAN gently with warm water and cool rinse in the morning -- MOISTURIZE again. -- DO NOT PICK !!!– use what deterrents help: snapping an elastic on your wrist, wearing gloves, using only candle light in bathrooms, sitting on hands watching tv, driving with both hands on the wheel, bandages kept on sores under clothing, avoiding situations used previously, anything that helps -- take a MULTIVITAMIN -- DRINK LOTS OF WATER throughout the day -- EAT WELL – a good diet for skin includes whole grains, water, green tea, omega 3 fatty acids (salmon, walnuts, flax seeds, avocados), low fat yogurt, berries (esp blue berries), nuts (esp walnuts, almonds, cashews, brazil nuts, pistachios), cottage cheese, mangoes, whole grains, good oils (olive, safflower, canola), and carrots/sweet potatoes -- AVOID too much caffeine, alcohol, tobacco, sugar, and fried foods -- EXERCISE – take walks at minimum. It stimulates anti-depressant activity in the brain naturally -- AVOID STRESS/EMPLOY STRESS MANAGEMENT PROCEDURES – research this to see what you can do within your limitations. Seek help with this. It may be the underlying cause of CPD -- NETWORK with others that understand skin picking disorders. -- SUPPORT EACH OTHER – this is the best, to know we are not alone. -- RESEARCH relevant topics: wound healing, skin needs, picking disorders, stress management
avatar

April 09, 2010

thank you so much. i will try to act upon your advice. i really liked the idea of using bandages. i never looked at it as a habit breaker. well i have been taking caffeine and fried food a lot to help me stay alert while i am studying. but i do drink lots of water. i in fact thought i should take some time off (i needed a break). i was lying down and started picking so i thought i should google it and well here i am talking about something i am really ashamed off. but it feels so good to have someone to talk to. Thank you so much
avatar

April 09, 2010

you're very welcome. i hope those guidelines will really help you. The bandages are a great tool to let your sores heal. Remember, though, it is your mind and determination that is the habit breaker. Everything else is tools. You must be strong and keep the promise to yourself. you will feel better and better with each passing day and your skin will heal and look better and better. i hope you do well with your studies, too! keep posting!
avatar

April 14, 2010

this list is awesome... i'm going to try out some of this stuff. i like how you focus on comprehensive wellness... it's been a goal of mine for a while, but i might work on it even more if i know i'm helping myself stop pick :)
avatar

April 25, 2010

wildflower, you are so sweet to take the time to write all of this. i am sure it help others a whole lot, i know it is inspiring me. this is GREAT advise. i am so thankful to finally have joined a forum and support group with people who suffer from the same addiction. especially to have the support of people like you ;) ♥ we can do this everyone!!! ♥
avatar

April 25, 2010

thank you so much!! yes, i've taken a lot of time to write a lot of stuff here. like you, i'm trying to be inspiring and encourage a positive and hopeful atmosphere here because i don't believe we have to stay mired with this disorder and in negativity. i believe it is possible to beat it. we need to hear from each other positive messages to break away from our self harming behaviours and learn to think of ourselves as valuable and worthy of loving treatment, especially by our own hands. it's great that you have joined us with your enthusiasm. your support will be sure to be inspiring too. ....now however did you make those hearts?? ... askii codes? cut and paste? ♥ .... yes !! ... ♥♥♥ ... you "are" inspirational !! ... lol
avatar

April 13, 2010

ok! today is day three! success! the only problem is that i've stil been biting my fingernails, but i can only expect so much from myself, right? i haven't picked my face or chest or shoulders or back, which is usually where i have massive problems. one more week to day 10, and then i get to have my first substantial reward... i'm buying myself some new earrings :) i have a question for all you skin experts: what do you do about whiteheads/those pimples that just BEG to be squeezed? is there a way to make them go away quicker? that's where i struggle the most: when i know that the bump would go away if i popped it...
avatar

April 13, 2010

wonderful that you've made it to day 3 !! it's the first days that are the absolute hardest. feel proud !! .... just do some talking sense to yourself about switching habits, that is swapping a bad habit with another bad habit. be nice, but be firm and loving and understanding, tho :) ... try to find a good habit instead?? .... now those white heads? they can be really really tempting for sure. never in my life did one last more than 10 seconds once i discovered one! but in my 48 days now, i have actually seen them come and go! i can't believe i've seen the cycle! but i have. and they do run their course. it can take longer than 2 weeks to do so, though, depending upon where they are located. ones on my chin and each cheek have gone now probably via my washcloth, but one on the outside of one of my nostrils is still there !!! i will admit it is making me a bit crazy and i have tried to coax it off with my wash cloth but the skin there is tooooo tender. i was amazed how stubborn they can be but they will be sloughed off when they're ready and with nary a bit of evidence they've been there !!! and no blood or pain !! so i encourage you to bite a bullet and talk yourself out of making war with them and waiting them out. i used an enzyme treatment on sunday and when i rinsed it off one that had been stubborn left town finally but maybe it was just a coincidence. maybe it was just its time. another left today but i still have a couple elsewhere. thank good ness they are small, and white not black !! hang in there !! you can do it !! it is possible. <3 <3 <3
avatar

April 13, 2010

ok... i'm trying to just ride it out... it's just ridiculous how much i think about those 2 huge pimples on my face... you'd think i'd just be able to forget about them and go about my day! but i'm glad i'm not alone in this. i'm half way through day 4! yes! thanks for your encouragement, wildflower :)
avatar

April 13, 2010

keep up the good work! maybe bandage the pimples up when you're home alone and leave them bandaged over night?
avatar

April 14, 2010

that's a good idea... i never thought of putting bandages on my face. hmm... worth a try!
avatar

April 14, 2010

Okay so Im going to try for 30 days. Today is day #1. Id be glad if anyone else wants to join me!
avatar

April 15, 2010

I'm with you. my bad, i picked at the white head that was on the side of my nostril. what makes me crazy is when they hurt. this one started to hurt from my washcloth exfoliation and then i couldn't take it any longer and i just took the head off. i didn't do any further mining but i guess it still counts as picking even if it was only one. i have to come clean, so i will start with you on this 30 day challenge with today being day 1 and i'm doing good so far! :)
avatar

April 15, 2010

Great! So far so good for me too. I almost scratched at my back unconsciously today but stopped. I have to be honest, Im nervous about tonight.(sometimes I start to pick in a half-asleep state when my willpower isn't so strong). But Im keeping my fingers crossed. I think tomorrow I'll buy gloves. Good for you coming clean. I think we have to count those things, even if they are little, otherwise they add up. I'll check in tomorrow and update you on my progress. Congrats on day 1! Go us!! I know we can do it.
avatar

April 15, 2010

put bandages on anything that you "might" scratch at overnight !! :)
avatar

April 15, 2010

I'm working on day one starting now (right before I go to bed so I get 8 hours under my belt right off)! On Monday I decided that I wasn't going to wear foundation on my face anymore. I use it as an excuse to pick at night because I can just cover it up in the morning with makeup. So I suffered all day Monday, Tuesday and today. Honestly though, I think my face is clearing up. The question: is it because my makeup was causing me to break out or that I picked more knowing I could cover it up?...maybe a little of both. Also, I stopped drinking caffeine on Monday. Usually I drink my morning caffeine and begin picking with vigor. Caffeine causes me to have increased anxiety so I pick more. So I have been picking my face less...but have not completely stopped. Its progress not perfection with my addiction. Yea for Day One!
avatar

April 15, 2010

good for you! I think its both. Knowing I can cover it up definitely doesnt help me. I've realized I cant drink coffee either. I used to drink a tooon of it and it only increased my anxiety and picking. Not drinking it keeps me more balanced, less crashing and getting anxious. Im going to stay away from it today for sure. Woo hoo for day 2! So far Im still going. Oh, one tip for people with Iphones, try setting the stopwatch. If you pick you dont have to reset it even, you can "lap" yourself. Sometimes when I want to pick I look at the clock. Watching the seconds tick away is a good motivator :)

Pages